Freethinker Social Clubs
Introduction
2. Starting you own Freethinking Social Group
The type of freethinker's social group detailed below is focused on the individual and is not a philosophically dedicated group.
It's aim is to question people's existing beliefs about things, hopefully resulting in an exciting and fun meeting. As a result people should be encouraged to volunteer topics in which are controversial to group members.
Freethinking Social Groups
A Freethinking social group is non-religious (not faith based), non-political and non-profit. People who enjoy discussing their views and making genuine friendships.
The objectives of the group are to;
- promote conversation;
- develop freethinking, the questioning mind and a more open-minded disposition;
- encourage genuine friendships amongst group members;
- increase membership.
By hearing a variety of views on a topic, a better informed, more balanced opinion results.
The formula is simple, and has no hidden agenda.
How the Freethinking Movement Affects Society
It transforms cultures; promotes goodwill and encourages people to think independently, without the need for faith in a particular religion. People form their own opinions on topics through a free and open discussion with others, reducing the power of influential individuals/organizations/media. It thus improves the quality of governments, the laws they enact and the well being of society as a whole.
There is no underlying religious/political agenda - the aim is not to come to an agreed position on the topics in particular, but to encourage the interaction amongst members.
There is a theme of freedom of thought, honesty, democracy, and equality.
It's a great feeling to have people actively listen to what you have to say. People with strongly held, unchallenged views, will find it thought provoking.
After the meeting, some may like socialize at a local coffee shop or member's home.
So why not start-up a group yourself, and be part of the new millennium in thinking.
How to Start Up a Group
The most effective way of recruiting new members is through the friends and associates of people who already attend. But first you need to get a group of members, and have a friendly atmosphere established, which takes time. So at the start you'll most probably need to advertise in the newspaper etc.
Click here to download a sample mailer (photocopy reduced to fit two per sheet of paper, and cut in half).
Below is an advertisement describing how the group runs - you can use it/modify it to suite your needs.
Since the concept involves talking on any topic, if a group of individuals is misunderstood to a large extent by the general population, I've found that it's best to start a separate group (e.g. a gay or lesbian Freethinker's group).
Advertising
- Place an ad in a news paper that is well read by your target audience (e.g.. the local paper or a gay paper). You could choose form these or make up your own:
Make new friends at Freethinkers, a non-religious, non-profit movement for people who enjoy discussing their views and making genuine friendships. Phone John 98765-4321.
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Improve your conversation skills - come along to Freethinkers, a non-religious, non-profit social group for people who enjoy discussing their views and making genuine friendships. Phone John 98765-4321.
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or make it funny;
Do Jocks have smelly socks? Then again, who cares? - have some fun at Freethinkers, a non-religious, non-profit social group for people who enjoy discussing their views and making genuine friendships. Phone John 98765-4321.
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or make it controversial;
Get Stimulated, come along to Freethinkers, a non-religious, non-profit social group for people who enjoy stimulating conversations and making genuine friendships. Phone John 98765-4321.
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Do you enjoy flexing your brain muscle and sharing your thoughts with others? Then come to Liberty Valley Freethinkers', a non-religious, non-profit social group. 7.30-9.30pm every Monday at the Community Hall, 23 Freedom St, Liberty Valley. cost $2. Ph John 98765-4321
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Alternatively you could hand out flyers during the morning peak hour at your local train station, bus stop or insert into mail boxes.
FLYER - Single A5 sheet
Get Stimulated at Freethinkers
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Looking for some stimulating conversation? Interested in meeting like-minded people? Well come and join in the fun at Freethinkers, a non-religious, non-profit social group.
The groups objectives are to:
- Encourage freethinking, the questioning mind and an open-minded disposition.
- Promote genuine friendships and goodwill.
- Increase membership.
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A typical meeting starts with a short introduction, then topic questions are handed out (to promote debate), and the discussion starts. The topics are chosen by consensus the previous week. At that time someone also volunteers to write approx. six questions on the chosen topic and make copies. The topic might be about love, parents, recent news events - anything at all. After a short introduction by the question writer, we break up into groups of 4-6, and, and together with a facilitator, the topic is discussed.
