PLAIN VIEW FARM, BRYANT, SD
MAMA'S OWN STORY
ANCESTRY, AUTOBIOGRAPHY AND EPISODES,
INCIDENT TO THE FIFTY YEARS OF MARRIED LIFE OF ALFRED AND
BESSIE STADEM
MAMA: BESSIE (BERGIT) HOLBECK-STADEM'S
STORY
INTRODUCTION:
In the year 1812 on October 6 in Mollarre,
Norway, Andreas Andersen Holbeck was born. When
he grew up to manhood he married Berthe Johnsdatter.
They lived together and worked until his death on
September 29, 1882 at the age of 70 years.
Mrs. died January 28, 1885 at the age of 68 years.
Andreas taught school in the State School of Norway;
he also acted as an agent in selling Bibles
and Christian literature. As a token for long
and faithful service as a colporteur, he was
presented with a large Bible by the British
and Foreign Bible Society. The Bible was published
in Kjobenhavn, Denmark, in 1877, and it was
signed by the British Society in handwriting.
This Bible is now in the possession of his
granddaughter, Mrs. Alfred Stadem.
ANDERS AND PETERINE'S EARLY MARRIAGE
"Andreas's son, Anders Holbeck was born
March 30, 1848 and baptised April 9, 1848.
At Veetnes, Norway, he married Peterine Andrea
Thomasdatter, who was born August 9, 1850.
Anders resumed the work of his father as
teacher and agent; he was an agriculturalist
also. He did some writing on the topic "Christian Education." His main interest was to
bring up their seven children in Christian nurture.
Only three of their children grew into man
and womanhood. On September 8, 1890, at
42 years of age he died, and his wife died
nine years later at the age of 49 years.
[At this period life for many in Norway was
one of cruel hardship, which is reflected in
the low life expectancies. These were
hard-working people accustomed to few
amenities, yet they could not survive for
long the sub-arctic cold, lack of adequate
nutrition, and poverty. These harsh conditions
forced many to flee Norway as emigrants to
countries with more resources than Norway
could offer its citizens. Culture was high and
flourishing, but the economy was extremely limited
and could not support the population. Most emigrants
went to America, sometimes by way of Canada's St.
Lawrence River; others sailed directly to New York
City and then took trains to America's heartlands
where a new life and opportunity beckoned.
As was the case with the Holbecks, the three
surviving children of Anders and Peterine
started their new life with memories of great
personal loss in the loss of their young parents
and other brothers and sisters--Editors].
BERGIT'S BIRTH, AND LATER BOUND FOR AMERICA
(MAMA), Bergit Wilhelmine Holbeck, their
youngest daughter, was born May 22, 1885, in
Vatnedal Holmesogn, Mandal, Norway, located
at the very southern tip of Norway. When
only three days old she was baptised and at
fifteen confirmed in Holmesogns Church by
Rev. Bang. In her 18th year she migrated
to America accompanied by her sister Kathrine,
who is now Mrs. Lundring, Canton, S.D.
The two sisters first came to Bryant,
South Dakota, and did house work. They found it a
little difficult, because they could not speak
English. It did not take them very long before they
were able to speak the language. Two years later she
went to Canton, South Dakota, to live. [From this
point Bergit Holbeck Stadem will tell her own
story--Editors]
MAMA's OWN ACCOUNT OF HER LIFE IN
NORWAY
GOD'S WORD AND EVENING DEVOTIONS
I was five years old when Papa died. It seems
to me that I have a faint remembrance of him. When
he had evening devotions, he would ask us children
about God's Word. Once my older sister whispered the
correct answer to me, and as I gave the answer Papa,
who was overwhelmed at my wisdom, gave vent to
surprise. I felt so proud--but I think he found out the facts later.
I WAS PAPAS NURSE AT AGE FIVE
I was told that at the time Papa was sick
there was so much work outdoors to be done.
All went out to work except this five year
old Bergit who was to be sick Papa's nurse. He said he could get along just fine when he had me a few hours at a time.
PAPA'S DEATH AND MAMA'S FAITH
It is often recalled how after Papa's death
that Mama would take us three little children with
her to Christian Fellowship Prayer meetings in the
different places of the community. We also had these
meetings in our home when the roads were passible so that people could get there. Sacred to my memory is when I was
about 7 or 8 years old that we were returning home
from such a meeting. Mama sat down on a rock by the
wayside and wept so bitterly. As I placed my arm
around her neck and asked her why she was crying, she
replied, "I am such a big sinner." I was prompted to
answer, "But you know Jesus, God's Son whose blood
cleanses from all sins." And she wiped away
the tears and we journeyed happily home again. We
would not feature our Mama crying over her sins--a better
Christian there never was. She was always content
and happy in the Lord.
