I inquired if this tide of woe could not
be prevented and something be done to save the youth of this
generation from the ruin which threatens them. I was shown that
one great cause of the existing deplorable state of things is
that parents do not feel under obligation to bring up their children
to conform to physical law. Mothers love their children with
an idolatrous love and indulge their appetite when they know
that it will injure their health and thereby bring upon them
disease and unhappiness. This cruel kindness is manifested to
a great extent in the present generation. The desires of children
are gratified at the expense of health and happy tempers because
it is easier for the mother, for the time being, to gratify them
than to withhold that for which they clamor.
Thus mothers are sowing the seed that will
spring up and bear fruit. The children are not educated to deny
their appetites and restrict their desires. And they become selfish,
exacting, disobedient, unthankful, and unholy. Mothers who are
doing this work will reap with bitterness the fruit of the seed
they have sown. They have sinned against Heaven and against their
children, and God will hold them accountable.
Had education for generations back been
conducted upon altogether a different plan, the youth of this
generation would not now be so depraved and worthless. The managers
and teachers of schools should have been those who understood
physiology and who had an interest, not only to educate the
youth in the sciences, but to teach them how
to preserve health so that they might use their knowledge to
the best account after they had obtained it. There should have
been connected with the schools, establishments for carrying
on various branches of labor, that the students might have employment
and the necessary exercise out of school hours.
The students' employment and amusements
should have been regulated with reference to physical law and
should have been adapted to preserve to them the healthy tone
of all the powers of body and mind. Then a practical knowledge
of business could have been obtained while their literary education
was being gained. Students at school should have had their moral
sensibilities aroused to see and feel that society has claims
upon them and that they should live in obedience to natural law
so that they can, by their existence and influence, by precept
and example, be an advantage and blessing to society. It should
be impressed upon the youth that all have an influence that is
constantly telling upon society to improve and elevate or to
lower and debase. The first study of the young should be to know
themselves and how to keep their bodies in health.
Many parents keep their children at school
nearly the year round. These children go through the routine
of study mechanically, but do not retain that which they learn.
Many of these constant students seem almost destitute of intellectual
life. The monotony of continual study wearies the mind, and they
take but little interest in their lessons; and to many the application
to books becomes painful. They have not an inward love of thought
and an ambition to acquire knowledge. They do not encourage in
themselves habits of reflection and investigation.
Children are in great need of proper education
in order that they may be of use in the world. But any effort
that exalts intellectual culture above moral training is misdirected.
Instructing, cultivating, polishing, and refining youth and children
should be the main burden with both parents and teachers. Close
reasoners and logical thinkers are few for the reason that false influences have checked the development
of the intellect. The supposition of parents and teachers that
continual study would strengthen the intellect has proved erroneous,
for in many cases it has had the opposite effect.
In the early education of children many
parents and teachers fail to understand that the greatest attention
needs to be given to the physical constitution, that a healthy
condition of body and brain may be secured. It has been the custom
to encourage children to attend school when they are mere babies,
needing a mother's care. When of a delicate age they are frequently
crowded into ill-ventilated schoolrooms, where they sit in wrong
positions upon poorly constructed benches, and as the result
the young and tender frames of some have become deformed.
The disposition and habits of youth will
be very likely to be manifested in mature manhood. You may bend
a young tree into almost any shape that you choose, and if it
remains and grows as you have bent it, it will be a deformed
tree and will ever tell of the injury and abuse received at your
hand. You may, after years of growth, try to straighten the tree,
but all your efforts will prove unavailing. It will ever be a
crooked tree. This is the case with the minds of youth. They
should be carefully and tenderly trained in childhood. They may
be trained in the right direction or in the wrong, and in their
future lives they will pursue the course in which they were directed
in youth. The habits formed in youth will grow with the growth
and strengthen with the strength, and will generally be the same
in afterlife, only continually growing stronger.
We are living in an age when almost everything
is superficial. There is but little stability and firmness of
character, because the training and education of children from
their cradle is superficial. Their characters are built upon
sliding sand. Self-denial and self-control have not been molded
into their characters. They have been petted and indulged until
they are spoiled for practical life. The love of pleasure controls
minds, and children are flattered and indulged to their
ruin. Children should be so trained and educated
that they will expect temptations and calculate to meet difficulties
and dangers. They should be taught to have control over themselves
and to nobly overcome difficulties; and if they do not willfully
rush into danger and needlessly place themselves in the way of
temptation; if they shun evil influences and vicious society,
and then are unavoidably compelled to be in dangerous company,
they will have strength of character to stand for the right and
preserve principle, and will come forth in the strength of God
with their morals untainted. If youth who have been properly
educated make God their trust, their moral powers will stand
the most powerful test.
But few parents realize that their children
are what their example and discipline have made them, and that
they are responsible for the characters their children develop.
If the hearts of Christian parents were in obedience to the will
of Christ, they would obey the injunction of the heavenly Teacher:
"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness,
and all these things shall be added unto you." If those
who profess to be followers of Christ would only do this, they
would give, not only to their children, but to the unbelieving
world, examples that would rightly represent the religion of
the Bible.
If Christian parents lived in obedience
to the requirements of the divine Teacher, they would preserve
simplicity in eating and in dressing, and would live more in
accordance with natural law. They would not then devote so much
time to artificial life, in making for themselves cares and burdens
that Christ has not laid upon them, but that He has positively
bid them shun. If the kingdom of God and His righteousness were
the first and all-important consideration with parents, but little
precious time would be lost in needless outward ornamentation
while the minds of their children are almost entirely neglected.
