It's nine o'clock at night. You've been waiting
all day to talk to your
love but since they've been at work all night you
haven't been able to
talk to them until now. Unfortunately, they are
also three times zones
ahead of you and have an event planned early the
next morning, so
your time will be cut short. And, if that wasn't
enough this has been
the same situation for the last week.
How do you make it work?
This scenario is more common than not in an
on-line relationship.
Then there is the added bonus in many of the
relationships that the
couple have not even met yet. This can cause many
of the
relationships to fail... but on the other side it
makes the ones that
stay together much stronger and more likely to
maintain their
relationship for a longer period of time than a
"real" world relationship.
To help you have that type of on-line success I
have compiled a list of
guidelines and tips that I have found incredibly
helpful to make it
through to where I am know.
1. Always make time for your love. As each
situation varies, it is
really important to make your love feel like they
are number one in
your universe.. even if that means being over
3,000 miles away.
2. Make them feel special. With a barrier of
distance it is very easy
to miss a moment when your love was not having a
great day or
make need some extra attention. To combat that
always pay
attention to their moods, their tone of voice and
go the extra mile to
make them feel special regardless of the present
situation. Some
great ways to do this is to send an e-mail or
virtual card every day,
send packages through the mail (just about
everyone loves receiving
something through "snail" mail!) and tell them as
often you as you
can remember just how much they mean to you!
3. Trust your partner. For your relationship to
work you need to trust
your partner in what they do. Until you meet (or
live together) you will
each have your own separate lives to attend to in
the "real" world. Let
your partner do this without hesitation.
4. Keep in constant communication. Without
communication you
don't have a relationship. And, the more
communication you have the
more your love for each other will grow. Take some
time out at least
every other day to sit down and talk, undisturbed,
for about an hour or
so... just the both of you. It will do wonders for
your relationship.
5. Surprise your love often. As you can not
physically be there to let
them know your thinking about them.. surprise them
with the
unexpected often. This will let your love know
that you are really
thinking about them and also invite them to be the
same way back to
you!
6. Watch that the relationship is a healthy one.
If your love seems
overly jealous, untrusting, controlling or
something doesn't seem
right. Talk to them about it and fine out what the
underlying issue
may be. If you still don't feel right about it...
let the relationship go. It
will work out better in the long run and save many
upsets in the
future!
7. Plan out your meeting and/or future. This is a
great way to grow
closer together and to plan how you are going to
make your move
into a "real" world relationship. Plus, it's loads
of fun!
8. If something does go wrong, talk about it. It
will make you both feel
better and usually will solve any problems you run
into. If it doesn't
and you feel the need to part ways at least you
can do it one friendly
terms and keep a great friendship.
As each person is different, so is each
relationship. Take the time to
really know what your love wants and desires and
exactly what they
expect in your particular relationship. You never
know what their
definition of an on-line romance is. You will run
into people who think
it is a game... but then there is the ultimate
reward of finding your
soulmate that makes every other relationship pale
in comparison. For
this, keep your chins up and know it will work out
as long as you
keep true to yourself and your love!
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