"UP"s & DOWN's

"What lies behind us and what lies before us ~ are tiny matters compared to what lies 'WITHIN US'"!

Ralph Waldo Emerson

No one can understand the meaning of "LIFE"
'till you have kissed death on the forehead.
Those who fear death; also fear living life to the fullest,
from a lack of understanding that;
"DEATH" completes the circle.

*****

He who loses money, loses much;
He who loses a friend, loses more;
He who loses faith, loses all.


"THE WIND'S NOT ALWAYS AT OUR BACK"

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The wind's not always at our back,
the sky is not always blue.
Sometimes we crave the things we lack
and don't know what to do.
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Sometimes life's an uphill ride,
with mountains we must climb.
At times the river's deep and wide
and crossing takes some time.
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No one said that life is easy,
there are no guarantees.
So trust the Lord continually
on calm or stormy seas.
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The challenges we face today,
prepares us for tomorrow.
For faith takes our fears away
and PEACE replaces SORROW.


Author: Unknown

"MY STORY"

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It was a long time ago now, almost forever it seems!
I was in the last month of my second tour of duty in Vietnam, and I was so short I had to use a ladder to scale a curb!
I had been in a couple of scrapes during my time in Vietnam, even had a "CHEAP" Purple Heart from a wound that did not send me home. I had been in a couple of emergency situations and had come through them fairly unscathed, although my machines had not fared so well.
My luck finally ran out on 2 June 1972

On that day my chopper was taken out by small arms fire and what I suspect was a hit in the engine compartment by a shoulder fired rocket. The ride down was brief and terrifying, as all such rides are.
I will not go into details, they are not important beyond the fact that the crash left me badly burned,wounded and my back broken.
I was scraped up after a marathon firefight in the CZ (CrashZone), and spirited away by a courageous medivac crew to a nearby MASH.

By an act of GOD, the injury to my spinal cord was not complete, but it was bad enough that the doctors stateside gave me no guarantees of ever walking again. I spent 3 full years of hard work and strugling before with the help of braces and crutches I was able to get about enough to say so.
I continued to improve over the years bit by bit, never giving much mind to the on again off again weakness in my remaining musclature, and the everpresent fatigue that haunted me. My doctors and I just wrote it off to the injuries and advancing age, and some other problems that plagued me.

Then one morning, right after a bought of Pneumonia and Pleurisy that had me hospitalized, I woke up and something was dreadfully wrong! Once again, I had nothing from the waist down, and I had the emberasment of having wet myself.
I was scared silly, I had no Idea what was going on! This could not be happening again!

Back to Square One!

So here we go again! The struggle continues, One step foreward-Two steps back
But irregardless, my experiences in Viet-Nam and it's aftermath have given me a will tempered by fire. Every day I draw a breath and can feel the love of my family and friends is a good one. There's fish to catch and a limitless sky to punch holes in!

WHO COULD ASK FOR MORE!!!!

The Serenity Prayer

God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
courage to change the things which should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

Living one day at a time, Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is, Not as I would have it.

Trusting that You will make all things right, If I surrender to Your will.

So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.

Ettiquette for Non-Wheelchair Users

(Just in case you have ever wondered)

Often people wonder how they should react when they meet a person who has a disability or is in a wheelchair. These people are active members of society and have identites beyond their disability. They should be included in all aspects of daily life and have common courtesies extended to them when interacting with them.

A limited understanding of a person's situation may lead to an embarrassing situation that may have been avoided.



Here are some things for you to keep in mind:


~ It is appropriate to shake hands with a person who has a disability, even if they have limited use of their hands or wear an artifical limb.~

~Speak directly to the person in the wheelchair, not to someone nearby as if the wheelchair user did not exist. There's no need to shout or speak patronisingly. ~

~Ask the wheelchair user if he or she would like assistance before you offer help. It may not be needed. If your assistance is needed, then listen or ask for instructions.~

~ If you are unsure about something, ask the person. The wheelchair user will best be able to answer any questions you may have about special needs or assistive techniques. They more than anyone have a vested interest in seeing that things go as smoothly as possible. ~

~If a conversation lasts more than a few minutes, consider sitting down or kneeling to get yourself on the same level as the wheelchair user. ~

~Don't use, "I have a friend in a wheelchair..." as a conversations starter. Think about how many times a person who uses a wheelchair hears this every day.~

~A wheelchair user will see the wheelchair as being a part of their own personal body space, so don't lean on it, rock it, etc. There is a sense of security there because it allows a person to be mobile and independent.~

~Don't assume that using a wheelchair is in itself a tragedy. It's a means of freedom that allows the user to move about.~

~It is OK to use expressions like "running along" when speaking to the wheelchair user. It is likely that they will use similar expressions.~

~Do not discourage children from asking questions about the wheelchair. Open communication helps overcome fearful or negative attitudes.~

~When a wheelchair user transfers out of the wheelchair to a chair, toilet, car or bed, do not move the wheelchair out of reaching distance.~

~Ignore guide dogs or other service animals. Don't pet them...they are working.~



"REMEMBER"!

Emphasize the person, NOT the disability! People are not conditions! Don't label them with the name of the condition, or as part of a disability group. We don't say "the cancerous," nor should we say "the blind."

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