1.Take
your time. The creation of anything worthwhile takes patience and energy.
You don't build a relationship overnight.
2.
Don't
smother each other. No one can grow in the shade. Don't feel as if
you are required to spend every waking hour with those you love. Move aside
from time to time and allow them a separate space,too. Never force anyone
to do anything for you "in the name of love." Love is not to be bargained
for.
3.Don't
brood. Get on with living and loving. Stop going through
life in self-pity, self-blame and the mea-culpa syndrome. We are
not as bad as we think. See problems as small miracles which can bring
about knowledge and change.
4.Exercise
feelings. Feelings have meaning only as they are expressed in action.
Increase tenderness and intimacy. They are a powerful source of nourishment
for relationships.
5.Forming
a relationship takes a lot of looking. But looking can be fun. Grow
up together constantly.
6.Don't
be afraid. Stop all worry. Most of what you are worried about you'll
have difficulty remembering a week later. |
7.
Learn
to listen. You don't learn anything from hearing yourself talk. See
all criticism as positive, for it leads to self-evaluation. You are always
free to reject it if it is unfair or does not apply. If you take time to
talk together each day, you'll never become strangers.
8.Don't
lose touch with craziness in you. This, with a large dose of caring,
will assure that the relationship will never be boring. Keep the child
in you alive and playing. Keep laughing. It exercises your heart and protects
you from cardiac problems.
9.Don't
be afraid of disagreements and arguments. The only people who do not argue
are people who don't care - or are dead. In fact, don't have
short arguments. Make certain they are thoroughly over and done with. After
an argument is over, forget it. Learn to bend. It's better than breaking.
Watch out for little irritations. They grow into destructive monsters.
Verbalize them at once. Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your
energy and keep you from love.
10.Stop
playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.
Relationship are not sporting events. Stop wrestling for control No one
wins this kind of match, except divorce lawyers. |
10
Commandments of LOVE 