Below are some thought provoking questions. Print out two copies, with each partner answering the questions as honestly as possible. Then exchange lists and discuss your mate's answers. You may be surprised at what you learn about your partner.
POINTS TO PONDER
WHAT DOES LOVE MEAN TO ME?
(list 5 things)
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5.
WHAT DOES A RELATIONSHIP MEAN TO ME?
(list 5 things)
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2.
3.
4.
5.
WHAT DOES MY MATE DO TO SHOW HE/SHE LOVES ME?
(list 5 things)
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5.
LIST 5 THINGS I HAVE DONE THIS WEEK TO SHOW MY MATE THAT I CARE:
1.
2.
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HAVE I GIVEN MY MATE A NON-SEXUAL HUG AND KISS EVERY DAY THIS WEEK?
YES __________ NO ________
(IF NOT, WHY NOT?)
LIST 3 THINGS I HAVE PRAISED MY MATE FOR THIS WEEK:
1.
2.
3.
DO I DISCUSS FINANCES WITH MY MATE WITHOUT BLAME FINDING? YES
_______ NO________
DO I USE THREATS, IN VOICE, ACTION, OR MANNER TO GET MY OWN WAY?
YES__________ NO __________
DOES MY MATE? YES ___________ NO ___________ HOW IF YES?
IS MY MATE CONTROLLING? YES __________ NO ____________
(if so, how?)
WHEN IS THE LAST TIME MY MATE TOLD ME HOW IMPORTANT I AM TO THEM?
DOES MY MATE CRITICIZE ME IN FRONT OF OTHERS? IF YES, WHEN?(an
example, and how you felt when it happened? Embarrassed, at a loss for words, angry, revengeful? etc.)
DOES MY MATE DISMISS MY PERSONAL FEELINGS AS UNREALISTIC OR INVALID? IF YES, PLEASE LIST AND EXPLAIN.
HAS MY MATE GIVEN ME REASON NOT TO TRUST THEM? IF SO, LIST THEM.
DOES MY MATE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY IN THE BETTERMENT OF THE HOUSEHOLD? IF SO, LIST THE WAYS. (at least 5)
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DO I PREFER THE COMPANY OF MY MATE OVER OTHERS?
HOW DO I SHOW THEM THIS ON A CONTINUAL BASIS?
(list 3 ways that are continual)
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2.
3.
DO I BRAG TO OTHER PEOPLE ABOUT MY MATE?
(if so, list 3 times in the past 2 weeks)
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2.
3.
DO I HAVE "SPECIFIC" FAMILY GOALS?
(list at least 3)
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2.
3.
DOES MY MATE WRITE LOVE NOTES TO SHOW HOW MUCH THEY CARE?
YES______ NO _______
DOES MY MATE REGARD ME AS IMPORTANT, AND SHOW THIS TO ME?
YES_____ NO ______
(if yes, list 5 ways)
HOW CAN MY MATE SHOW ME MORE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT?
(list 5 ways)
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2.
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5.
DOES YOUR MATE SHARE GOALS?
(list 3 if yes)
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2.
3.
DOES YOUR MATE SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES?
(if yes, list 5)
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2.
3.
4.
5.
IS MY MATE CREATIVE WHEN EXPRESSING LOVE, IN WORDS, ACTIONS, OR
EMOTIONS?
(if so, list 5 ways)
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2.
3.
4.
5.
AM I? (list 5 ways)
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2.
3.
4.
5.
DO I FEEL USED IN THIS RELATIONSHIP? YES_____ NO ______
(if so, list the ways)
WHAT COMMITMENTS DO I WANT FROM MY MATE?
DOES MY MATE DISCUSS WITH ME DICIPLINE OF THE CHILDREN (if any) WITH ME,BEFORE THE DICIPLINE IS HANDED OUT. (THE BEST WAY TO GO..BEING FAIR ETC.)
DO I WANT THIS RELATIONSHIP TO CONTINUE, STRENGTHEN, AND SURVIVE?
WHAT CAN MY MATE DO TO HELP THIS HAPPEN?
list at least 5 ways.
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2.
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5.
NOTE* EXCHANGE LISTS AND DISCUSS EACH AND EVERY POINT TO YOUR
SATISFACTION, AND THEN MAKE A COMMITMENT TO CHANGE, SALVAGE THE RELATIONSHIP, OR JUST GO YOUR SEPERATE WAYS.....
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