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On January 25,1996 MORRIS POSTED THE QUESTION 'WHAT DO YOU DISLIKE ABOUT BEING FAT?"
Not feeling well physically. Jeopardizing my health, increasing the risk of heart attack, etc. Not having clothes that fit. Not being able to buy "stylish" clothes.
THE SOUL WOULD HAVE NO RAINBOWS IF THE EYES HAD NO TEARS
awkwardness in physical movements
That thinking about it takes up most of my day (serious)
That I should be getting buff from moving it all the time (lighter vein)
My answer....Fear.
putting on clothes that are just a little too tight and then feeling so uncomfortable that every time you turn or reach forward the clothes pull or stretch over your body and remind you that you are fat.
Walking into a gym and immediately feeling like everyone is glaring at me. I work on campus, and have to make house calls to Phys ed... it's Hell.
I think what I hate most is what I look like and how others treat me.
Not feeling good about myself - feeling ugly.
The way people look at me. The comments people yell out their car windows as I am walking and they are driving by. The way I feel when I see myself in the tall long mirrors. The things I cannot do anymore - sit cross legged sit on the floor and still get up gracefully
I think the thing I most dislike about being fat is the difficulty it causes me in moving around. I can't reach my shoes to tie them, (because it's hard to reach around my big belly), I can barely get up off the floor or out of my favorite easy chair, I huff and puff on the stairs, my feet, knees and ankles hurt, and my thighs rub together at the top and when I wear shorts, they "creep" up in the center and I'm always tugging them back down. My bras cut into my flesh around my chest. My double chin makes me look older than I am. I even got to the point where I had difficultly laying in certain positions in bed because my stomach felt like it was cutting off my air supply. My back hurts all the time (I think it's from holding up that pregnant looking belly non-stop). I have a hard time getting out of my car and in the summer I have a real hard time getting out of our Corvettes - I hadn't thought about that in a while!
You asked: " What do you dislike about being fat?"
The thing I most dislike about being fat is the insidious way it seeps into
every moment of consciousness. When you are very fat like me it is
impossible to do ANYTHING without dealing with it...simply standing up,
getting dressed, whatever...being fat is there. I literally feel "weighed
down", so that the simplest things are harder, and the simplest pleasures
are not so enjoyable. It is a kind of a prison, and I long to be free.
1) My looks
2) My physical problems exacerbated
3) Finding seats on airlines, in movies/theater, etc. tight and
uncomfortable!
4) Shopping in "plus" sizes only
5) Needing to return "gift" clothing for a larger size (or refund if the
store doesn't have larger sizes)
6) Not being able to do the ACTIVE things my family does
7) Being extremely uncomfortable in humidity
8) Being very reluctant to join social groups I don't know because of my
weight; especially cocktail parties, etc. my husband's firm is sponsoring
etc., etc., etc.
jeans that don't fit once you wash them...
having to hold in my stomach around pretty women...
seeing myself in the mirror when I get out of the shower...
having to unloose my belt after a meal...
not being able to see my feet or tie my shoes...
having to ask my girl friend to cut my toenails...
...etc...ad infinitum, ad nauseum...
1.) I hate that I am always tired and run down
2.) I hate shopping for clothes, especially when I see size 9 stuff going
on sale long before the "plus" clothes do.
3.) I hate that at 28 I don't feel desirable or sexy even though my husband
is wonderful and supportive, he never comments negatively about my weight- I
can't make him understand that regardless of how often he tells me he loves
me the way I am- I can't make myself feel sexy.
Being Fat requires so much extra energy, that there is little energy left for prolonged sexual stamina.
I dislike people staring at me in malls.
I dislike not being able to find clothes that fit.
I dislike having to ask for a table instead of a booth at restaurants.
I hate not being able to look good in a bathing suit!!
When I'm fat, I'm more tired all of the time. I don't like the way I feel. My clothes are uncomfortable. It's harder to wake up in the morning. And, yes, I don't like the way I look.
I dislike being fat because I hate being treated as though I'm invisible.
