Dating is easy, to some it is not. If we were to analyse the art of dating we would find out it is nothing more than a glorified game of 'cat and mouse'.
Some dates work out so well that it becomes a night to remember. Others, a nervous nightmare, that you'd prefer to soon forget, the sort that leave you with an indelible scar for life. And like most games, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, and it somehow evens out in the long run, .
Why do we go into this game? Some go for the simple thrill of it, while others have a more noble intention of finding true love. Many have said that life would be incomplete without the elements of love, romance and companionhip.
Whatever the case maybe, dating is a form of introduction, a series of discreet interviews that allow a couple of individuals to get to know one another. This very first impression is crucial. It forms the basis for subsequent meeting. If this first phase fails, it is unlikely that a second date would come into being.
Yes, 'dating' is THAT crucial. Two people who are good for each other may never end up being together simply because of a failed first date. Most people being pessimistic, often they look for reasons why 'it can't work' before they consider why it can. Everybody has commendable qualities and if one spots some on the first or second date, consider oneself fortunate and try to find out more about that person.
A positive outlook is a good sign, looking for the bad is disheartening. Consider a potential relationship with an open mind, look for the best in people with the belief that their lessons in life, right or wrong, have created a sensitive person worth knowing.
Some have failed in often in dates that they have given up hope of ever having a meaningful relationship. Dating is one of the doorways towards intimacy. If you use it wisely, it can lead to something significant. Do not use a first date like an inquisition. Plan on having fun. Do not discuss past relationships, religion, your parents or what you want from a relationship. Allow the date to be casual and flowing. You can find out more about the other person on subsequent dates. This does not mean that you cannot or will not find out information you need to decide if this will lead to other dates.
Some people believe that you do not have to do anything for a relationship to happen. Even more important is to realize that getting into a relationship is the easy part, maintaining is quite another. Most people would like to believe that their perfect man or woman will magically appear one day and announce that he/she is their soulmate. A word of advice, this only happens in the movies. Please be more grounded; use dating an adventure, an opportunity to learn about the world and try new things. In this way, you will have no high expectations and just enjoy yourself, and in the process you will improve your dating and communication skills. And if you do manage to find that special someone, it certainly will be a bonus, wouldn't it?
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promote to whom we please but one kiss.