The Art of Sensuality

How to be a sensual woman.

Each and every woman has the power of being sensual, erotic and desirable. But do you exploit this power? Yes, I do call it a power, since it is the power to communicate how we are and feel from within with that one special man in our lives.

We are raised believing that our job as a woman, or one of them, is to only satisfy our mate sexually; I must say that this is one of the jobs, but satisfying a mans mind is far more complicated and challenging.

In this world, and in our modern society, sex is easy to find and adquire; no matter what. There was a time that it might have been a comodity, but now it is almost meaningless. So in order to make it worth, you must be able to arouse your mate mentally. This is the first step to a happy sensual/sexual relantionship.

Many women give up being women after childbaring, a big mistake. You must always remember that we are women first, lovers second, mothers third. And I am not suggesting by any means to place more importance to one versus the other, quite the contrary. Each and everyone is worth the same, simply in different ways.

Look around you when you go out. How many women actually look radiant, happy and at ease with themselves? Are you? We cannot let go of our woman hood simply because we are tired, or because we have had a child or because we are depressed! To be sensual you must be able to love your persona as a woman, and be happy to be one, and understand that a man needs to have a woman that cares for herself, so she can care for him as well.

Sensuality is the quality of feeling good with one self. To know that you are able to send a message to your guy from accross the room by simply smiling and looking at him in a certain manner. Men want to feel excitement, and they want to feel aroused, but it has to start with the mind. It doesn't mean you must be like a waffer model, no, it means that you care for your figure enough to keep it nice and lean. That you don't use the children as an excuse for overweightness. How many times have you heard a mother to be say: "I'm eating for two"! This is an excuse to over eat.

We must have more control over our body's desires and care more for our mental ones. Each and every woman wants to have her man at her feet, loving her and showing her she is the most important thing in life. But don't expect this unless you do it yourself.

I realize that a lot of men don't care for themselves, but they have been taught that they should care for us and their families and nothing else. Therefore making it hard for them to understand that they too should be proud enough to maintain their bodies nice and in shape for their own self esteem. But we women, we are supose to be able to accomplish it all. From lover, to mother, to parent of your own children, to house keeper, and you name it, we could continue.

But I trully believe that men would give up some of these requirements, if we could trully be sensual and sexual in a loving, caring and satisfying way. Men do need variety, but it doesn't mean that it is with other women. It means that their women are not affraid of trying new things, that they will be ingineous enough to keep their minds going. One must be sensual to the point of sexual frenzy, then back.

It is iqually important to be able to communicate with them, as far as what we think or feel. They are not mind readers and don't expect them to take the time to look, they are in a rush to make it. Make it where? To financial security. It is up to us to keep the spice in our relantionship. Wheather it is with a new naughty lingerie or platform high heels, a dress with no underclothes. Try taking the kids to a sitter for these special times. Even parents need their privacy.

Don't let society control your emotions either. We only have to make ourselves happy, no one else. If you feel good one way and you are accepted by your male, then stay that way. Take control of your own emotions and understand that a sensual woman is a comodity. That sensual women are not a dime a dozen, that they are beautiful, radiant, secure woman, and with a smile can dazzle her man.