I WISHED I COULD BE LIKE MAMA
I cannot recall that I ever disobeyed her
willfully. The work was so easy in her presence. What
a joy it was to carry the hay and wood on our sacks and pull the loads on the wheel-cart where it could be used-one to hold the shafts in front and two in the rear to push.
And what speed we would get going down hills at
times. It was a joy when Mama was along. I many times
wished I could be like her.
MAMA SAID,"LET US PRAY TOGETHER"
I can never forget one evening of a beautiful
summer day when we were sitting up on the mountain
knoll with our feet resting down the slope. We had
been picking whortleberries that day. We sat there
admiring the beautiful scenery to the south down over the...
valley with our home sweet home in the distance. Then
Mama with the three little children as the audience
spoke these words: "Let us pray together--(I being
the youngest needed her to form the words)--Dear God, help me that I may never fall out of my baptismal covenant.
Amen."
I HAD A SIFTING TROUGH FOR A CRADLE
Our brother Andrew was only two years old when I
was born and consequently had to occupy the cradle as
yet. To my annoyance later I used to hear our friends
talk (and smile) about that I had had to lie as a baby in
the sifting trough used for cleaning grain.
I COULD CONFESS EASILY TO MAMA
The calamity in the little girl's life, as it
seemed, was one day when the rest were out of doors
getting hay into the barn. I was supposed to wash up
the dishes and while wiping a special cup (called
"Uncle August's cup"), bang, it went on the floor and
broke. Now good advice was at a price, and serious thoughts flashed over the mind, as to what to do. Having
decided, I ran out to confess to Mama, but seeing her so happy at work, I hesitated to spoil her joy with my
hard-luck story. Again considering the misery I was
in, I did decide to tell it and have it over with-yet
nothing serious happened.
CHURCH OR NOT, WE READ THE BIBLE
Before Mama took sick, we had much joy in going
with her to visit the Christian friends in the
neighborhood. On Sundays we went to Holme Church
some five English miles away, crossing the river
by boat and walking the rest of the way. Often
did I hear this remark about myself, "Oh! how
she resembles her Grandpa!" It rang pleasing
in my ears, as I knew he was a man highly
honored by his countrymen for his noble
Christian character. And later would hear this
pleasing remark,"She was always so good when
she was small." Yes, all was joy yet when we
still had our dear mother. Keenly do I remember
the awe and respect we as children had upon
entering God's holy temple, the church. We would
walk in on our tip-toes down the long aisles,
then sit in silence and attention during the service.
On the Sundays when no formal service was available [weather intervened to make church-going impossible at times, or no pastor was able to make the trip to
the church from his place of residence, often miles distant over land and sometimes water--Editors] it was an established custom that we three children took turns reading the scripture text for the day, and a message from the different devotional books at hand. I recall it as an
honor and a privilege to be the reader. Possible it
was exalting too that the rest would sit so nice and
listen to me.
MY TEACHER WAS A FINE, CHRISTIAN GENTLEMAN
Mama was ordinarily the one to conduct morning
and evening devotions, and after she died we
children always took turns at home. I shall
never forget my school teacher, Theodor Tobiason.
He was in truth a Christian man, and was a power
for good among the young. And how I did love him
and did like to obey his teaching. But once when
he had us write an essay (mine was on "Vatnedal"
our home district) he thought mine was extraordinarily
good and asked me if I had written it all myself.
I said yes, when the fact of it was my sister
had helped me. This I had to suffer for a long,
long time, and wondered and worried about how
I should ever get to confess this untruthfulness
to him. God gave me opportunity, but Mama was
dead too now. It was after a meeting at our place
and the reply to my confession was these words
from his lips, "It is forgiven and completely all
right between you and me, just so it is all right
between you and your God." Well, my dear Heavenly
Father again gave me peace in my soul.
THE SILENT MESSENGER TOOK MAMA!
In the year of our Lord, 1898, just before
Christmas, our dear Mother never arose from her bed
anymore. It cut me to the core of my young heart to
see dear Mama lying there getting weaker and paler
day after day and spitting blood. I realized it came
from the lungs and that it was fatal unto death. And
to think Mama had been patiently carrying this
knowingly for a long time, but considering the poverty
and struggle for existence had not thought it possible,
yes entirely prohibitive to seek doctors' help
and hospital care. Her own loving sister, our Aunt Saverine, came to help care for her, but in spite
of love and tender care, she got paler and fainter
day by day. One day when nature smiled in
beauty in the month of June, the silent messenger
came to her and whispered this, "Come over here."
