~*Love*~
Well, ladies and gentlemen, it's been almost 2 years since I've written something effective, informative and worth reading in this wonderful thoughtroom. Two years is a long time. I'm now in college, living on my own, and still just as disgruntled with this planet Earth that we affectionately call home.
I've tackled a lot of issues, most of them current events and very pertinent to our lives today. But, alas, I haven't written one thing about timeless issues. You know, things that will never change, that are just as confusing as they were in the beginning and will always be... like life, morality, and why in the hell potato chips get stuck in those vender machines and you have to look like a jackass and tip the damn things to try and get them out.
Okay, so maybe not so much the last one. But of course, the most important timeless issue of all time must be LOVE.
L~O~V~E....A dirty word to some, the only thing most of us live for and the most annoyingly complicated thing on this universe. More powerful than a hurricane, more damaging than hate, and more terrifying than fear itself. Love can cause the most satisfying feelings in the entire world, and can also tear every fiber of your being down to the ground to the point that you've nothing to live for. In fact, a majority of suicide attempts stem not from financial troubles or feelings of inadequecy, but rather because of a broken heart.
Love, however, has NOTHING to do with looks. Attraction is just a piece of tackle, used to "lure us in". I believe wholly in attraction at first sight. But love at first sight? I think Matt Damon is one of the sexiest men alive (as well as, suprisingly enough, Sean Connery) however, do I love him? No. I've only SEEN him. I couldn't love him unless I met him, talked to him, kidnapped him and taken him to Mexico, forcing him to be my adoring slave for all eternity.....
Alright.... got a little carried away there.
Back to the task at hand. Sure, there can sometimes be a feeling in your gut when you see someone from across a room, a voice that says,"If you don't go and talk to that person RIGHT NOW you will always regret it." However, I attribute this to intuition. Love is much deeper. Intuition knows what you have in store for you, and if it feels like you're missing out, it'll tell you so. However, this can't be love until you actually MEET the person. You must first hear their voice, look into their eyes as they speak, walk around inside their thoughts before you can love them. Love at first date... maybe. Love at first sight? Never.
Once we've been attracted by that shiny, flashy piece of tackle, and the other person has snagged us firmly with the hook, comes the relationship. And also arises the question: Is there only one single soulmate out there for each of us? Are we doomed to tred upon the earth as outcasts, as marked people, as Cain himself, if we lose that person? Or if we let that person get away? What happens if that shiny, flashy lure we used to hook our catch falls out and they swim off? Does that mean what we felt wasn't real? No, my dear. I believe in soulmates. I beleive that most people never find a soulmate. (Which may account as to why the divorce rate is currently 60% in this country). However, I don't believe that there is JUST ONE SINGLE PERSON ON THIS ENTIRE EARTH for everyone. See, there's a logistics problem.... if your soulmate is determined the moment you're born, what happens to the poor soul who lost their soulmate to SIDS? Or childhood disease? Or car accidents? Or anything? Are they doomed to be lonely, or maybe not lonley but unhappy? No. Have you ever seen the children's game concentration? Where you put on a timer, and try desperately to put the right symbol in it's coresponding whole (i.e. square block in a square hole) before the timer goes off and tosses all your blocks out? I don't believe that soulmates are like that. They are not set in stone, they are not puzzle pieces. I think we have a certain pattern to us... and many people fit that pattern. But many people do not. And some people start off fitting that pattern, but then something suddenly changes and they don't fit anymore. And that, my friend, is a tragedy. However, it's not one that can't be fixed. People change. Things change. Thankfully, eventually, we're ready to look once again for the person that fits our pattern. And then we throw out that lure and get ready for the bite.
At least that's how I see it.
~*Feisty Charli*~
April 12, 2001