†Ethan's House†
Our Angel.....
Andrew
November 28, 1992 to April 14, 1994
Andrew came to us through Adoption at the age of ten days old,with a heart defect. Both he and his birth mother, whom we continued a relationship with, were a joy to our family.Andrew passed away after open heart surgery due to complications.
It has very much left a void in our lives; we miss him so much. Having lost another child at 3 days old(Adam) in 1981 we knew what to expect,but somehow this felt worse. Adam never came home from the hospital and Andew had been home almost 2 yrs. while no loss is ever easy,we had so many things we missed about Andrew.
Today we seem to be able to help those with similar loses, somehow by helping others, though it brings back the pain, it helps us deal with our loss. You "never get over it" but you do learn to adjust.Time does help ease some of the pain.
Today we are doing better and choose to remember his life as a gift to us. It was difficult for all of the family, but especially our then four year old daughter, Abby. Abby and Andrew were great buddies and even today she'll mention him. As a family we talk openly and freely allowing each to grieve in their own way. Every person has their way of grieving; there are no set"rules" on how one must grieve. It definately drew our familt closer together. We celebrate the dates and events of his life because we want to always celebrate his life!(we do this with Adam also). We often talk about him or ocassionally watch a video of him as we have no desire to "forget" but rather be glad for the time we had together! We also are thankful for our faith which gives us the assurance that both Andrew and Adam are in heaven and we will be reunited someday!
Recently we had a family portrait done and all agreed it would not be the same if Andrew were not in it,so we took the 8x10 of him and it sat in my lap for the picture; we could not do this for Adam as there are no pictures. This was our way of saying that allthough Andrew is not here with us he's still very much a part of our lives and we always want to hold on to our memories.
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