Natural Family Planning (NFP) is
the theory that if a couple observes the natural rhythm of a woman's cycle
and refrains from physical relations during her "fertile"
period, they can avoid producing a child. This method is called natural
only because no artificial (unnatural) means are employed at
the time of intercourse to prevent conception. However in actuality, NFP
is anything but "natural."
Married couples know well enough
what is natural and what is not. But for more than fifty years the members
of the Catholic Hierarchy seem not to have had anyone speak to them about
the natural reproductive cycle of woman-and they have been dealing with
NFP which relates so closely to it! This cycle affects her emotionally as
well as physiologically. Indeed, it is exactly during her fertile period
that she often requires the comfort of her husband, and most desires his
affection and embrace. Surely we see God's obvious intention behind this.
It was probably as a teenager
that I received my first inkling regarding the special times of the female
cycle. A hairdresser explained to me that a woman's best
"permanent" results during the fertile period when all the oils
and glands of the body are in harmony Evidence of this can be seen by the
complexion, sweetness, and beauty of many wives during this time, and
their desire to be loved by their husbands then. About the mood which
follows this one, however, I'm sure many men have had plenty to say!
("What has happened to that sweet, agreeable disposition? Those
shining, smiling eyes? That willingness to be cuddled? That ability to
handle little Johnny's problem with the same ease as last week? Why do you
hate me now when before I was the greatest?")
Most teachers of NFP have not
given the complete impact of family planning much thought, and people are
asked to come to meetings about it "to learn that NFP is within God's
natural order of creation." From my own experience, and from the true
spirit of the Church on the matter, I know that this is very bad. For
married couples are supposed to give as little thought as possible to the
worries of probable conception or not, and leave the family planning
totally to God. As any childless couple can tell you, if He does not want
you to conceive, it just does not happen.
Man is different from animal
because man has an immortal soul-it will never die. The attributes of that
soul are intellect and free will. When God created the
world, He established a natural order of things and embedded in all
animate nature a rhythm of pulse. At the time of creation, God placed man
over both animate and inanimate creatures. But although mankind is put in
this superior position, God still set very definite boundaries which man
is not to violate: The Ten Commandments, and the laws He gives us through
His Church. Yet even before these laws existed, there was His Natural Law.
Written in the heart of every man, it also is not to be broken - for He is
God the all - knowing Creator, and man is but His creature.
Now, with the teaching of NFP, we
take the perfection of our reproductive powers (the cycle of fertility and
infertility) and through one of the attributes of our soul (the
intellect), we reason that if we use this nature in reverse, we can
produce a negative effect. Or rather, we can prevent a positive one. Our
intellect presents a scheme which tells us we can have the pleasure of the
act of reproduction while avoiding the responsibility of it. At this point
the other spiritual faculty (the will) comes into play: We can accept this
scheme or reject it. Now to one who professes faith in an all-knowing God,
what basis is used to justify adherence to such a thing? For by using NFP
we reverse God's order and nature's rhythms, satisfy our physical needs to
some extent, and attempt to avoid the responsibility of child bearing and
rearing. Maybe we are feeling inadequate or unwilling to bear that
responsibility or maybe we are inclined to imagine our burden too heavy.
Therefore, we perhaps assume the right to do something to keep these
things from getting worse and beyond our control.
Rather, we must go to Christ's
words-and they say we are either with God or else we are against Him (Lk.
11:23). Jesus says, "Come to Me, all you that labor and are
burdened, and I will refresh you" (Mt. 11:28). In other words,
"Trust in Me to find a way for you; trust Me to supply for your
inadequacies; I made you, I called you to this work, I understand and will
help you; I will make your burden easy and your yoke light, if you strive
to serve Me as you ought in this state of matrimony to which I assigned
you and to which you have agreed. If you please Me while you work out this
vocation, it will earn you Heaven. And I will always do My part-if you do
yours."
Regarding the philosophy we must
use as our approach to life, Jesus says as well, "Seek ye therefore
first the kingdom of God, and His justice, and all these things shall be
added unto you" (Mt. 6:33). If we do our share, He will supply
the rest. Christ tells us that it is to be "as the heathen" to
over-worry about material goods. We are not to dishonor His Heavenly
Father Who created the world, set its limits, and called us to serve Him
in the matrimonial state through which He intends to raise up those souls
He desires to have in existence. Woe be to us if we get in the way of this
intention-if we get in the way of this holy creativity! A thwarted God is
an angry God. He will take married couples to account for those children
of which they have deprived Him. To put it differently: If you don't
want children God's way, then do not get married.
