The Rules I Live By
I think this will be one of my more odd pages, if you can believe that. I believe that I am rather odd, and therefore, live by odd rules. Please let it be known that these are only the rules that I set for myself, I do not look down upon anyone if they do not live by the same set of standards that I do, after all, my standards are different than near anyone's, so if I were to, alot of people would look down upon me.
I'm going to vamp here, a bit because I don't know where to begin. I figure by the time I'm done with this it will be my largest page, just because it will take so much to explain myself.
- Respect. Respect everyone. Show respect in every situation. That does not mean to smile at people you don't like, or to act as a fake person, it simply means that I try to treat people the way I would like to be treated.
- Always remain in control. This is a more fierce battle than that of the others. It's not just a 'don't drink' or 'don't do drugs' rule, but lust as well. Inhibitions are something that I guard fiercely. They keep me out of a lot of trouble, so doing anything to lose them strikes me as silly.
- Read the Bible, and Pray Every Day. I can't say I stick by this as much as I should, but I try. It's important in that, if you simply take the bible by what people have always told you, you will be mislead, and I do not like to be mislead.
- Avoid Sex Before Marrage. This is the rule that I argue the most about. Other people tend to see this as odd, and I don't blame them. But it all stems from the respect rule. I believe that if I were to have sex with someone, many of my friends would lose respect for me because I've been so vocal about it. I put alot of stock in my word, and I can't have that blemished. I think that I must show that respect to myself. I must also show that respect to the girl I'm with. If I sleep with her and we break up in two weeks she'll lose respect for me, and think that I do not respect her. I must show respect to my future wife. I must also show respect to the future husband of the girl that I'm with. I know it sounds odd, but that's where I stand. It is based partially on religion, but I cannot honestly say that I've ever found a bible verse saying you shouldn't have sex before you are married. That is not to say there aren't any, I'm no expert, I've simply never found them if they are there. The bible certainly sets a standard about it, in that it doesn't condone it, but I've never found any verse overly clear about it. I'd like to make it clear that I'm not against sexual things. Anything short of intercourse is fair game. That is very much the "Letter of the Law" system that I talk about below.
- Don't trust anyone who kisses you with their eyes open.
- Don't Fight Battles You Don't Intend To Win 100%. This is a rule I try to live by. It is just a simple way to live. If you don't belive in what you are fighting for enough to prepair yourself for the fight, or if you are just being childish, than why waste your time? There is very little that bothers me more than to see someone acting like a little kid. There is no use for it. If you can't win the battle verbally, than there is no use acting stupid to embarrase yourself further. If you cannot proove your point, than you might as well take the advice of the person that can.
- Be Honest In Every Situation. This is a very tricky rule. I try to be as honest as I possibly can. But at the same time, incriminating yourself is a foolish thing to do. I live by the "Letter of the Law" system. I may decieve you, but I will not lie to you. I know it's a stretch, but that's where I stand.
- Surround Yourself With People That You Can Talk To. This is a rule that I live by strictly. If I cannot talk to a person, or if I do not trust them enough to talk to them, than I have no use for them. This way I keep myself a close-knit group of friends, and I have very little to worry about. People don't start rumors about me because they don't know me. It's a good way to live.
- Don't Judge Anyone. It's not my place. It goes back to the respect rule. I don't really know how to explain this. It's just that I try to realize that I am flawed just like everyone else. It is useless to believe yourself better than someone else, because you're not. If you look down upon someone they will resent you, and that is no good. I recently had a discussion with some friends about something along these lines. Their arguement was that, if I plan to not have sex before marrage, than why would I date someone who I know is not a virgin? My point is that, if I base wanting to save myself for marrage on the bible, and then I distance myself from someone because of something they've done in thier past, than that is a hypocritical thing to do. It's not my place to look down upon someone, and if I do I'll be judging them. That's no good. If you plan to base your life on the bible than go all out, don't just take verses that you think are convienient. And if you havn't read the bible, than why are you arguing with me?
- Web Page. In my web page, I stay away from adding anything about girls. See, that would be foolish. Sooner or later whatever girl I'm talking to at the time would read my page, and get all mad about something. Also, a few girls at school would be really embarrased because people talk, and quite a few people see my webpage at school. It's the respect thing, again.
- People. I cannot express to you just how much I don't like people in general. I probly could not name 50 people that I would like to talk to on a regular basis. They just act so damn stupid. People say ignorant things, like noone is going to notice. They always seem to have something to say, even if it's to pass the time. I just can't stand it. When people think about their own well being so much that they don't have the time to think about others' than what on earth do they live for? Most people act very childish as well, which drives me nearly insane. I don't know what else I can say. It's just that they're always thinking of themselves, no matter how much it screwes over every one else. They only look out for number one. Rant over.
- Never Sell Out Your Friends. Catch this, cats. What I say is, if your going to hang out with some chick, make sure it is a chick that your friends are down with as well. There is nothing more un-cool than having to slack off the time you spend with your friends and spend it with some chick. I'm guilty of this myself in a recent situation, and I'll be damned if it will happen again.
- Never Be Afraid To Stand For What You Believe In. I've found that those who have the right stance on life in general (in my humble opinion, of course) almost never stand up for what they believe. They're nearly always passive people. I think that if you believe in what you say you do, you will not have any problem defending yourself. I know that I never have a problem telling people exactly what I believe, and why I belive it.
- Prom. Scratch my old rule. I found a place that rents Zoot Suits, so I'm going to prom just so I can wear one.
- Don't Get Angry. I think that I honestly get mad less than 5 times a year. I just don't see any reason for it. Sure, one can get hurt, but one shouldn't let that turn to anger. If you lose your head and get angry, you've lost the battle, not matter what the battle was. I just try to stay away from it. There is one thing that makes me angry beyond a shadow of a doubt, though. I hate it when people lie about me. I don't get it. So few people actually know me, that anyone speaking about me at all is probly full of it. That is the only case where I truly get mad.
- Love. I honestly don't buy into this whole "love" concept. To me, love is something that you work for, not something that you find. To me love is just an ideal. Something you read about, and see on TV. It's nothing I feel I'm old enough to understand. I figure, I'm just a kid, and when it comes down to it, love isn't something that I'm even ready for yet. Don't get me wrong. I'm talking about love in a relationship with a girl. I love my friends and family to a certain extent, but to love someone so much that I'd like to spend the rest of my life with them. I can't imagine.
- Music. Music is a very powerful tool. It has much the same effect as prayer. If you listen to one type of music, or the same CD over and over, it will effect your mood. If you are in a bad mood and can't figure out why, it is something you should look into.
- Never make a bet with someone named "Crazy Willy".
I hope this clears some things up, but I'll have a lot to add to this in the next couple updates. I just want to make the ends for which I justify my means known. It's a good start, in any case.