During the last seven months we have been
at home but about four weeks. In our travels we have sat at many
different tables, from Iowa to Maine. Some whom we have visited
live up to the best light they have. Others, who have the same
opportunities of learning to live healthfully and well, have
hardly taken the first steps in reform. They will tell you that
they do not know how to cook in this new way. But they are without
excuse in this matter of cooking; for in the work, How to Live,
are many excellent recipes, and this work is within the reach
of all. I do not say that the system of cookery taught in that
book is perfect. I may soon furnish a small work more to my mind
in some respects. But How to Live teaches cookery almost infinitely
in advance of what the traveler will often meet, even among some
Seventh-day Adventists.
Many do not feel that this is a matter
of duty, hence they do not try to prepare food properly. This
can be done in a simple, healthful, and easy manner, without
the use of lard, butter, or flesh meats. Skill must be united
with simplicity. To do this, women must read, and then patiently
reduce what they read to practice. Many are suffering because
they will not take the trouble to do this. I say to such: It
is time for you to rouse your dormant energies and read up. Learn
how to cook with simplicity, and yet in a manner to secure the
most palatable and healthful food.
Because it is wrong to cook merely to please
the taste, or to suit the appetite, no one should entertain the
idea that an impoverished diet is right. Many are debilitated
with disease, and need a nourishing, plentiful, well-cooked diet.
We frequently find graham bread heavy, sour, and but partially
baked. This is for want of interest to learn, and care to perform,
the important duty of cook. Sometimes we find gem cakes, or soft
biscuit, dried, not baked, and other things after the same order.
And then cooks will tell you they can do very well in the old
style of cooking, but, to tell the truth, their families do not
like graham bread; that they would starve to live in this way.
I have said to myself: I do not wonder
at it. It is your manner of preparing food that makes it so unpalatable.
To eat such food would certainly give one the dyspepsia. These
poor cooks, and those who have to eat their food, will gravely
tell you that the health reform does not agree with them. The
stomach has not power to convert poor, heavy, sour bread into
good; but this poor bread will convert a healthy stomach into
a diseased one. Those who eat such food know that they are failing
in strength. Is there not a cause? Some of these persons call
themselves health reformers, but they are not. They do not know
how to cook. They prepare cakes, potatoes, and graham bread,
but there is the same round, with scarcely a variation, and the
system is not strengthened. They seem to think the time wasted which is devoted to obtaining
a thorough experience in the preparation of healthful, palatable
food. Some act as though that which they eat were lost, and anything
they could toss into the stomach to fill it would do as well
as food prepared with so much painstaking. It is important that
we relish the food we eat. If we cannot do this, but eat mechanically,
we fail to be nourished and built up as we would be if we could
enjoy the food we take into the stomach. We are composed of what
we eat. In order to make a good quality of blood, we must have
the right kind of food, prepared in a right manner.
It is a religious duty for those who cook
to learn how to prepare healthful food in different ways, so
that it may be eaten with enjoyment. Mothers should teach their
children how to cook. What branch of the education of a young
lady can be so important as this? The eating has to do with the
life. Scanty, impoverished, ill-cooked food is constantly depraving
the blood by weakening the blood-making organs. It is highly
essential that the art of cookery be considered one of the most
important branches of education. There are but few good cooks.
Young ladies consider that it is stooping to a menial office
to become a cook. This is not the case. They do not view the
subject from a right standpoint. Knowledge of how to prepare
food healthfully, especially bread, is no mean science.
In many families we find dyspeptics, and
frequently the reason of this is the poor bread. The mistress
of the house decides that it must not be thrown away, and they
eat it. Is this the way to dispose of poor bread? Will you put
it into the stomach to be converted into blood? Has the stomach
power to make sour bread sweet? heavy bread light? moldy bread
fresh?
Mothers neglect this branch in the education
of their daughters. They take the burden of care and labor, and
are fast wearing out, while the daughter is excused, to visit,
to crochet, or study her own pleasure.
This is mistaken love, mistaken kindness. The mother is doing
an injury to her child, which frequently lasts her lifetime.
At the age when she should be capable of bearing some of life's
burdens, she is unqualified to do so. Such will not take care
and burdens. They go light-loaded, excusing themselves from responsibilities,
while the mother is pressed down under her burden of care, as
a cart beneath sheaves. The daughter does not mean to be unkind;
but she is careless and heedless, or she would notice the tired
look and mark the expression of pain upon the countenance of
the mother, and would seek to do her part to bear the heavier
part of the burden and relieve the mother, who must have freedom
from care or be brought upon a bed of suffering and, it may be,
of death.
Why will mothers be so blind and negligent
in the education of their daughters? I have been distressed,
as I have visited different families, to see the mother bearing
the heavy burden, while the daughter, who manifested buoyancy
of spirit and had a good degree of health and vigor, felt no
care, no burden. When there are large gatherings, and families
are burdened with company, I have seen the mother bearing the
burden, with the care of everything upon her, while the daughters
are sitting down chatting with young friends, having a social
visit. These things seem so wrong to me that I can hardly forbear
speaking to the thoughtless youth and telling them to go to work.
Release your tired mother. Lead her to a seat in the parlor and
urge her to rest and enjoy the society of her friends.
