From: arini tathagati <rhien@bdg.centrin.net.id>
Subject: Are you all my friends?

"I guess we all have more
acquaintances than friends.
But that's life." - Midas Esprit

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 FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO A FRIEND.
 NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF A FRIENDSHIP.

 - If being happy is your only motive for wanting someone to be your
 friend, then you are not being a real friend. Don't get caught up in
 keeping tab's on who has given most in the friendship. Give to your
 friends regardless of how much they give to you.

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 ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIEND.

 - Real friends inspire and push each other to be the best that they
 can be, rather than drag each other down. They are happy when other
 people achieve their goals.

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 BE WILLING TO FORGIVE.

 - Don't let hurt turn to grudge. This is one sure way to destroy a
 friendship. Forgive your friend and move on.

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 TACTFULLY POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES.

 - This is one way to show concern for others. If you realy care, you will
 tactfully point out a specific example for his own good. But once you've
 brought the problem to your friends attention, don't harp on it all the
 time. Don't walk away from a friendship when you see some of your
 friends faults. Be patient with a friend as he or she tries to change.
 Realize that nobody is perfect.

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 BE RELIABLE

 - When you say you are going to be there, be there.

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 DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR FRIENDS.

 - Real friendship does not mean you always have to be together. It may
 be tempting to have a fun person all to yourself, and feel threatened
when your friend spends time with others. If you are afraid to let your
friends out of your sight, you are probably afraid of losing them. Good
friendship will endure time spent apart. You and your friends may learn to
appreciate each other even more.

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 BE THERE FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.

 - Celebrate with them if your friends are excited about something. But
 don't be there just for the good times. When your friend is upset about
 something, give them your full attention. Most of the time, what friends
 really need is a sympathetic ear, someone who understand their feelings.

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 LEARN TO ACCEPT PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN YOUR FRIENDS.

 - Be careful not to evaluate other people by how you react in a
particular situation. Do not automaticaly take your friends behavior
personalLy.

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 DON'T BE A BLABBERMOUTH.

 - Learn and be willing to keep each other's secrets.

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 DON'T LET ARGUMENTS DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP.

 - Suppose you're having a discussion with a friend and after you've said
 what you think is true, they still disagree. Don't keep arguing until
 you get mad with each other. Just drop it. Your desire to win the
 argument may ruin your friendship.

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Thanks for being there when I needed you.

FRIENDS2

Subject: [pecel] Fw: ...Friends Forever...
Date: Tue, 29 Jun 1999 00:50:30 +0800
From: "Budiarti Santi" <poohcute@mt.co.id>

 ...Friends Forever...

Trough the eyes of our friend,
we learn to see ourself
Trough the love of our friend,
we learn to love ourself
Trough the carrying of our friend,
we learn what it means to be ourself completely.
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