I know, I know...I can hear it now "Jeanine, who do you think CARES how you think things should be?" You know what? I DON'T CARE WHO CARES!!! I'm tired of rude people, mean people, lazy people and just plain evil people! I've decided to speak out at the very least since leading by example isn't working as well as I would have hoped.
I'll be honest, this part of my site is a product of a week from, well, you know, a bad week followed by a weekend alone to think. Also a few things from the weekend at my sister's wedding helped this along-but I won't delve into that right now. So-Here it is, MY list of Golden Rules. I don't know if this will help anyone but hey, I've got web space to burn and I think I'll feel better if I at least get this off my chest.
Rule 1: Don't wave your religion in anyone's face. If they want to learn about your beliefs as far as gods or other higher power/spirits, let them ask! I am tired of people tossing the Bible at me or trying to make me a witch, a witness, or some other religion that doesn't fit me or my life. Believe whatever you wish to, just stay open minded, willing to learn, to bend and to fight for others rights to believe and worship as they wish as long as it doesn't infringe on anyone else's basic rights.
Rule 2: Treat others not as you would wish to be treated, but as you hope someone else is treating your favorite relative. I always try and treat older folks as I hope my grandmother is being treated by her primary care givers. I try and treat the rest of the world as I hope they treat my family and loved ones.
Rule 3: When you take a job, do everything in your job description to the best of your ability for the agreed upon money. Remember, if you don't like the job, don't like the money or don't the people you work with, go find a new job! Don't just sit and complain! That being said, EVERYONE has a bad day now and then and its OK to vent, just not all the time.
Rule 4: If you make plans with someone, respect that person enough to be on time in the appointed place or have the decency to call with enough notice that it will not conflict with the other person's life too much. There is nothing I hate more than waiting around for someone who is always late! I am always early - on time and I expect it of others. Use your alarm clocks, actually get out of bed when they go off, it helps.
Rule 5: If you are in a relationship, remember, you chose to be there. To always say mean things about your partner/spouse only makes you look bad. If you are in a committed relationship-HONOR IT!! I am sick and tired of people who cheat on their partners! If you want so much to sleep with someone else, or date someone else, then have the guts to admit it to your partner's face! I love my partner, I try and make sure she knows that I will NEVER cheat on her. Yes, its normal to feel infatuations for other people on occasion but we are humans, we can control our urges and respect our relationships. It causes far too much pain for someone when they find out they weren't good enough to be faithful to, never mind good enough for basic honesty.
Rule 6: BE HONEST! If something hurts you, makes you
happy, makes you fearful, BE HONEST with the people in your life! I will not lie to
my girlfriend nor will I lie about her. Its a respect issue both for her and myself.
To lie about her is to deny her importance in my life. If people can't handle that
she is my lover, best friend and partner then its THEIR problem! To lie to my
girlfriend is to show such disregard for her feelings, thoughts, opinions and importance
to me that I can't believe people lie to their spouses as much as they do. I'm not
talking white lies like " no we aren't having a surprise party for you
dear". I mean big stuff like who you are hanging out with while they are out of
town, how much you really drink, did you pay the rent...stuff like that.
I guess that's the most important stuff. If I think of more things I'll add them in as I have time. OH! Be more courteous on the roadways please! There is NO reason for all the mean drivers we have now. LET that car merge darn it! pull off to the side of the road when waiting for someone, try not to double park or block people in. OK? Glad we cleared that up. Now go, be nice to someone you don't even know.