"YOUR MAMA IS HOME WITH GOD!"
I was scheduled to meet for confirmation
instruction that day, and as usual I went in to her,
pressed her hand in farewell, and gave her a parting
kiss. Having so far to go and my class meeting from
10 to 3 and 4 o'clock, it required almost the whole day.
Besides, being in the company of a friend, Christene,
she suggested that we pick some blueberries on the
way home, which made it a little later than usual
that day. On entering the house and upon inquiry
how Mama was, Auntie's reply was, "Do not cry,
dear child, your Mama is home with God."
Those words cannot be described as they
came to me.
MY MOTHER DIED ASKING ABOUT ME!
Yet this was not totally unexpected news, as
one day the previous week, the parting hour had
seemed close at hand, and at my aunt's request,
on the edge of the bed I read many comforting
Bible verses for the dying. I cannot comprehend
now how I then controlled myself to do that at
that time. Now with my Mama actually gone from us,
my sister told me that the last audible words heard
over Mama's lips were when she asked about me.
Oh, a mother's love!! How it manifests
itself even in the dying one's last moments.
FUNERAL OVER, OUR LIFE'S PROBLEMS BEGINS
When the funeral was over, the return to
the motherless and fatherless home to resume
life's problems was anything but inviting,
and not to mention, the poverty. Some near
and dear ones accompanied us home and there
conducted a very comforting meeting. After
which some of those who were concerned about
our future held a secret conference, and to
my horror and consternation I got to hear that
Marie, an aunt by marriage, planned to get me
into her control. Now she was very rich,
screamingly covetous and stingy, and had
closed her heart to all in need. It would
have been unbearable for me to live with her.
BARE NECESSITIES WERE HARD TO SECURE!
My sister Katrine went to Mandal to work,
Andrew and I remained on the farm the rest
of this summer and the following winter.
But, oh, it was a problem to secure the bare
necessities of life, and next to impossible.
One day two friends came to visit, and all
the food in the house was two pounds of rice,
but, oh, I was so happy I could cook rice
pudding to serve.
COWS SOLD, FARM RENTED, AND ANDREW TO AMERICA
During this time Rev. Haaland came back from
America to visit relatives. He came to meetings in
our vicinity, and he got acquainted with us and our
circumstances. Arrangements were made that our
brother was going back with him to America in the spring.
The cows were sold and few other things to secure the
price of the ticket, etc. One spring day in 1900,
Brother Andrew bade me goodbye and left for the other
world, as it seemed. The farm was rented to a
neighbor and one morning I got up early, took the
cat, the only living thing left on the place, put it
in a basket, closed the door of my childhood home on
the few belongings therein, and started for
"Suvatne"--a place two Norse miles or about 28
English miles away--where it was previously arranged
that I should work. It was a Christian family and
they were kind to me.
I HAD TO WORK IN TOWN
Later, I had to go to town to work, and for
two years had varied experiences. To my sorrow
I found that those people were very Godless
and had no use for His Word or His Church,
and little love for fellowmen.
I MISSED MY CHILDHOOD YEARS AND MY PARENTS
One time I was working for a druggist who
lived on the outskirts of town and had to bring
him the supper-lunch at night. It was very dark,
and on one place where the opposite side of the road
was masoned up with rocks and had no railing for protection, I stepped outside and fell down 7 or
8 feet. I got scratched up some in the face by
the branches of an apple tree down in the ditch,
and was bruised, but found that I could stand on
my feet. The first thing of concern was the lunch
-basket and its contents. Everything was all right,
except the handle was broken on my employer's mug,
and sure enough I got to hear from him about it!
Later, when they entertained company, they amused themselves at my expense as they told how
I had tumbled down off that treacherous place.
Oh! for bliss in the childhood years, to be home
with a mother and father and be enveloped in love,
as compared to having to get out and live among
the so-called higher-ups controlled by selfishness.
WE WERE GOING TO AMERICA!
In the spring of 1903, my sister Katrine and I
boarded a small steam-ship "Ryvingen" at Mandal en
route to Kristiansand [Oslo the capital and port],
and at that place got on board "Helig Olaf" for
America. With instructions from Brother Andrew, we
had the remnants at the dear old home place sold by
auction and with that money secured the tickets for
voyage and railroad-fare to Bryant, South Dakota,
where he was. Before entering upon this journey to
the New World, so far away and with no hopes to ever
return and see the Motherland again, we took a few
days off to visit the near and dear ones once more.
