I prefer to keep this softer side of me secret. I have laid my soul bare. As a private person, I can't afford to bare my identity at the same time. But rest assured that anyone who is seriously interested in me will eventually get to know all about me. If you don't want to call me "modest", then pick a name for me. In fact, anyone who gives a serious response will be told a better name to call me.
I didn't want to write an autobiography; tried to keep it short. This page is only the beginning. If you see any possibility, let me know about yourself; also feel free to ask me questions. Remember that lasting friendships can be started with a simple hello.
I'm a timid & private person, contrary to the impression that you might get from my web-pages. I'm going this far only because I have been having this deep need to find my other half, my way. And remember that it might be you.
Here we go:
(by the way, all of the following items are different pieces of this tall page)
Well; that means I'm 34 yrs old now. It sure is more than a billion seconds, but think about these people: Michael Jordan, Charles Barkley, Whitney Houston, George Michael, Helen Hunt, Gary Kasporov. They were all born in '63, and no one would dare to call them old! And, to be fair to myself, I should mention that everyone that I have questioned thinks I'm less than 34 yrs.
You might ask as to what have I accomplished! I'd say that while their lives are at a dead end, mine is just beginning 
. I have been thru' many things, which most people would consider significant achievements.
As you might have already guessed, I'm of the "intellectual type"(I had actually used the word "geek" here, but Mimi told me that I should be proud of myself). I have several college degrees including a B.S. in Engineering, which I did to only please my parents. Years later I decided to study what interests me, and here I'm in graduate school, styding a certain pure science. And this is what I'd want to do even if I were 60 today!
Few responders had also appreciated my artistic side, which is completely unknown to those who know me personally. Currently, I have a high sense of appreciation for art, and very little talent. In contrast, I had no artistic talent at all in the past, so I guess it's never too late.
So where do my pursuits carry me ? Well; I enjoy what I'm doing, and what I'm learning. Can't ask for more! If things works out well, I'll be toiling for a public educational system somewhere out there. Most people wouldn't consider that success, but I consider teaching to be the most noble career. And if I do really well, then I should be able to reach the top of what I study; but this wouldn't happen unless I find the right woman. Remember that behind every successful man, there's a woman(No; I'm not talking about the women who are behind the wallets of rich men )
And if you are a suitable woman interested in me, then you could even end up becoming my biggest accomplishment!
Most people would do whatever brings them the most money, or whatever the others think they are good for. But:
I'm an admirer of simple life. Well; if you think one has to be homeless in order to live a simple life, then you don't have a clue as to what I'm talking about. As a matter of fact simplicity and modesty can be practised even from a castle(but I don't live in one ).
The things at the top of my desiderata are things that money can't buy. I'm also a very practical man. Among other things, I prefer to get exercise while working. Twice a week I run 7 blocks up-hill on the way to work.
I have been of the philosophical type since childhood. Eleven years ago I (re-)discovered God. Since my beliefs are simply my choice, and not an inheritance, I have not been heavily indoctrinated. As a result, I am open-minded enough to accomodate a Christian, Jew or even a Moslem. Moreover, I don't preach - no one has ever been able to change my views, and I'd never want to change anyone's views either! Even if you don't believe in God, we might still be compatible in many other respects. Keep reading!
As a matter of fact, I judge people only by what they have chosen to be, and by what they aspire to be, and not by what they have inherited. Similarly, the picture of me that I paint here also mostly depicts my choices, hopes and dreams. In fact, I'm such a dreamer that I expect this homepage of mine to work .
I really haven't until now, since I never really felt a need. To tell the truth, I was married for 10 years to a woman who fell for my looks & wit. She tried to pretend that she thought along the same lines as I do. After 5 years we wanted to split, but some of our friends managed to convince us to stay together. The marriage wasn't going anywhere, and finally we became so far apart in our careers and dreams that we weren't having anything in common. So we got divorced early this year. And she is now happily married to someone like her. She hasn't told me that yet, but I'm certain that she is thanking me for pushing for that divorce. When I got together with her I was just past the teens, and wasn't quite thiking about women in any deep sense. Perhaps the only reason why we got together was because both of us were "nice", and had trouble saying "NO" to certain things.