I dislike the extremely painful bone spurs that form on the bottoms of my heels only when I am fat. I dislike looking in the mirror and seeing a bulge of fat hanging off my belly. I dislike feeling uncomfortable in a bathing suit because I love to swim so much. I dislike not being able to play and romp with my kids or take a long stroll without being out of breath! (And I don't even smoke anymore!) I dislike not being able to get into the tub for a nice hot soak because I can't cover this big body with water..not enough room in the tub! (Even worse is when I get out of the tub, seeing only 3 inches of water in the tub, and yet when I'm in there, it's nearly overflowing!!) I dislike the resentment I have for not being able to get the kind of job that I know I'd be good at for fear of being laughed at or rejected, and not being able to find clothes that look nice enough to have those kinds of jobs anyway! You asked for it..you got it..
I could say the health aspects of it, but when I think hard on the question it boils down, for me, to social unacceptance. Intellectually I realize that nobody cares as much about my appearance as I do, and I live a rich and full life. But deep inside, I've always had the feeling that someone would come up behind me, tap me on the shoulder, and ask me to leave. Wow! that was real hard to admit.
What I dislike is what other people see, think and say about me.
A LOT !!!
Not being able to go into a store and buy whatever clothing item I want, the
back pain associated with carrying around too many extra pounds, not being
able to participate in things either because I wouldn't be caught dead doing
it at this weight or because I am unable to at this weight, the
self-conscious feelings, my 4 yr old telling me I can't do something with
him because I'm too fat...
I hate my thighs rubbing together when I walk, but I would hate it more if my
ankles rubbed together when I walk.
I hate it when I am riding my bicycle and some wise guy says, "Hey Lady,
where's
the wide load sign on the back of that thing!!""
I hate it when I feel guilty about every good thing I eat.
I hate it when I eat things and feel guilty later.
I hate it when people bring treats into the office and I give in.
I hate being fat on the beach with all those great shapes.
I hate being fat because it robs us of self confidence..if only in our mind.
I hate being fat because I feel obligated to exercise.
I hate being fat because I hate water but have to drink it!!
I hate being fat because my husband would like me thinner.
I dislike having to search for clothes. I dislike the feeling that the first think people notice about me is my weight. It's like they can't get beyond that to see I am more than visual. I think I feel ok, but I dislike being made to feel like I am not healthy.
The reason I hate being fat is that I don't feel attractive anymore. I don't like the way I look, or how my clothes fit!
I dislike the feeling of being out of control, of being outside, of being not "normal", of being "weird", of always being conspicuous, of being embarrassed, of appearing weak, of not being free to do many things, of being obsessed with food, of feeling I've failed ....but mostly not liking myself. All these things raise the issue of what I/we like about it or (at least) find useful about it
I have to shop in the FAT ladies store and can't wear the styles that I like. I don't feel sexy anymore.
I dislike EVERYTHING ABOUT BEING FAT!!!
I dislike the pain in my ankles after walking for a long time (sometimes a
short time), the pain in my lower back.
The half-looks from men.
The not-so-stylish plus size clothes.
I dislike not being on the beach for the past four years, because of the
shame of my
body.
I dislike the closetness-like lifestyle I lead... only going to dinner or
other food functions, but too self conscious to go to a club and party.
I dislike me--- for letting myself become FAT...
What I dislike about being fat is the effect on mobility- I get winded by slightest exertion. But, I am working on it!!
I dislike how I look in clothes and that makes my self-esteem drop way low. I also hate how people look at every bite you eat and make you feel like you have no self control whatsoever. I also dislike that every thin person out there seems to think, "geez, how hard is it for you to lose weight? Just don't eat so much and diet. No big deal." Well, it is a big deal, I only wish it were as cut and dry as that.
1. Difficulty tying my shoes
2. A dismal selection of clothing and not being able to shop in the same
stores as my friends.
3. Having clothes dig into my skin (particularly the waistbands of pants)
4. Wearing out the inseams of my pants before anything else (due to my
legs rubbing together.
5. Having fat be the first thing people notice about me as I walk in the room
6. Feeling embarrassed when I eat a fatty food in public.
7. Difficulty fitting into public seating.
8. Having people think I'm lazy.
9. Not feeling able to take part in active pursuits with social groups
because I hold people back,
10. Facing people who knew me when I was thinner and haven't seen the
"new" me
11. Decreased flexibility
12. Not being able to have acrobatic sex.
13. Difficulty finding sexy lingerie.
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I hate my thighs rubbing together when I walk!!!