We are free to accept God's
truths or reject them. But to have peace, these truths must be
accepted. His yoke, too, we must take on (i.e., our state of life and His
laws regarding it). We know that His laws can be demanding. So Jesus
assures us of His graces, His powerful help to carry us through and to
overcome our natural fears. Consider Saint Paul as an example. Before his
conversion, he was no less zealous in his hatred of Christians, than he
was afterward zealous in his love of them. For with his surrender to
faith, Paul the Apostle became one who was even granted the power to
perform miracles-due to his being United with God
in His Holy Will.
There is not one place in the
Gospels where Christ tells us we are on our own. What kind of God would He
be Who would leave His mortal subjects alone to attempt to discern the
future and analyze their own abilities and potential? And this is a
temptation of married couples. He tells us that we are free to follow Him
or not-but each way has its consequences of good and evil. All throughout
the Bible He urges us to trust Him, and promises to charge our natural
life with His supernatural power if necessary, even as He did Saint
Paul's. Any form of family planning not only keeps other people from
coming into the world, but it stunts our own spiritual growth because it
limits all to the finite mind. And because of this lack of faith, we
reject the adventure into the infinite which challenges the soul with
joyful excitement and hope. When the Apostles were confirmed at Pentecost,
did not the power of the Holy Ghost change them? Are we to think God would
be less present to us these days, if we cooperate with this grace of the
Sacraments?
Each of us have the constant help
with the Sacraments of the Holy Eucharist and of Penance. And for those
who are married, the Sacrament of Matrimony is not an empty symbol but a
definite source of the necessary grace we need to fulfill this state of
life all throughout its duration. If we cooperate as we should, our
marriages would help sanctify us and make us saints. Indeed, each time we
properly use our marriage rights, there is an increase of grace in our
souls! (Think of this, as opposed to the sinful effect physical relations
have upon those souls making use of them outside the bounds of holy
matrimony) So we see that all things flourish, even our spiritual life in
marriage, through abandonment to His Will. The promise of God that He will
never leave us on our own can never be broken-for among the things God
cannot do is to break a promise.
Consider: Grass can be no more
than grass on its own. However, if grass is eaten by a cow, it then
becomes part of that COW. A cow is only a cow until it is consumed by man
and becomes part of man. Man, in turn, cannot be any more than a human
being unless his life is taken up into the life of Christ. Then he
participates in the very Divine Life of God.
It is a taste of being Adam-before
the Fall.
If Catholics were growing
spiritually, they would be more awed by God's Omnipotence. They would
indeed become more humble and obedient toward His Divine Majesty; they
would lose themselves in Him. However, the opposite is happening.
Surrounded by modern paganism, and with the recent changes brought in by
the New Church and the questionable power of its sacraments, most
Catholics are pulling away from Him and are building up their own egotism.
They are becoming the object of their own adoration. In other words, they
are losing themselves to themselves. Many if not most married Catholics,
even rush head high, head long and headstrong into the use of artificial
birth control and abortion-often with nary a conscience-qualm, and rarely
with any of our modern priests preaching or counseling against the matter.
It is evident that Catholics are not growing and maturing spiritually,
only humanly and in the effects of Original Sin. It is not in building
ourselves up that we obtain God's help and power, but in bending ourselves
low in subjection to His perfect Will.
Birth control is fundamentally
wrong because it interferes with the primary purpose of marriage: The
begetting of children. The souls of these children are then supposed to be
raised up to God through the Church; the mutual comfort and support of the
marriage partners is the secondary purpose only. As we have seen, NFP also
rejects the Providence of God in His Natural Law. For contraceptive
planning and observing are methods of doing just that. Are we to suppose
that God would establish the laws of nature, and then give us a way of
voiding those laws "naturally"-thereby solving the problem that
the laws present? Jesus says we are to trust the Father completely,
because He loves us and will only give us what is for our good (Lk. 11:
11-13). And the Christian maxim is that He never gives us a cross that we
cannot bear. He never tempts us beyond our strength.
Having taught CCD for many years,
I became very aware of the changes in the morals of society and the
"catch-words" modernists use to appeal to man's innate pride.
One example is teaching that the Rhythm method is the
"intelligent" approach to the temptation of artificial birth
control because "the Church approves it." If sin does indeed
come from the heart as Our Lord teaches (Mt. 15:18-20), and the
intention of that heart is to frustrate the essential purpose of the act
of procreation, then what is the difference between artificial and
"natural" contraception? One is accomplished with a physical
device, the other through a time schedule. But each begins with the
same "desire of the heart" to avoid the responsibility of
the act. How can the disposition of the heart be right in one case and
wrong in the other?
As we have said, the advocates of
NFP argue that the Rhythm method is valid and "natural" in that
the marital act is completed in a natural and proper way, and no
artificial means of contraception (i.e., condoms, diaphragms, etc.) are
employed. Yet the same may be said of the "Pill"-and both
methods claim a 98% "success" rate. We might mention here that
the Pill is an abortifacient - that is, it does not "prevent
conception" (as is the impression its promoters like to give us).