Upon visiting the Aunt Marie formerly mentioned, she
offered us sugar in the coffee, "because" as she
said, we were going to America.
THE ATLANTIC VOYAGE WAS MARVELOUS
The experience of feeding fish, also became
our experience while crossing the North Sea,
but the Atlantic Ocean voyage was marvelous.
[The two orphaned sisters arrived at New York
and were processed through Ellis Island's famous
Customs facilities, the point of entry for untold
millions of immigrants to America. Nothing much
is said about it, even so. No one wished to remain
in the custody of the all-powerful Customs officials
a moment more than necessary, and then it was a
scurry with dozens and hundreds of others to
the boats and ferries that would take the immigrants
to either lodgings in New York City or direct to
train depots for all points, but usually westward.
The sisters' chief concern was to pass the health exam,
since those who looked ill and were ill were detained
at Ellis and sometimes even sent back to their
native countries; fortunately for them and us their
descendants, they passed with flying colors--Eds]
I WORKED FOR TWO DIFFERENT FAMILIES
Shortly after arriving at Bryant, with the rest
we went to the City Hall to attend a Temperance
Lecture, but I did not understand a single word,
although the single word, "business," stuck in my
memory and later it found out its meaning. I worked
for the Rev. Haaland family one week to learn
American ways of doing things in baking bread, cake,
pie, etc. Then I got a place of work with the Mike
Cavenys, a Catholic family. They were nice to me
and to my surprise they were satisfied with my work.
Mrs. Caveny said, "Bessie sure makes good bread
(the Haalands advised the change of my name from
Bergit to Bessie.)." Of course, it made me happy,
and here I also learned some English.
A NORWEGIAN NEIGHBORLADY TRANSLATER
Twice, however, I sure was puzzled as to what
Mrs. Caveny meant. Two weeks after I started working
there, we were to wall paper the bedroom. She told me
to go into the kitchen and get a roll of wall paper
--and finally I guessed it. Another time she told me
to pour the boiling potato-water on some flour to use
in yeast for bread-making (called sponge). I just could
not understand it, so she took me over to a Norwegian
neighborlady and had her translate it. As she saw me
get the translation, her face brightened up like
the sun and began to smile, and we both went back
to the house laughing.
I MET THE PETER STADEM FAMILY
Never will I forget what Mrs. Haaland meant
to me and Katrine. She was just like a mother to me,
and such a wonderful Christian woman. I also made the
acquaintance of the Peter Stadem family, for their
step-daughter Marie chummed with my siser Katrine,
or Tina. Those people moved to Canton, South Dakota,
and some time afterwards Tina went down there. I was
working for the George Cole banking family, a nice
place, and they did not want me to leave--but go I
did.
I WISHED I HAD A CHRISTIAN BOYFRIEND
I arrived in Canton in the summer of 1905 and
went to work in various homes. Rev. P. H. Tetlie
was the pastor there, and we liked him immensely
as a spiritual father. We attended the prayer
meetings held in the different homes, but we
were the only young people to attend, it seemed.
I recall how I often wished I had a Christian
boyfriend, but did not in my ignorance know how
to pray for such things.
ALFRED IS COMING HOME!
I worked for a Methodist family,
the Edgar Deans, the last two years of my
unmarried life. In the fall of 1907, one
evening my girlfriend Marie (who formerly
chummed with Tina until she got married)
said to me, "I'm going down to Ma and Pa's
tonight. Alfred is coming home." I went along
too. Alfred Stadem had been farming and batching
up in Clark County two years. I had seen him
a few times before. He was eating supper when
we arrived at the Stadems.
ALFRED WANTED ME FOR HIS WIFE
It had become our privilege and habit to go
down to Ma and Pa (as we girls called Mr. and Mrs.
Peter Stadem) on Sunday afternoons, visit, play,
and sing. We were always welcome. We would have
supper and then would go together to Luther League.
This Alfred of theirs and I soon became real good
friends, yes to the extent that he wanted me for
his wife and I wanted him for my husband. We both
to this day think it was God's will and now after
about thirty years are as happy as we were that
memorable day, August 19th, 1908, was our wedding day,
and thank God for His mercy and grace and the blessing
to our union of nine well-born children to gladden
our home. But most of all, we are thankful that
they love their Savior and are trying to live their
lives for God.
God's Little
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