The following is a summary adaptation of material from "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace.
Used by permission.
Lesson Twelve
September 13 - 19
Chapter Five
A WIFE'S UNDERSTANDING OF MARRIAGE
Mrs. Peace starts this chapter by telling us of a high school reunion she attended. There she renewed her acquaintance with one of her classmates. He told her how the school counselor had told him he would never be accepted into a prestigious engineering school in their town and if he did get accepted into the school, he would never graduate. The man, however, proved the counselor wrong. He not only was accepted but graduated four years later and 30 years later is still reaping the benefits of pursuing his goal.
In our previous lesson we have learned about the Trinity as our example of perfect oneness. Now we are going to learn how the husband and wife are to minister to each other (mutual sanctification) through pursuing God's purpose or goal for marriage.
2. Commit to a biblical course of action.
3. Take
personal responsibility for your own failure & repent.
4. Submit to and
participate in the process of "mutual sanctification."
You begin by asking God to show you the sin in
your life. In Matthew 7:3-5, the Lord Jesus teaches that one must examine
themselves to get the sin out of their own life before pointing someone else's sin
out to them. You must make sure your life is in order before you can see clearly
enough to confront your husband with the sin in his life. Humbly ask God to
show you your sin.
1. By convicting you when you
read or hear God's Word.
(Hebrews 4:12)
2. By having
someone tell you. (Proverbs 27:5,6; Ephesians 5:25)
When
this faithful friend helps you to see a sin problem in your life, you should
respond with a grateful heart, confessing the sin and turning awayfrom
it. It is never pleasant to have our fault pointed out to us, but
when we respond in an angry or defensive way, we are just adding
to our sin. To begin the practical working out of mutual
sanctification, we have to first remove the sin from ourown
lives.
On page 36 Mrs. Peace defines
Mutual sanctification as;"Mutual sanctification in marriage is the biblical
process of helping each other become as much like the Lord Jesus Christ as
possible."
The husband as spiritual leader is to help his wife grow and
mature as a Christian (I Peter 3:7). As his "helper suitable" the wife is to help her
husband grow and mature as a Christian also.
Mrs. Peace explains on pages 36-37 "The word
sanctification, in the Bible comes from the root word hagios,
whichmeans to be holy. There are three main categories of sanctification
taught in Scripture: positional, progressive, and
future."
-Positional sanctification occurs at salvation. God
convicts a man of his sin,cleanses him through the shed blood of Jesus Christ
and saves his soul. (II Thessalonians 2:13)
-Future santification will
occur when the Lord Jesus returns to take His church to be with Him and gives
each member a new sanctified body that is pure and holy. (Jude
24)
-Progressive sanctification is what we areconcerned with now.
It begins at conversion and will end when we go to be with the
Lord.
Now we are instructed in the Word to
"grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ." (II Peter
3:18)We are to work to become more like Christ.
Mutual
sanctification is the husband and wife working together to be molded in the
image of Christ.
Next
week we will learn some ways God helps us to become more like Christ. Let us
start now by praying that God will work in our marriages, searching His Word for
our course of action, confessing our failures and actively pursuing to notonly
become more like Christ ourselves, but encouraging our husbands in this pursuit
also. Taken from "The Excellent
Wife" by Martha Peace, pp 33-45.Copyright 1999, Focus Publishing, Bemidji,
Minnesota. Used with permission for the purposes of this devotional series only.
May not be reproduced or forwarded without the express consent of
the publisher.