Love is all she ever knew...
Born on: Friday, March 1, 2002
at:
3:52 a.m.
in:
Good Samaritan Hospital, Portland, OR
Delivered by:
Dr. Sang
Ht:
7 in. Wt.: 3.75 oz.
Hair:
None Eyes: Closed
Mommy:
Julie
Daddy:
Mark
Funeral: March 4, 2002 at St. Cecilia Catholic Church in Beaverton, OR
Buried:  March 5, 2002 at St. Anthony Cemetery in Tigard, OR
I'm a Girl!
Julie and Mark sorrowfully announce
the birth and death of their daughter

Kayla Faye Marie
on March 1, 2002, at 3:52 am, 3.75 oz, 7 inches.

She came and went in an instant taking with her a lifetime of hopes and dreams.  We will miss not knowing the warmth of her touch, the chorus of her voice, and the patter of her feet. 
We will hold her in our hearts forever.
This ultrasound was taken on the last day we saw Kayla alive, February 13, 2002 (Ash Wednesday).  That same day she waved "goodbye" to us.  The Doctors knew something was wrong but not exactly what or why.  There was nothing we could do but love her and give her back to God.  We were able to hold her in our arms for one day,  but we'll hold her in our hearts forever.
“Before I formed you in the womb,
I knew you.  Before you were born, I set you apart.” ~ Jeremiah 1:5

"God Knew Your Name"
~ Larry Stewart
Mark’s Note to our Youth Group Members, March 4, 2002

Dear Middle School Youth Group,

We wanted to write a little note to say that we are sorry that we cannot be here with you tonight.  Sometimes life takes some unexpected turns and we have found ourselves in the middle of a big one.  We are thankful to know that you are in good hands with all of the leaders.  We trust that you will treat them with respect and good behavior.

Four months ago we found out that we were pregnant.  Words cannot describe the emotions that this news can bring.  At first we didn’t know what to think.  We were nervous that we wouldn’t be good parents, or that our lives would be changed forever.  Well, the second thing has certainly come true.  Our lives have been changed forever.  All of you have heard the expression, “God works in mysterious ways.”  Never before has that phrase hit home for us like it does now.

Two weeks ago we went to have a routine ultrasound.  We were able to see the baby move and also see the heart beat.  It is so amazing to see your own baby inside the womb.  Later that evening, our doctor called to tell us that it looked like something was wrong.  So we scheduled a more detailed ultrasound with a specialist two days later.  After spending 3 hours doing the ultrasound and another 2 hours talking with a specialist, we were left with the heart wrenching news that our baby’s lungs were not developing and the baby would not be able to breathe after birth.  The doctor said that the baby might live for 3 minutes or possibly up to 6 hours.  But the condition the baby had was almost always fatal.

We have struggled with this news for the last two weeks.  We went from nervous excitement when we found out about our pregnancy, to extreme excitement and anticipation about having our own child, to a feeling of despair and helplessness.

Now our time of waiting and not knowing what’s going to happen is over.  On Friday March 1, we were in the hospital and delivered our baby girl, Kayla Faye Marie Wagner at 3:52am.  “Kayla” means beloved sweetheart, “Faye” means faith, and “Marie” is a form of Mary, the Mother of God, and means sea of bitterness. 

The good news is she is now in heaven with our Lord.  The bad news is that we will never get to hold her, hear her cry, or play with her.  She will be deeply missed, but we know we have a little saint in heaven praying for us.

As it turns out, we are pretty good parents after all.  For those of you in the Sacraments class, you know that the most important thing for a parent to do is to help get their child to heaven.  Kayla is there.

God Bless all of you,
Julie & Mark
Article
"Why Carry a Dying Child?"
by Fr. Frank Pavone
Article
"Our Beloved Sweetheart Kayla"
by Julie & Mark, as submitted to Brief Encounters Newsletter, October 2002
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