The precious time devoted by many parents to dressing their children
for display in their scenes of amusement would better, far better,
be spent in cultivating their own minds in order that they may
be competent to properly instruct
their children. It is not essential to the salvation or happiness
of these parents that they use the precious probationary time
that God has lent them, in dressing, visiting, and gossiping.
Many parents plead that they have so much
to do that they have no time to improve their minds, to educate
their children for practical life, or to teach them how they
may become lambs of Christ's fold. Not until the final settlement,
when the cases of all will be decided, and the acts of our entire
lives will be laid open to our view in the presence of God and
the Lamb and all the holy angels, will parents realize the almost
infinite value of their misspent time. Very many will then see
that their wrong course has determined the destiny of their children.
Not only have they failed to secure for themselves the words
of commendation from the King of glory, "Well done, thou
good and faithful servant: . . . enter thou into the joy of thy
Lord," but they hear pronounced upon their children the
terrible denunciation, "Depart!" This separates their
children forever from the joys and glories of heaven, and from
the presence of Christ. And they themselves also receive the
denunciation: Depart, "thou wicked and slothful servant."
Jesus will never say "Well done" to those who have
not earned the "Well done" by their faithful lives
of self-denial and self-sacrifice to do others good and to promote
His glory. Those who live principally to please themselves instead
of to do others good will meet with infinite loss.
If parents could be aroused to a sense
of the fearful responsibility which rests upon them in the work
of educating their children, more of their time would be devoted
to prayer and less to needless display. They would reflect and
study and pray earnestly to God for wisdom and divine aid to
so train their children that they may develop characters that
God will approve. Their anxiety would not be to know how they
can educate their children so that they will be praised and honored
of the world, but how they can educate them to form beautiful
characters that God can approve.
Much study and earnest prayer for heavenly
wisdom are needed to know how to deal with youthful minds, for
very much depends upon the direction parents give to the minds
and wills of their children. To balance their minds in the right
direction and at the right time is a most important work, for
their eternal destiny may depend on the decisions made at some
critical moment. How important, then, that the minds of parents
be as free as possible from perplexing, wearing care in temporal
things, that they may think and act with calm consideration,
wisdom, and love, and make the salvation of the souls of their
children the first and highest consideration! The great object
which parents should seek to attain for their dear children should
be the inward adorning. Parents cannot afford to allow visitors
and strangers to claim their attention, and by robbing them of
time, which is life's great capital, make it impossible for them
to give their children each day that patient instruction which
they must have to give right direction to their developing minds.
This lifetime is too short to be squandered
in vain and trifling diversion, in unprofitable visiting, in
needless dressing for display, or in exciting amusements. We
cannot afford to squander the time given us of God in which to
bless others and in which to lay up for ourselves a treasure
in heaven. We have none too much time for the discharge of necessary
duties. We should give time to the culture of our own hearts
and minds in order that we may be qualified for our lifework.
By neglecting these essential duties and conforming to the habits
and customs of fashionable, worldly society, we do ourselves
and our children a great wrong.
Mothers who have youthful minds to train
and the characters of children to form should not seek the excitement
of the world in order to be cheerful and happy. They have an
important lifework, and they and theirs cannot afford to spend
time in an unprofitable manner. Time is one of the important
talents which God has entrusted to us and for which He will call
us to account. A waste of time is a waste of intellect. The
powers of the mind are susceptible of high
cultivation. It is the duty of mothers to cultivate their minds
and keep their hearts pure. They should improve every means within
their reach for their intellectual and moral improvement, that
they may be qualified to improve the minds of their children.
Those who indulge their disposition to be in company will soon
feel restless unless visiting or entertaining visitors. Such
have not the power of adaptation to circumstances. The necessary,
sacred home duties seem commonplace and uninteresting to them.
They have no love for self-examination or self-discipline. The
mind hungers for the varying, exciting scenes of worldly life;
children are neglected for the indulgence of inclination; and
the recording angel writes: "Unprofitable servants."
God designs that our minds should not be purposeless, but should
accomplish good in this life.
If parents would feel that it is a solemn
duty enjoined upon them of God to educate their children for
usefulness in this life; if they would adorn the inner temple
of the souls of their sons and daughters for the immortal life,
we should see a great change in society for the better. There
would not then be manifest so great indifference to practical
godliness, and it would not be so difficult to arouse the moral
sensibilities of children to understand the claims that God has
upon them. But parents become more and more careless in the education
of their children in the useful branches. Many parents allow
their children to form wrong habits and to follow their own inclination,
and fail to impress upon their minds the danger of their doing
this and the necessity of their being controlled by principle.
Children frequently begin a piece of work
with enthusiasm, but, becoming perplexed or wearied with it,
they wish to change and take hold of something new. Thus they
may take hold of several things, meet with a little discouragement,
and give them up; and so they pass from one thing to another,
perfecting nothing. Parents should not allow the love of change
to control their children. They should not be so much engaged with other things that they will have
no time to patiently discipline the developing minds. A few words
of encouragement, or a little help at the right time, may carry
them over their trouble and discouragement, and the satisfaction
they will derive from seeing the task completed that they undertook
will stimulate them to greater exertion.
Many children, for want of words of encouragement and a little assistance in their efforts, become disheartened and change from one thing to another. And they carry this sad defect with them in mature life. They fail to make a success of anything they engage in, for they have not been taught to persevere under discouraging circumstances. Thus the entire lifetime of many proves a failure, because they did not have correct discipline when young. The education received in childhood and youth affects their entire business career in mature life, and their religious experience bears a corresponding stamp.