Trust Ek yn it Frysk
Better a thousand times cheated than once loosing confidence. Back to: english.htm

As a nineteen year old peasant-boy, I found a new job in a big industrial town. I was already cheated by town people, so I was a bit suspicious. My new collegues loved practical jokes and in the beginning, I myself often was a subject of such a joke. But they never were mean and I learned to laugh about myself. These were positive surroundings with chiefly young people, loving to be specialists growing into the new world of electronics.

Later on arriving in other surroundings were the social climate was worse, armed by my former experience, I pretty soon recognized jokes that were meant to harm people and I succeeded in staying out of that atmosphere. So I could maintain my trust in people worth to be trusted. But afterwards I several times observed good people loosing all confidence, which lead to their downfall.

There is a strange phenomenon, that someone will rather cheat you when you mistrust him than when you don't. That is what makes pessimism about people always coming true. And optimism too. Now the important thing is, that we are so dependent on our fellow (wo)men, not only for material assistance but still more for emotional acknowledgement. Usually it is a very positive experience when someone says she/he likes you or your work. On the other hand, rejection gives a negative feeling, but the worst is neglection.

Disappointed people tend to isolate themselves from society and they will be neglected by those they neglect. In the long run this can become unbearable. So always give new people in your surroundings the benefit of the doubt. Usually you will be rewarded automatically. PK


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