But the daughters are not the ones to be
blamed wholly in this matter. The mother is at fault. She has
not patiently taught her daughters how to cook. She knows that
they lack knowledge in the cooking department, and therefore
feels no release from the labor. She must attend to everything
that requires care, thought, and attention. Young ladies should
be thoroughly instructed in cooking. Whatever be their circumstances
in life, here is knowledge which may be put
to a practical use. It is a branch of education which has the
most direct influence upon human life, especially the lives of
those held most dear. Many a wife and mother who has not had
the right education and lacks skill in the cooking department
is daily presenting her family with ill-prepared food which is
steadily and surely destroying the digestive organs, making a
poor quality of blood, and frequently bringing on acute attacks
of inflammatory disease and causing premature death. Many have
been brought to their death by eating heavy, sour bread. An instance
was related to me of a hired girl who made a batch of sour, heavy
bread. In order to get rid of it and conceal the matter, she
threw it to a couple of very large hogs. Next morning the man
of the house found his swine dead, and, upon examining the trough,
found pieces of this heavy bread. He made inquiries, and the
girl acknowledged what she had done. She had not a thought of
the effect of such bread upon the swine. If heavy, sour bread
will kill swine, which can devour rattlesnakes and almost every
detestable thing, what effect will it have upon that tender organ,
the human stomach?
It is a religious duty for every Christian
girl and woman to learn at once to make good, sweet, light bread
from unbolted wheat flour. Mothers should take their daughters
into the kitchen with them when very young and teach them the
art of cooking. The mother cannot expect her daughters to understand
the mysteries of housekeeping without education. She should instruct
them patiently, lovingly, and make the work as agreeable as she
can by her cheerful countenance and encouraging words of approval.
If they fail once, twice, or thrice, censure not. Already discouragement
is doing its work and tempting them to say: "It is of no
use; I can't do it." This is not the time for censure. The
will is becoming weakened. It needs the spur of encouraging,
cheerful, hopeful words, as: "Never
mind the mistakes you have made. You are but a learner and must
expect to make blunders. Try again. Put your mind on what you
are doing. Be very careful, and you will certainly succeed."
Many mothers do not realize the importance
of this branch of knowledge, and rather than have the trouble
and care of instructing their children and bearing with their
failings and errors while learning, they prefer to do all themselves.
And when their daughters make a failure in their efforts, they
send them away with: "It is no use; you can't do this or
that. You perplex and trouble me more than you help me."
Thus the first efforts of the learners
are repulsed, and the first failure so cools their interest and
ardor to learn that they dread another trial, and will propose
to sew, knit, clean house--anything but cook. Here the mother
was greatly at fault. She should have patiently instructed them
that they might by practice obtain an experience which would
remove the awkwardness and remedy the unskillful movements of
the inexperienced worker. Here I will add extracts from Testimony
No. 10, published in 1864:
"Children who have been petted and
waited upon, always expect it; and if their expectations are
not met, they are disappointed and discouraged. This same disposition
will be seen through their whole lives; they will be helpless,
leaning upon others for aid, expecting others to favor them and
yield to them. And if they are opposed, even after they have
grown to manhood and womanhood, they think themselves abused;
and thus they worry their way through the world, hardly able
to bear their own weight, often murmuring and fretting because
everything does not suit them.
"Mistaken parents are teaching their
children lessons which will prove ruinous to them, and are also
planting thorns for their own feet. They think that by gratifying
the wishes of their children, and letting them follow their own
inclinations, they can gain their
love. What an error! Children thus indulged grow up unrestrained
in their desires, unyielding in their dispositions, selfish,
exacting, and overbearing, a curse to themselves and to all around
them. To a great extent, parents hold in their own hands the
future happiness of their children. Upon them rests the important
work of forming the character of these children. The instructions
given in childhood will follow them all through life. Parents
sow the seed which will spring up and bear fruit either for good
or evil. They can fit their sons and daughters for happiness
or for misery.
"Children should be taught very young
to be useful, to help themselves, and to help others. Many daughters
of this age can, without remorse of conscience, see their mothers
toiling, cooking, washing, or ironing, while they sit in the
parlor and read stories, knit edging, crochet, or embroider.
Their hearts are as unfeeling as a stone. But where does this
wrong originate? Who are the ones usually most to blame in this
matter? The poor, deceived parents. They overlook the future
good of their children, and in their mistaken fondness, let them
sit in idleness, or do that which is of but little account, which
requires no exercise of the mind or muscles, and then excuse
their indolent daughters because they are weakly. What has made
them weakly? In many cases it has been the wrong course of the
parents. A proper amount of exercise about the house would improve
both mind and body. But children are deprived of this through
false ideas, until they are averse to work. It is disagreeable
and does not accord with their ideas of gentility. It is thought
to be unladylike and even coarse to wash dishes, iron, or stand
over the washtub. This is the fashionable instruction which is
given children in this unfortunate age.
"God's people should be governed by
higher principles than worldlings, who seek to gauge all their
course of action according to fashion. God-fearing parents should
train their children for a life
of usefulness. . . . Prepare them to bear burdens while young.
If your children have been unaccustomed to labor, they will soon
become weary. They will complain of side ache, pain in the shoulders,
and tired limbs; and you will be in danger, through sympathy,
of doing the work yourselves, rather than have them suffer a
little. Let the burden upon the children be very light at first,
and then increase it a little every day, until they can do a
proper amount of labor without becoming so weary. Inactivity
is the greatest cause of side ache and shoulder ache among children.
. . .
"Mothers should take their daughters
with them into the kitchen and patiently educate them. Their
constitution will be better for such labor, their muscles will
gain tone and strength, and their meditations will be more healthy
and elevated at the close of the day. They may be weary, but
how sweet is rest after a proper amount of labor. Sleep, nature's
sweet restorer, invigorates the weary body, and prepares it for
the next day's duties. Do not intimate to your children that
it is no matter whether they labor or not. Teach them that their
help is needed, that their time is of value, and that you depend
on their labor."