The group facilitator’s job is to:
- keep people more or less on topic.
- discourage conversation stoppers, e.g. statements like "I think..." or "Only a fool would think....".
- promote goodwill between members (e.g. no personal attacks).
- give less vocal members an opportunity to express their views.
There is a theme of freedom of thought, honesty, democracy, and equality.
It's a great feeling to have people actively listen to what you have to say. You’ll find the views of others interesting and thought-provoking.
Some of the topics that we’ve discussed so far include; .......
What topic would you like to discuss?
Come along and join in the fun at Freethinkers.
Where: .....................
When: ......................
Cost: $2.00 to cover tea, coffee, biscuits and ongoing advertising.
Website: for more information see www.geocities.com/think_a_lot/thinkers.htmd
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- When people ring you about the ad it's important to tell them that;
- it's not a 'singles group', although relationships may eventuate.
- it will take a few weeks for people to get comfortable discussing their opinions.
Write down their name and phone number.
Don't reject people just because they are rejected by society. Some of these people may prove to be you most loyal members.
- When you've got enough names (say 15) go about finding a venue - preferably free of charge (e.g. a local community hall, Scout hall or school classroom). You'll have to charge more than $2.00 otherwise, to cover the hall hire costs.
- Contact all those on the list (expect about 75% to turn up). Inform them of the location, time and day the weekly meetings will be held.
- At the first meeting;
- Briefly introduce the objectives of the group (conversation, freethinking, friendship, increased membership).
- Pass around name tags (e.g. blank stickers and a marking pen), so people will feel more comfortable introducing themselves (continue to do this for every meeting).
- At the first meeting you can get everyone to find someone they don't know and find out a bit about that person. After about 10 minutes get them to introduce the other person to the group. It's a great way of 'breaking the ice'.
- Ask if anyone has a topic they would like to discuss. Then work out which of those topics is of the greatest interest to the group, and discuss it! Remember to ask the people who haven't spoken their opinion (else they mightn't come back next time).
- It's best not to split the group up into groups of 3-5 people in the first week, because people will be shy, and it will take a while for most people to air their views (split them up the following week).
- Have a 15 minute coffee break mid-way through the meeting. You'll hopefully find everyone chatting away - a good sign that friendships are forming. Supply quality food/biscuits tea and coffee from your group's savings (give the receipts to your treasurer). This will add to the positive experience you're trying to foster.
- You could add other activities to your meeting to make add to the positive experience; personal development workshops, singing etc. (although you'll need increase the duration of the meeting, as you'll need to set aside about 2 hours to discuss a topic). Your group could also keep in contact with local non-religious social events; anyone interested in attending will then have the company of their freethinking friends.
- About 10 minutes before the end of the meeting, you can bring everyone together and have facilitators tell the group of the main conclusions reached by their sub-group. Then ask if anyone has a topic for the following week. Get someone to prepare 6 questions on the topic and photocopy them to cover the expected number you expect to turn up (you might need to do this yourself for the first month or so, until people get comfortable). If you end up with no-one wanting to contribute like this; leave some spare time at the end of the meeting, and get people to volunteer 6 questions, so you (or someone else) can print them up for the following week. Your long term aim should be for everyone to share the duties of the group, rather than a few doing all the work. People will feel empowered as a result.
I've also found it wise to acknowledge the person who put the questions together at the end of the night, as they have contributed more effort than the others in the group. A thank you clap from the group seems to create a positive conclusion to the night, leaving participant uplifted as they face the week that follows.
- Re-advertise your club with any extra cash you gain as proceeds from the group (newspaper ads, flyers, posters etc.). Try and get a newspaper to write an editorial on your group. Remember to keep all receipts and write down how you have spent the money, for all to see at the next meeting. This will reduce negative thinking; negative thinking can destroy your group. Encourage people to express positive views on things.
- The group may like to rotate the person used as a contact in your ads.
- Try and get everyone to be involved in writing questions and facilitating groups. Spread the duties around, don't load yourself up with all the responsibilities; try and move people from thinking it's 'your' group, it's owned by the members that attend; it's owned by everyone (although you are the founder, and you'll need to focus on keeping the group on track for a while). If people think you 'own' the group, they may stop coming should they not like your personality. Also, by getting everyone involved in writing questions etc. they become more loyal and have a vested interest in it's success. So rather than play politics, avoid the spotlight of attention unless you need to clear up issues etc..