Rather, it induces the miscarriage of an already existing conceived
fetus! It is a tool of murder, as surely as is any other
form of abortion.
In his "right-to-life"
film, Dr. Wilkie tells us that "semen of itself is not life-giving;
the ovum of itself is not life-giving; and only when the two are allowed
to meet is there life-giving."
The National Council of Catholic
Bishops' statement about marriage tells us that, "the life-giving and
the love-giving cannot be separated."
As we have seen, Pope Paul VI in
his encyclical Humanae Vitae teaches "that each and
every marriage act must remain open to the transmission of life."
These are all facts consistent
with the teaching of Christ. How then can NFP proponents instruct God's
Catholic people? They make it their business to impart to couples: 1) how
to prevent, through careful monthly calculations, the fertilization of the
female ovum; 2) how to have the love-giving but avoid the life-giving
through the contrivance of timing; 3) that each and every act must remain
open to the transmission of life (as the Natural Law tells us it must).
Yet their instruction consists of teaching couples how to calculate the
very time when they may perform the marriage act with the greatest degree
of certainty that there will be no transmission of life. Is not all this
usurping a dominion over life-giving powers not belonging to man? Who is
supposed to be deceived-God or man? Is it any wonder that intelligent and
informed non-Catholics find the approach being fostered by the Catholic
Church's representatives ridiculous, jaded, and distorted, as well as
hypocritical? For they see in it no difference from the Pill in intent or
effectiveness-it still is birth control.
Concerning Pope Paul VI's
statement that each and every act must remain open to the transmission of
life, NFP advocates tell us:
A couple who practices NFP has
already inherently accepted
the child, should it come along. It is in this sense that the
couple must remain open to life while not using contraceptives, and yet
allowed to use the sterile times which God Himself
has provided.
This is changing God's Law-that
the first purpose of marriage is procreation-into a lie, and they are worshipping
and serving the creature rather than the Creator! After all,
why are couples using the sterile times alone? Isn't it to serve their
creature desires? This is that lust of which the Angel Raphael spoke to
Tobias (Tob, 6:17). To associate this thinking with the unitive
meaning of marriage is fallacious, for constant use of the sterile times
is against the nature of a woman, and the effects are disastrous as the
Cavanaugh Report reveals (about which more later). In this thinking NFP
proves itself to be in error. And note the "smooth" language
used by the NFP'ers ("which God himself has provided") in order
to divert one to error. A "pious" coating indeed!
Cardinal Wright observed that,
"The separation of childbearing and love has in turn allowed man to
turn his wife into a mistress until her ability to satisfy his lust
wanes." Is it any wonder that our families are in the terrible state
they are with this mentality prevailing for the last fifty years? If a
couple has in their hearts the acceptance of a child from their actions,
why go through all the bother of observing and checking? Even Pope Paul VI
said that the act itself must remain open to the transmission of
life. This means nothing can be deliberately done to prevent the
meeting of the sperm and ovum-timing included, as well as material
methods.
"Thou shall love the Lord
thy God with thy whole heart, and with thy whole soul, and with thy whole
mind, and with thy whole strength" (Mk. 12:30). To advance in
intellectual and social growth, and vet neglect this FIRST and GREATEST
COMMANDMENT of the Creator, is declaring that man is independent from God.
God is not rejecting man, nor is He allowing him to be led astray. Man
makes the decision himself to reject God. And in the case of birth
control, man rejects the fact that sexual intercourse is primarily for
procreation - with the result of that act being completely God's domain.
Man is rejecting the Providence of God by not trusting that God will take
care of whatever He creates. Or else man rejects God Himself because
complete marital submission to the Divine Will may mean sacrifice in the
form of physical pain, emotional stress, giving of self and time,
financial burdens, social obligations and all the rest. Especially it
means the sacrifice of trusting that God will provide for the future-a
virtue utterly contrary to the modern materialistic spirit and need for
absolute security/control over one's life. Mankind so wants to make earth
its Heaven and place of ease, when the world is largely to be a place of
test, toil and suffering-only the proving ground for Heavenly glory. God's
Will here is our test, and our job during life is to see that we are
fulfilling His Will and living out His Law.
We ask the advocates of NFP how
their approach fulfills God Is life within us and preserves true faith in
His Providence? We are here questioning the value -- and validity -- of
the principle set forth by this group. Christ Himself told us that those
who would seduce us will come to us as wolves "in the clothing of
sheep" (Mt. 7:15). Christ came as a sign of contradiction (Lk.