I dislike the lack of energy that age and weight have brought on.
I don't like having to think about a strategy every time I walk into a
restaurant.
I don't like people looking at me,
I don't like the hygiene problems
I don't like hating myself
I don't like being treated different
I don't like the fact that I got fat because of having Breast Cancer
and not the controlling factor in weight gain.
I don't like wearing fat clothes
I don't like the way I look
I don't like not being able to look in the mirror
I don't like having to take medication that makes me feel awful to
start my metabolism
I don't like life in general being fat
I don't like to listen to intrusive people tell me what they think
when they don't even know all the circumstances
I dislike being fat because so many people are biased against fat people (for whatever reason) and won't even consider getting to know, and value you as a friend/person.
That my clothes are tight, I get out of breath, I feel different around people smaller than myself.
Well, I don't like looking like my grandmother!
I don't like not being able to fit into some seats.
I hate not being able to easily buy clothes.
I hate having to think about what I'm eating.
I dislike running out to the mailbox and feeling winded.
I dislike stretching my arms out behind me and coming to a stop because the fat
in between my shoulder blades is blocking the way.
I dislike the bruises I get on my hips from bumping into things because they
my hips are so wide.
I dislike the way the inner thighs in my pants fray and get holey because of
my thighs rubbing together.
I dislike looking at pictures where my eyes are slits and my double chin is
pronounced.
I dislike the marks that are
left on my body from a tight waistband.
What I dislike most about being fat is the way other people treat me. I hate going into public places and feel conspicuous because of my weight, funny thing is though is they looked at me because I was sexy looking it wouldn't bother me one bit.
In answer to your question?????(What do I dislike about being fat?)
So so many things I could list, but the number one is : Not having the
energy to do much of anything and not feeling good. Always tired. If I try
to walk I just cant at the weight I am at.
I dislike being fat because I do not look good in outfits that appeal to me. Specifically jeans, halter tops, boots, tennis skirts and yes, swim wear.
The thing I hate most about being fat the lack of agility that causes me to avoid many things I would like to do.
I dislike being fat because it makes it difficult to do things with my children. Playing soccer or just running around outside with them.
I dislike walking past mirrors, windows, or any reflective surface and thinking that no matter what I wear, or how I stand, there is no hiding the fact that I am fat and I know if I can see it so can the whole world. I can feel sick, and tired fat or slim but while slim at least my clothes hang correctly.
I dislike being fat because it saps my energy and makes me feel lethargic.
Not being able to move around the way I used to. Sometimes I forget how big I am, and I end up with major bruises on my hips.
Not being able to buy fashionable clothes.
What do you dislike about being fat? " The rolls".
I dislike my large stomach . I dislike the way my body looks. Do you understand? I am tired of being physically sick when I see myself.
The thing I hate most about being fat the lack of agility that causes me to avoid many things I would like to do.
I hate being overweight because your weight becomes the center of your world. You are always wondering if you look awful in the dress you have on or if your legs look fat sitting in that chair. I know it sounds stupid but they are valid points that I used to encounter and still encounter as I battle my last few pounds.
It's is hard to say what one thing I dislike about being fat. There are so many, I guess the biggest thing is being tired all the time and not feeling good. Everything hurting from carrying around all the extra weight. Next would be looking at myself in the mirror and thinking that can't be me. On and on.
One of my problems is that I don't FEEL fat but then I see how fat I look in
the mirror, in pictures and on video. I look at pictures of myself when I
was in the Navy and I looked great and now I'm a mess. I don't like what I
see in the mirror anymore.
I'm sick and tired of being sick (obese) and tired.
Not being able to buy clothes in the "regular" size sections of the store..
Not fitting in airplane seats
Not being attractive to the opposite sex
Not being able to do all the things I want to do physically
I miss feeling completely comfortable with my body. The thing I dislike most is the limited choices I have in clothing. Clothes are either ugly, ill-fitting or too expensive. Fashions that look good on thin people don't always look good on a fat person.
1. Sore feet all the time
2. Tired legs all the time
3. Ugly old lady clothes
4. Varicose veins
5. seat belts (I always wear mine though)
6. Restaurant booths
7. Being out of breath
8. etc. etc. etc.
