~PEER HELPERS TALK ABOUT "KEEPING YOURSELF SAFE"~





SOMEONE CALLS AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE HOME

Be polite, tell the truth, if it is safe to do so, and then hang up the phone.
BUT Never admit that you are alone.

CALLER: "Hello, is Joe there?"
YOU: "Joe doesn't live here."
CALLER: "Well, will you give Joe a message for me when he comes in? Tell him June called."
YOU: "I am sorry, you have called the wrong number -- Good-bye."




SOMEONE AT SCHOOL ANNOYS YOU


THEY KEEP TALKING TO YOU EVEN WHEN YOU TELL THEM YOU DO NOT WISH TO TALK.

1.)Ignore what they are saying and hope they stop.
or
2.)YOU SAY: "I feel kind of annoyed when I am in line and I would like you to wait until we are at the table."
or YOU SAY: "I would rather wait until we are sitting at the table to talk about that.



ARGUING

"RE-DO"

The Peer Helpers recommend a technique they created called, "Re-DO". *Ask the other person if he/she is willing to go back to what the two of you were first talking about and start the discussion over. Say, "RE-DO", and start again.

FIGHTS OVER GAMES ON THE PLAYGROUND


* Agree before you start to play the game that as soon as you disagree you will start the game or the play over (such as in Four Square, Touch Football and Recess Basketball). Say, "RE-DO", and start again.






GOSSIPPING

*Agree with what you can see that is true...and ignore the rest. This technique our counselor calls, "FINDING THE TRUTH IN EVERY STATEMENT".
Example: A friend asks you if you saw the dumb outfit that someone else was wearing today.
You could say: "She does look better in that green shirt she wears with the teddy bears on it."
*State your wish not to gossip.
You say: "I am sorry but I do not talk about other people when they are not here."
or
You say: "I feel bad when we start to talk about another friend and I won't do it."
The last two statements are also examples of using
"I MESSAGES".
When you put your own opinion first instead of pointing your finger and telling what the other person does that you don't like, you will not make the other person defensive and will keep your friend.








WE HOPE THAT OUR ADVICE WILL HELP YOU TO AVOID VIOLENCE AND KEEP YOURSELF SAFE. YOU CAN WRITE ANY ADDITIONAL IDEAS YOU MAY HAVE TO OUR PEER HELPERS OR PROBLEMS YOU WANT US TO SOLVE. OUR ONLINE EMAIL ADDRESS IS:
jhammy_2000@yahoo.com





We wrote a page to let you know a little about our training the beginning of the school year. Most of us were new Peer Helpers so we reviewed all of the letters of the former peer helpers and role-played how we would solve the same problems.
We really learned a lot from the
"OLD" Peer Helpers!!!
Read about our training HERE.








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