Another passage describes the afternoon right after their wedding, before the evening reception:

Hyo Jin insisted we have sex. I begged him to wait until the night - True Parents expected us to be ready to leave within the hour - but he would not be put off. I did not want to be naked in front of him. I slipped into bed to remove my clothes, a practice I would continue for the next 14 years. I had read the books my mother gave me, but I was totally unprepared for the shock of sexual intercourse. When Hyo Jin got on top of me, I did not know what to expect. He was very rough, excited at the prospect of deflowering a virgin. He told me what to do, what to touch. I just followed his directions. When he entered me, it was all I could do not to cry out in pain. It did not take very long for him to finish, but for hours afterwards, my insides burned with pain. "So this is what sex is," I kept thinking.

I began to cry, from pain, from exhaustion, from shame. I felt we were wrong not to wait. Hyo Jin kept trying to shush me. Didn't I enjoy it? he wanted to know. It was very "ouchy", I told him, using a little girl's word for a woman's pain. He said he'd never heard that reaction before, confirming all the rumors I had heard in Korea. Hyo Jin had had many lovers. I was shocked and hurt that he would confess his sin in such a callous and cavalier manner. I wept even harder, until his sharp tone and angry rebuke forced me to dry my tears. At least I now knew what sex was and who my husband was. It was horrible; he was no better. -pp.88-89