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One issue that saddens me, and is perhaps the root of the other family issues I deal with throughout my site, is the way our church treats families. Walk into a typical church for service on Sunday morning and you'll be directed to put your infant in one room (the nursery), your 5 year old in another room (younger kids' Children's Church), and your 8 year old in another (older kids' Children's Church) while you, the parents, go to yet another room (the Sanctuary) to worship our Lord and God in an adult manner. Look at a typical church's list of activities for the week and you'll see items like: men's basket ball, senior high youth group, junior high youth group, mom's morning out. Ask the typical Pastor in charge of Family Ministry what his church is doing to support families and he'll point you back to the nurseries, the youth groups and the like. At first glance, these may seem like they strengthen the family, but instead they perpetrate the worldly view that children are a burden, society belongs to adults, and being together as a family is too much effort. They elevate the importance of peer groups over family. Please don't misunderstand me here, I think peer group activities have their place and serve a purpose when priorities are in order. Unfortunately, the Christian Church has mixed up priorities that the Scriptures make clear. Throughout the week, a church's activities can be broken down into 2 types: primary functions, those that are the churches reason for being and secondary functions, lots of great activities that are designed to build up the believers and encourage fellowship. I consider the primary activities of the church to be the weekend service and one major Bible study. I do not believe there is any room for peer group separation here. Secondary activities would be things like extra Bible studies (women's, men's), youth groups, sports, dinners, and the like. Here, peer group separation is acceptable if, as I said above, priorities are kept in order.
Heidi's Note:
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