Some of the benefits people (including yourself) will gain by getting actively involved include an more open-minded disposition, friendship, personal development, confidence, improved conversation and public speaking skills. The more benefits a person gets from attending, the more likely they'll keep coming (although you might need to encourage shy people to gradually get actively involved). Over a month or so you'll realize that people are changing, they'll be growing, and getting more comfortable with the idea of questioning people's opinions - an friendly, non-dogmatic, open-minded sub-culture is developing, which, over time, you might realize is very different from the outside world. It can get quite addictive, after a few months you'll hopefully get a core of members who will be anxious not to miss a week.
- Since the person who volunteered to write the questions the previous week has already thought through the topic, it's ideal for him/her to lead one of the groups. The question sheet is useful as it helps people stay focused, especially in the groups that aren't lead by the author of the questions.
- Train a few of the regular members on how to run the group, in case you are sick or can't make it one week.
At first there will no doubt be some power struggles, as people who attend that have a variety of histories and beliefs. Its important to keep the group focused on the four objectives (communication, freethinking, goodwill and increased membership). Here are some issues that you and your facilitators should watch out for and sensitively address, to ensure a genuine, friendly culture grows;
- Statements, e.g. "I believe..." or "I think...". These make it uncomfortable for others to debate their views and stifle conversation.
- Personal attacks, e.g. "don't be so naive".
- Dismissive comments, e.g. "your not qualified to make such comments".
- Statements who’s aim is to attack the credibility of another, e.g. "Only an idiot would consider the earth to be round".
- Judgmental attitudes, e.g. "how could you do such a thing!".
- Dictators: The group needs to be as 'flat' as possible. No-one is to be considered as a guru, everyone's opinions should be open to questioning (it can be a humbling experience for some). Your role is to cultivate a freethinking, friendly culture, not to dictate what the 'right' thing is that people should think. Everyone should be encouraged to ask "why?". With this in mind I'd like to mention a few things to watch for;
- People quoting texts or authors (don't take the quote as truth, encourage people to draw on personal experience where possible); wisdom comes from understanding concepts, not memorizing texts.
- People who speak with a dominating, hostile tone. Ensure someone questions them, so their belief of unquestioned superiority is challenged.
- People who try an intimidate or patronize others; they can push positive thinkers out of the group. Challenge them, defend the person under attack, if they aren't confident enough to defend themselves. You might like to speak with both the bully and the victim separately after the meeting. The bully must be pulled into line!
- People who hold fast to their beliefs, despite their flawed/superficial foundation; they aren't freethinkers.
Remember people get involved in things that they get something out of. So a positive atmosphere is essential, else only a few assertive people will speak, others will loose interest in the group, and in the longer term membership will reduce or other regulars will become bitter.
A heated discussion who's aim is to find truth is welcome, but some people may consider their ego more important than the pursuit of truth. Over time, hopefully they will give up such a short-sighted ambition.
You'll find that people with the above traits, unless they come to a personal realization, won't keep coming to your group. Some may only come so they can 'teach' others of their wisdom. Once they've got their message of their chest, they'll stop coming. So don't expect to everyone to become regular members. But over time a good core of true open-minded, friendly 'freethinkers' will emerge - and then you'll reap the benefits of all your effort.
If you detect incorrect beliefs in the group, why not suggest making a topic reflect the issue. Good intentions on your behalf are important, else people will feel they are being bullied. Topics you might consider nominating;
- "goodwill, is it fashionable?"
- "gossip, is it good or bad?"
- "power, is it a friend or foe?"
- "why are people less social in the 21 century?"
- "are we victims of society?"
- "is a person's bloodline/class a reflection of their abilities?"
- "is a person's freedom handicapped by their bloodline/class?"