For the last two years or so, I have been feeling a deep need for someone to inspire me and share life with. Since I don't want anyone else or myself to make the mistake of getting into an imperfect relationship, just because we have trouble saying NO, I decided to do my search this way. Here on the web, there's no pressure for anyone to feel obliged, so hopefully I'd be able to find someone who is just like me in many respects.
On the other hand, if I'm really a one in a million(well; I personally think I'm about "one in a hundred"), and I can't find my other half, then that'll be a sad day. Still,
Since I'm naturally somewhat "Modest", the presentation up to now might not have indicated anything good about me. So here we go(in fairness to myself):
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The bottom-line is that this web-page doesn't tell "All" about me. In some sense, I may also have humorously painted a negative picture. I have not mentioned(somewhat deliberately) my hobbies, but you can learn a lot about them by browsing thru' my home pages. Moreover, I'm not looking for someone who also matches the above description. Continue down the page to learn what I'm looking for in a woman. Feel free to take the first step.
As in my ads, I'm looking for a soft, kind, gentle, mature, responsible woman. The age is unimportant; 18 at heart would be just fine. Someone who has interests similar to mine; preferably someone who is willing to take me as I am. But let us not forget that according to Claudia "The essence of compatibility is not in how similar living organisms are, but in whether they can thrive together in the same environment". A perfect match would be difficult to find, and might even be boring, so if you see a strong partial match let me know. Maybe someday, I'll share your little distant cloud.
Some answers to questions of the usual type:
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Someone who really understands me from what's shown here should also be able to figure out what kind of compromises are possible with me. I have just formulated the basic traits that I'm looking for(BTW, thanks to Gayle for putting me up to this):
(1). softness/kindness/gentleness/humility
(2). commitment to(or at least admiration of) simplicity
(3). maturity/responsibility/far-sightedness
(4). faith in God.
As I feel now, I'd consider it a good match if I can find someone who is strong in at least 2 of these, mild in one, and not offensive in the remaining one. In some sense this is all I'm looking for. And the match doesn't have to be that strong for us to begin as friends. I'm open to new friends as long as we have something in common. So feel free to proceed with cautious optimism. Who knows; it might work.
Two different views of me! Sure; it's not what you expected to see. But think about it this way: What I have painted above in words is a picture of me. In fact, you now know more about me than my Mom does! The traditional way is to fall for someone just for looks, and then spend a few years trying to figure out. I do things in the reverse! I have chosen to bare my soul, and keep my body secret for now. And I can assure you that I look as gentle as I appear here. Anyone who is not turned-off by my description will hopefully not be turned-off by my look.
If you desperately need to see a beautiful picture right now, you may click here. On the other hand, if you only want to see a part of me, here's one of my fingerprints. It doesn't look very clear, but I think of that little island in the middle as the one I'm trying to reach.
Contrary to the unusual nature of my life and my presentation, I look very much normal. Of course, just like everything else that I say here, you surely will have to take my words for now. What will you lose if you don't like me in person? (Or, for that matter, if I don't like you in person) Well; a few hours of on-line time. Even in that case, the conversations and reflections would give us an opportunity to learn about ourselves. We might end up discovering what exactly we're looking for. So feel free to take the first step.
Let's face it; most visitors would not be interested in me, since I'm a rare character. To find my other half, I probably need a lot of help! In particular, if you are not interested in me, but know someone who could possibly be interested in someone like me, bring this to her attention. By doing so, you'll be helping me, and I could also possibly help you by putting one of your competitors out of business .
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For now I say goodbye to love; I'm going for peace first. Cheers & Good Luck to all of you!
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