~Hello to all you chatters out there! This page is a page about
somthing that i feel very strong about. It is about how people
react to people who are not what they appear or want! Just
because people are not pretty or handsome does not mean that they
are any different from you or I.
I had a run in with someone whom I shall not name. But this girl
had a relationship with a very dear friend of mine. He told her
things he had never told anyone before. He shared his feelings
and his thoughts with this girl. She telling him things like I
love you and want to be with you. She also sharing her feelings
with him. Than at one point in this relationship they deceided
to go one step further on the web and meet in reality. He drove
2 hours to see what he thought was going to be the love of his
life. He bought her flowers and he brought her is heart. She
shot him down by telling him that he was not what she expected.
She of course knew him inside but he was not what she wanted on
the outside. That night he came to me in chat, telling me as to
what had transpired that afternoon, telling me that he felt he
was not good enough for anybody and wondered if he would ever
find a woman who would love him for who he was, inside and out.
It bout broke my heart to see him like this as he was always so
upbeat and funny and witty. I knew he was special from the time
I met him in the chat house. He was heart broken and feeling
that he was not this great model type of man. I kept quite about
this and kept my feelings to myself whenever I saw this girl in
the house. Til one day she told another friend that she had
missed him and thought she was falling in love with him. That
night in chat he asked me to post his picture of him so that she
could see what he looked like. Now this man is handsome and a
very nice man, but I knew she would not like him after she saw
his picture, after much discussion with him on this subject I
posted his pic both to her and to him at the same time. He got
it and I know she did too. Well after about 6 or 7 posts and her
not saying anything she just up and left. He never heard from
her again. He tried to write to her and ask what was wrong, she
never replied. I guess he did not meet her standards either.
To me this girl will be alone most of her life. If she is looking
for Mr. Perfect to come along on his white horse and carry her
off into the sunset, she is sadly mistaken, for there is not one
person who is perfect.
We all have flaws of some kind, whether it be outside or inside.
What is it about the human race that some people cannot get past
the exterior and look for what is important, and that is what is
in the inside of a person. Their hopes and dreams are like any
body elses. We all have this dream of finding the perfect love
and having this perfect life. There is no such thing. To be
able to look at a person and find out who they really are and to
see the inner beauty that they hold and really get to know a
person from the inside out is a person who will always have my
respect and my friendship.
Respect is something we must earn from people. People who don't
respect the feelings of others are a shallow individual who think
only of themselves.
Did you ever in school make fun of the person who was fat, had
bad skin, or a disability? Sure we all did that at one time or
another because it helped you to fit in with your friends. That
is what I was like in shcool. I was a cool person and had all
these cool people around me. But you know what? My best friend
was one of those "uncool" peeps. One that my other friends would
make fun of cause her clothes were not what we call "in". I
never made fun of her but I said nothing when my so called
friends did. This hurt her deeply but she never said anything to
me about it, and you know what? When i got into some trouble with
the law, guess who was there for me? Yes you guessed it most likely. It was her. Not my cool friends who I thought were my
real friends but my uncool friend. She was the one who gave me a
shoulder to cry on. She was the one who came over every night to
keep me company when I was grounded. I dropped those friends
and gave her some of my clothes and you know what? Nobody picked
on her again. I guess looking back on that time it was I who was
the ugly one. I was ugly on the inside. But my friend was the
one who was both pretty on the inside and the outside, she saw
goodness in me even tho I treated her with disrespect, and to
this day she is still my best friend.
I guess what I am trying to say here is, that in each and every one of us there is goodness and kindness. All we have to do is
to be able to look beyond the flaws and see the beauty that is
really and truely there. For all of us are in our own ways a
unique and special individual. Looking for love and acceptance
in todays society. Please see if you can look past appearances
and try to see what is in the heart of people. I gaurantee you
will not be disapointed 99% of the time.
Thank you for taking time out to read this and am sorry if I have
bored you in anyway, but I felt this was somthing I had to get
out of my system, cause you see when my friends hurt? I do too.
Once again, thank you.
~Respect others as you would repect yourself.~To earn respect, you have to give respect.~
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