But this is not how things work and this pour little girl gets sick to her stomach and cry's that she doesn't want to hear these things and why is she telling me this?! Come on people; this should not be happening to these children! Are you really that insecure and hard up for attention that you choose to look for it from your own children? Truly you could not be?!? If you are really this bad then find another adult to talk too, a therapist, or a friend, brother, sister, and/or parent, ANYONE other than you children! In actual fact this biomom telling this very story to her children, chose to give her children to their father, so she could move to another state with her boyfriend to put it in her own written words "To pursue a better life"! Well when this didn't work out as she'd pained, BM moved back to NY and moved in with her mother where she chose to call and visit her children every once and a while not only that, she also continues to try to find anyway and/or anyone possible for her to put the blame on. So when BM did in fact move back to NY, my SK's would ask my husband and I why BM doesn't visit or call them often? Well what can you say to a child with out downing their bio-parent? Not very much! So my husband and I talked it over together to try and come up with a way we could help the kids through this, and we decided to tell the kids that we don't know why BM doesn't call or visit much (which is basically true) and we talked to the kids themselves and asked them what my husband and I could do to help them with how they feel, which ended up turning into the very first of our "Family Meetings" to help each other in times of need. So out of bad we found good, and I hope you may too! And to all you strong families out there bonded with good morals, stay strong and at all times, no matter how hurt, angry, bitter or frustrated you will get, ALWAYS remember not to take it out on the children, that the children do not choose this life and be honest, would you choose to live a day in your child's life while they are going through these things?!? Living with an insecure BM who chooses to badmouth us to her children in NY  |
Our bio-mom sat with her 8 year old daughter and she begins to tell her how awful her stepmom was when she was growing up and that her stepmom kept her away from her own biomom till she was 16 years old. Then implies that this is what is happening to her kids also.