['Aalim Network QR] Muta'h - Cultural stigmas

[workshop@dircon.co.uk (Ummulbanin)]

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Assalamu 'Alaykum
The following questions were kindly answered by Dr. Takim

Salaams
Ummulbanin Merali - Acting Moderator - 'Aalim Network
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Question:
I feel that there is a cultural stigma against a married man engaging in 
mutah.  People always envision a wife working hard at home to raise the 
kids while the husband is out playing with his mutah.  
Now, if he is as fair as he can be with regards to time, money, etc., spent
with all of his wives, is there any harm in a married man engaging in mutah
for whatever reason, be it pleasure or otherwise?  
Also, is there any harm in him having multiple mutahs, for pleasure or
otherwise, if he is still as fair as he can be with regards to time and
money, etc.?  Or, is he wrong to engage in mutah if he is married in some cases?
Also, if a wife is jealous of her husband being involved with these mutahs
which are perhaps for his pleasure but he is trying to be fair in time,
etc., is she sinning in that jealousy?


Answer:
It is important to note that it is very difficult if not impossible to be
fair and just to both wives in a polygamous marriage, whether it be
permanent or temporary. Some ulama have told me that in their opinion, a man
who is happily married with children should not perform the mut'a for fun
especially as this will probably affect his married life, it will create
tension in his marriage and could possibly lead to a divorce.

As for having multiple mut'ahs, apart from the fact that it is impossible to
be just to all parties in such circumstances, there is a real possibility of
cathing or spreading diseases especially in modern times. Why should a
dedicated wife who is bringing up her children be exposed to such treatment?
Indeed, it is but natural for a woman to feel jealous and aggrieved under
such circuimstances.


May Allah guide us all, Amin.

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