By: Emily Pearl Kingsley
"I am often asked to describe the experience of raising
a child with a disability...to imagine how it would feel.
It's like this...
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a
fabulous vacation trip to Italy...
After months of anticipation, the day finally arrives...
The plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says,
'Welcometo Holland.'.
'Holland?!' you say. 'What do you mean, Holland?
I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy.'
'But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've
landed in Holland and there you must stay.'
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a
horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence,
famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So now you must go out and buy new guidebooks. And you
must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole
new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for awhile and you catch your breath, you look around and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills, Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy, and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there, and for the rest of your life you will say, 'Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned.'
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever go away, because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.
But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you
didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland."
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Ten Commandments of the Deaf Community
And a dash of finger spelling, a pinch of A.S.L., and a heaping of A.S.L. history
deep thoughts on deafness
(now sing it with feeling :-)
"Que sera, sera, whatever will be, will be. The future is not ours to see! Que sera, sera!"
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