In dealing with erring church members,
God's people are carefully to follow the instruction given by
the Saviour in the eighteenth chapter of Matthew.
Human beings are Christ's property, purchased
by Him at an infinite price, bound to Him by the love that He
and His Father have manifested for them. How careful, then, we
should be in our dealing with one another! Men have no right
to surmise evil in regard to their fellow men. Church members
have no right to follow their own impulses and inclinations in
dealing with fellow members who have erred. They should not even
express their prejudices regarding the erring, for thus they
place in other minds the leaven of evil. Reports unfavorable
to a brother or sister in the church are communicated from one
to another of the church members. Mistakes are made and injustice
is done because of an unwillingness on the part of someone to
follow the directions given by the Lord Jesus.
"If thy brother shall trespass against
thee," Christ declared, "go and tell him his fault
between thee and him alone." Matthew 18:15. Do not tell
others of the wrong. One person is told, then another, and still
another; and continually the report grows, and the evil increases,
till the whole church is made to suffer. Settle the matter "between
thee and him alone." This is God's plan. "Go not forth
hastily to strive, lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof,
when thy neighbor hath put thee to shame. Debate thy cause with
thy neighbor himself; and discover not a secret to another."
Proverbs 25:8, 9. Do not suffer sin upon your brother; but do
not expose him, and thus increase the difficulty,
making the reproof seem like a revenge. Correct
him in the way outlined in the word of God.
Do not suffer resentment to ripen into
malice. Do not allow the wound to fester and break out in poisoned
words, which taint the minds of those who hear. Do not allow
bitter thoughts to continue to fill your mind and his. Go to
your brother, and in humility and sincerity talk with him about
the matter.
Whatever the character of the offense,
this does not change the plan that God has made for the settlement
of misunderstandings and personal injuries. Speaking alone and
in the spirit of Christ to the one who is in fault will often
remove the difficulty. Go to the erring one, with a heart filled
with Christ's love and sympathy, and seek to adjust the matter.
Reason with him calmly and quietly. Let no angry words escape
your lips. Speak in a way that will appeal to his better judgment.
Remember the words: "He which converteth the sinner from
the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall
hide a multitude of sins." James 5:20.
Take to your brother the remedy that will
cure the disease of disaffection. Do your part to help him. For
the sake of the peace and unity of the church, feel it a privilege
as well as a duty to do this. If he will hear you, you have gained
him as a friend.
All heaven is interested in the interview
between the one who has been injured and the one who is in error.
As the erring one accepts the reproof offered in the love of
Christ, and acknowledges his wrong, asking forgiveness from God
and from his brother, the sunshine of heaven fills his heart.
The controversy is ended; friendship and confidence are restored.
The oil of love removes the soreness caused by the wrong. The
Spirit of God binds heart to heart,
and there is music in heaven over the union brought about.
As those thus united in Christian fellowship
offer prayer to God and pledge themselves to deal justly, to
love mercy, and to walk humbly with God, great blessing comes
to them. If they have wronged others they continue the work of
repentance, confession, and restitution, fully set to do good
to one another. This is the fulfilling of the law of Christ.
"But if he will not hear thee, then
take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three
witnesses every word may be established." Matthew 18:16.
Take with you those who are spiritually minded, and talk with
the one in error in regard to the wrong. He may yield to the
united appeals of his brethren. As he sees their agreement in
the matter, his mind may be enlightened.
"And if he shall neglect to hear them,"
what then shall be done? Shall a few persons in a board meeting
take upon themselves the responsibility of disfellowshiping the
erring one? "If he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto
the church." Verse 17. Let the church take action in regard
to its members.
"But if he neglect to hear the church,
let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican."
Verse 17. If he will not heed the voice of the church, if he
refuses all the efforts made to reclaim him, upon the church
rests the responsibility of separating him from fellowship. His
name should then be stricken from the books.
No church officer should advise, no committee
should recommend, nor should any church vote, that the name of
a wrongdoer shall be removed from the church books, until the
instruction given by Christ has been faithfully followed. When
this instruction has been followed, the church
has cleared herself before God. The evil must then be made to
appear as it is, and must be removed, that it may not become
more and more widespread. The health and purity of the church
must be preserved, that she may stand before God unsullied, clad
in the robes of Christ's righteousness.
If the erring one repents and submits to
Christ's discipline, he is to be given another trial. And even
if he does not repent, even if he stands outside the church,
God's servants still have a work to do for him. They are to seek
earnestly to win him to repentance. And, however aggravated may
have been his offense, if he yields to the striving of the Holy
Spirit and, by confessing and forsaking his sin, gives evidence
of repentance, he is to be forgiven and welcomed to the fold
again. His brethren are to encourage him in the right way, treating
him as they would wish to be treated were they in his place,
considering themselves lest they also be tempted.
"Verily I say unto you," Christ
continued, "whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound
in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed
in heaven." Verse 18.
This statement holds its force in all ages.
On the church has been conferred the power to act in Christ's
stead. It is God's instrumentality for the preservation of order
and discipline among His people. To it the Lord has delegated
the power to settle all questions respecting its prosperity,
purity, and order. Upon it rests the responsibility of excluding
from its fellowship those who are unworthy, who by their un-Christlike
conduct would bring dishonor on the truth. Whatever the church
does that is in accordance with the directions given in God's
word will be ratified in heaven.
Matters of grave import come up for settlement
by the church. God's ministers,
ordained by Him as guides of His people, after doing their part
are to submit the whole matter to the church, that there may
be unity in the decision made.
The Lord desires His followers to exercise
great care in dealing with one another. They are to lift up,
to restore, to heal. But there is to be in the church no neglect
of proper discipline. The members are to regard themselves as
pupils in a school, learning how to form characters worthy of
their high calling. In the church here below, God's children
are to be prepared for the great reunion in the church above.
Those who here live in harmony with Christ may look forward to
an endless life in the family of the redeemed.
God's love for the fallen race is a peculiar
manifestation of love--a love born of mercy, for human beings
are all undeserving. Mercy implies imperfection of the object
toward which it is shown. It is because of sin that mercy was
brought into active exercise.
It may be that much work needs to be done
in your character building, that you are a rough stone, which
must be squared and polished before it can fill a place in God's
temple. You need not be surprised if with hammer and chisel God
cuts away the sharp corners of your character until you are prepared
to fill the place He has for you. No human being can accomplish
this work. Only by God can it be done. And be assured that He
will not strike one useless blow. His every blow is struck in
love, for your eternal happiness. He knows your infirmities and
works to restore, not to destroy.