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Case File:  KLH-1975                                                                           September, 1999
The Story:

She was a beautiful secretary working at the local emergency room. Her hair was red and she always had this look in her eyes like she could see right to your soul. I asked her out on a date in October to go see a few haunted houses, after a brief shouting match with local pro choice protesters, I knew she was full of life and vigor. She always was there helping people, her interest and love for life was intoxicating. She could light up any room.

We dated for a few months until she left for Nashville. We continued to date long distance because of her plans to return to Colorado after school was out. Many large phone bills later and my airline trip out there, she returned back home. The brief six months away from home took a hugh toll on her. Depression, Anger, Alcohol. She was a different woman than the one I fell in love with. Despite the drastic change, I still wanted to help her.

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Two weeks after returning she had the "We need to talk" conversation. After all I had given her, she told me "We are going in a straight line, our paths don't cross."

With that statement and the rest of my beer at the local bar, we said goodbye. She wanted a goodbye hug, being so angry and hurt I gave her a handshake instead. It took me months to realize that what she really meant to say was "I don't love you"

I never stopped loving her and wanting to "rescue" her from her problems. This was over two years ago and I am now finally ridding myself of this emotional baggage.

 
What Was Learned:
  • You can't rescue people from their problems
  • Don't date a depressed, suicidal, alcoholic on zoloft
  • Venting your feelings here if your relationship is over, it feels good
  • Redheads in general are dangerous

 
Final Say:

Karen, I hope you find what your looking for in life and fall in love with somebody who loves you as much as I did. I am never going to look back again.

 


The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me

The Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can, and

Wisdom to know the difference.

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