Since posting my queries to various message boards and surname databases, I have received numerous emails from individuals looking for a connection with my family tree. For the most part, folks have been very polite and helpful, and I even found a cousin! :-)

But once in a while, I'll get an email from someone saying, "Send me information about your so and so line." or "Please send me info on such and such in your such and such line." without providing any information THEY have found. I think most of you can relate to me when I say that although I am very eager and willing to share information about my ancestors to help fellow researchers, I am also very protective of said information and will not "spill the beans" to just anyone that emails me. Not only do I consider the previous request examples rude, but also selfish, which is the total opposite of what genealogy is about.

All I and other genealogists are asking is that people use a bit more common sense and courtesy when emailing other genealogists, particularly those they do not know. Approach queries posted on message boards and surname databases as you would an invitation to a dinner party. When you attend a dinner party, you bring the host or hostess a nice gift --- a bottle of wine, a nice candle....etc. When the party is over, you thank the host/hostess for their hospitality. A day or so later, you send the host/hostess a thank you note. Well, a genealogist's email inbox is their "dinner party" and when you stop by, be sure to bring a gift --- the name(s) you're researching, vital stats (if available), where you found the person's query....etc. And be sure to thank the person for taking the time to read your request and/or helping you in your search.

You'd be surprised how much easier your research will be if you follow the above protoccol. Hey...it helped me find a cousin! :-)

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