2:34), by which He meant that His teaching and moral code would oppose,
and be opposed by, the world. How does NFP oppose the evils of
contraception, being nothing but a non-artificial means of the same birth
control? The world is not concerned about pleasing God its Creator and
doing its duty, only about some ever safer and more reliable way of birth
control (and discovering how to increase the merely pleasurable side of
sexual relations).
The years of this century have
been years of change, and as each year passes, the changes accelerate
along with their consequences. Advocates of NFP claim that their method
has been accepted by the Popes since 1930 (those same Popes who have
eventually allowed the wholesale changes we now see rampant through the
Church). This thinking has infected four generations of even conservative
Catholics. It has contributed to the moral laxity within the modern
Church, and surely to the undermining of marriages and family life. Why
are homosexuality, bestiality and every form of perversion, now a problem
among the young? It is because the primary purpose of
sex-procreation-has been set aside, and the secondary purpose has been
made primary, therefore putting man's pleasure before God's Law. When
pleasure is allowed to be primary in sex who dares set the limits? The
abolishing of morals is the result, as Saint Paul tells us (Rom. 26
& 27).
Is not this the time for us to
stand up to the world, and show forth the light of Christian morality?
Christ's way is not to find a variant to the world's immorality We must
condemn all forms of birth control-as well as the immoral mentality to
which they have given rise with all its pagan consequences.
Animal life instinctively
reproduces according to the Natural Law because animals do not have the
intelligence or free will to go against it, and their nature will not
allow copulation at the infertile time. In the vegetable kingdom,
fertilization takes place spontaneously. Therefore, all nature gives honor
and glory to God by following the Natural Law as God made it.
Man is God's special creation to
whom He gave intelligence and free will. The child of God uses his human
functions as did Jesus, by being born in human form and living as a human
being-and even His human nature was subject to the spiritual. This
is the focal point of those baptized into the Fatherhood of God. We have
God's solemn promise that He will guide us in all the problems we
encounter through our human drives, if we will only subject our will and
actions first of all to Him. Our Lord very definitely gave us the way when
He told us that we must become as little children and trust the Father.
Again He makes reference to this Fatherhood when He says, 'Ask the Father
anything in My Name." If we keep ourselves worthy of His blessings,
all else will follow.
Love takes sacrifice, and this
sacrifice can require the courage to stand before the intellectuals of the
world and say that we believe that God is our Father. We therefore believe
that He will take care of and guide His children who trust in this
guidance, and He will prepare them for eternity. Look at the covenant God
made with man. God promised man that He will always take care of
man if man will keep Him as his God. Now the devil would like to see that
covenant become null and void, because fidelity on man's part would
destroy the devil's efforts to lead souls to hell.
God works with souls as is
necessary for each individual soul's salvation, and so we say that
"God hath no way" This means that He does not follow a definite
pattern with each soul. But the devil's way is easy to detect as he
constantly incites man to defy God's Will, causing man to lose divine
grace. We recognize this style of Satan.
If man wants to be faithful to
God and keep God's covenant, any thought of birth control or family
limitation is forbidden. If man truly loves God, he trusts Him and gives
to God His place of honor in man's life. Occasionally you hear even
traditional Catholics object to leaving themselves open to all the
children God wills to send them, They may say something like, "You've
got to have some morals"-as though putting their marital
selves entirely in God's hands is giving way to so much impure activity,
or is merely akin to animal-like abandonment or behavior. Such is their
concept or experience of the nobility and holiness of Christian
parenthood. Open marital relations, rather, is a practice of love of God
and charity to one's spouse. And it is obedience to God's Law. (If it
wasn't that children may well mark the path of such "marital
abandonment," might any of these people be that concerned with
"having some morals?")
What is God's place? It is in filial trust that we worship
and serve God Whose place is above us. Now Our Blessed Mother trusted Him in
her Fiat, at the time of the Annunciation. As Don Bosco explains in
his Madonna:
Be it done to me according to
Thy Word. With this utterance, Mary surrendered body and soul to the
Will of God, a Will that she did not understand, but which she
accepted. By this acceptance she gave every fibre of her being to her
vocation as Mother of God; she accepted, without thinking of herself,
but trusting in God. And this first Fiat was the beginning of a whole
lifetime of submission to the Will of God.
Where would we be if Our Lady did not
say "Fiat" to God's Will? And look at what happened because she
did. Do you think she was ever sorry afterwards? We, too, have our chance to
imitate the Mother of God in her submission and abandonment, and it pleases
God that we do so. What holy developments will come our way as well!
Fidelity to God is accepting the
fact that He is God and we are His creatures. Although we can either
accept or reject the Father, He tells those who accept Him that He will
take charge of their lives and grant them peace (through a clear
conscience). He also will give them happiness in this life and assurance
of everlasting happiness in the next. As the Sacred Heart told St.
Margaret Mary Alacoque, "Fear nothing, and let Me do with you
and in you whatever I will."
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