Remember, people will only return if they gain something positive from attending the group. Promote positive thinking whenever you can. People will only talk if they feel they will get some psychological benefit, so watch out for negative thinking people, don’t let them get away with nasty/insensitive comments. As you can see it is very important to be honest and up-front, and always on guard for negative influences. Over time goodwill will prevail, but you need to get some positive thinking regulars first. Some new members may be negative thinking at the start, so the group needs to be on guard to protect the culture of goodwill that is essential for it’s success.
People’s beliefs are put to the test in a discussion group setting. Some people may have concluded through their life experiences that no one cares for them, that everyone is pretending to be nice etc.. When such a person is involved in a small group discussion, it is to be expected that they will attack other positive group members. Now it isn’t a therapy group, however, for it to succeed you’ll need it to be full of goodwill and positive thinking. So you (and your supporters) will need to deal with various negative thinking people - eventually they will either be more positive thinking or they will leave the group. Either way, you’ll need to minimize the damage they will unwittingly do in the mean-time.
Safe Conversations: Share, Check, Share
When we are in a group of strangers, we will tend to be a bit cautious in expressing our opinion, and even more wary of revealing personal feelings/experiences. This is because we would be leaving ourselves open to attack/rejection. People can reduce their exposure to attack by objectifying their personal experiences, or making generalizations. This is not a bad thing. We should share something, check to see how people react, then if positive, share some more. It also important for others to share to a similar level, so they don't have power over us. This allows us to express ourselves and gain acceptance in relative safety. Over time you’ll see the regular attendees changing, and maybe you (and others) will feel supported and more comfortable expressing more of your thoughts and feelings in a more personalized form. After a while you’ll see that everyone is so keen to talk you’ll find it hard getting them to join in the coffee break or final discussion - this is a good indication the group is working; its successfully promoting conversation.
Keep it Low Maintenance
You may be the founder of the group, but as you can see you will not have a status much higher than anyone else. It is wise to keep your and everyone else's duties to a minimum, to avoid 'burn-out'. In modern society, everyone seems to be short of time, so maximize the benefit you and others get out of it and minimize the labor required (make it efficient). Resist creating jobs for people (including yourself), else bitterness within the core of your group may result. If someone is keen for the group to do something, suggest they do it, don't take on too many responsibilities.
Be Part of the Freethinking Revolution
You mightn’t realize it, but by running a successful freethinking group, you will be part of a revolution. A movement that started in ancient Greece around 400BC, and was revived around 300 years ago when philosophers challenged the idea that people should blindly follow gurus and books written by respected authors (e.g. the Bible, Aristotle etc.) - the American Declaration of Independence was a product of this "Age of Reason", and democracy became a popular form of government as a result. Unfortunately, things went quiet on the freethinking front once the French Revolution took place 1789-99. Mainly because people associated freethinking philosophers with the mass executions and ongoing wars that dominated the period. The freethinking philosophers spread the news of what was really going on behind the scenes; previously the spread of information was heavily censored.
The battles and executions that occurred during the French Revolution were a result of the struggle for power, between those that had benefited by oppressing the masses and the new order of democracy and equality which was emerging.
Freethinking opposes the abuse of power - a freethinker will seek out objective reasoning to find a truth/solution, whereas an abuser will fight the expression of logical thinking, and will try to silence reasoning using physical violence or through other means (whether the person is rich or poor). The Statue of Liberty in New York, USA is symbolic of the triumph of liberty over tyranny.
Since freethinking by nature pursues truths and exposes deceit, it improves the performance of democratically elected governments. By promoting freethinking throughout the world, a more stable, healthier and happier population will result.
We now have a chance to re-establish freethinking as the driving force in pursuit of freedom and human happiness. But not just amongst the elite, as was the case prior to the French Revolution, but for everyone.
You may be a fellow leader in this new era, were people discuss issues objectively in community halls around the world and as a result lobby governments to make decisions based on reason, rather than ego, politics and greed. Democracy works best when citizens are informed and come to reasoned based judgements.
Will you be part of this new era?
Well, it's up to you now, best of luck with your Freethinking social group. If all goes well, why not start up another nearby?
Over time, the community will get excited by the friendly culture that you've help establish without the need of any common religious faith and everyone will get involved.
Have fun!
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A handy reference book for promoting goodwill in your group(s) is "Making Friends" by Andrew Matthews, Media Masters 1990-1994.
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