I dislike being fat for it gives me more aches and pains and makes my health suffer. I cannot do the things I could do when I was thinner. I also dislike being fat because I cannot wear the clothes that I want to.
A LOT !!!
Not being able to go into a store and buy whatever clothing item I want, the
back pain associated with carrying around too many extra pounds, not being
able to participate in things either because I wouldn't be caught dead doing
it at this weight or because I am unable to at this weight, the
self-conscious feelings, my 4 yr old telling me I can't do something with
him because I'm too fat...
I dislike having trouble being able to comfortably shave my legs...my
abdomen gets in the way to the point where I get out of breath and/or lose
my balance. I dislike having friction sores on my skin and reeking because
of sweat trapped between the extra folds of flesh.
The worst thing about being fat, is looking at magaines and seeing that almost
everyone is a size 5.
I dislike not being able to buy the best clothes...instead I have to buy
what fits. I dream of a closet where everything I have makes me feel like a
million bucks.
I dislike not being able to wear jeans.
I dislike not feeling comfortable in a bathing suit, even though I'm an
excellent swimmer.
I dislike feeling like "the fat one" in a group.
I dislike feeling like people think I'm a slob and unhealthy, even though my
heart, cholesterol, and lungs are healthier than most people.
I dislike feeling like my closet is out to get me.
I dislike the fact that men in stores and restaurants always flirt
with my thin sisters. (IMMATURE BUT TRUE)
I dislike that I'm going to have to exercise and watch my eating for the
rest of my life. (REALLY IMMATURE, BUT TRUE)
Not looking nice in my clothes.
I think what I dislike most about being fat is feeling "different". In a
land where being thin is the ideal, I feel out of place. At the beach,
shopping, in restaurants, I feel everyone is seeing me just as "the fat
girl" instead of me.
What I dislike most is how hard it is to move. One of the things that I
visualize about is feeling lighter and stronger, and moving all the time. ;-)
I dislike being fat because I cannot run or move fast. It is
painful to walk. It is hard to stand when I give a talk. I would like to
have the respect of people listening to what I have to say first instead of
looking at a fat body. Fat is self-consciousness, fat is unattractive, fat
is ego-deflating, fat is pain, fat is weakness, fat is joy deflating, fat is
an abomination of a happy lifestyle. This is what I dislike about fat.
Not being able to wear clothes that are a size 12... Having to wear clothes
that look like they are made for an old lady!!!!!!
What do you dislike about being fat?"
Finding stylish clothes that fit and
look good on
What do you dislike about being fat?"
The high probability of a fat person
getting a life threatening disease.
I hate the way I perceive other people perceive me. I feel that everyone
must be disgusted with the way I look just because I am.
1. Shopping for clothes, ever try finding stylish clothes size 14+.
2. Being out of breath.
3. Always being concerned about what you eat.
4. Having sets of fat clothes and skinny clothes.
I dislike not being able to fit into "normal" society.
I dislike having to shop at Plus stores and paying more money for larger items.
I dislike the leers and jokes of rude children trying to be so grown up.
I dislike people not looking at me for who I am, but responding to their first
impression of what I must be because of my weight. I am who I am, only that
nothing more and nothing less. I deserve the same chance as any "normal"
weighted person, only I don't always seem to get it.
What I dislike most about being fat is that I don't have the energy I need
to do the things I'd like to do. I get tired from carrying around an extra
100lbs that doesn't do me any good. I'd much prefer to have the energy to do
other activities with my husband and children.
I hate being fat because it is a constantly reminder of my loss of
control....my failure.
What I hate about being fat.
1. The way people look at you with disbelief when they see you eating.
Some of you might know what I mean. Even if you are eating something
healthy and it's lunch time or something. They look at you like they
are thinking "she should just stop eating"
2. People thinking that you are fat just because you eat too much. (there
are other reasons too, and reasons why a person overeats)
3. Going into the "full figure" sections of stores and only seeing stretch
pants and tops with stripes going the wrong way. I may be obese but I
shouldn't have to wear ugly clothes because of it.
4. Being out of breath just because of walking up stairs or something.
5. People judging you by the way you look and not what is important.
I'm sure I could go on and on.
I don't like the physical limitations and I don't like paying the high
prices at the "Fat Boys" shop.
What do I dislike about being fat?
MYSELF
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