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Dear Hunney,
I need some advise...I have been married for a long time, and for the past year or so things have not been going well at all. Anyways....I have been talking to this guy that I met over the IRC for almost a year now. Well needless to say we have gotten very close, and well, we have so much in common, and I truely believe he could be my soulmate. I cannot get him out of my mind, I think about him constantly, and dream about him too. I do love my husband, but not in the way I should. I am scared to leave for alot of reasons, and I am scared I may make the wrong decision. I am so confused I do not know what the hell to do! But I also don't want to risk losing something that could very well be "my destiny". Please help me!
Sincerely,
Confused

Dear Confused:
Are the feelings for your husband really love or is it just because you have been together so long? Sometime being with someone becomes a habit. You have to ask yourself if the feelings you have for this "friend" on IRC are real or are you reaching out for something more than what you already have. Once you are sure of this then the decision will be a bit easier. You have to look into your heart with a very logical eye. Don't let your emotions rule. If it were me I would say yes considering that this person is on your mind that much. The only way you will know for sure is to do it. Are you ready to do it is the question, and only you will know for sure when the time is right. Until then enjoy the feelings you are having for this person on IRC, and enjoy the time you spend together.
Sincerely,
Hunney

Dear Hunney:
Ummm...can anyone see me here? NO? ok good =] Well U see...I'm presently goin' out with sumone on IRC that I DO love very much. but there is this other chick that keeps givin' me a stiffy everytime I think of her...wut should I do? Should I DO em both? or wut? HELLPPPPP!!!
Sincerely,
Stiffy

Dear Stiffy:
You have to decide who you like most. How well do you know the one who gets you excited? How well do you know the one you are "going out with"? Do you love her and if so will the feelings of sexual excitement go away with the other one? Decide whom you like more and go with it. I wish you the best with whatever decision you make.
Sincerely,
Hunney

Dear: Hunny,
You know me, but I choose to remain anonymous, and trust that you will give me good advice. I am interesting in joining the Nudist's way of life, and the weather has been nice enough lately to do so, but I am not too sure about stripping down in front of people I know. I don't mind it when I'm home alone, and plan on going to my first nudist camp resort this summer, but I'm not sure how to break it to my family and friends. I've mentioned it to my cousin a little. He seems to think I'm kidding around. My best friend accepts it, and wants to come with me to the resort. He thinks it's all about sex, but it's not. Any suggestions.
An Anonymous Friend

Dear Anonymous Friend:
Are you comfortable enough with your own body to do the nudist thing? If you are you will have no problem "stripping down" in front of anyone. The human body in all it nakedness is a wonderful thing, for we came into this world without clothing to cover us, therefore it is natural to be "nude". It is the impression that society has planted in us to be ashamed of the nakedness of our bodies. If you really want to do this then my advice to you is, just do it, walk proud and enjoy being totally at one with nature. I wish you happiness and joy in what ever path you choose. Be at one with nature my friend.
Sincerely,
Hunney

Dear: Hunney,
It's that person that know's you, but still wants to remain anonymous again. I'm not ashamed of my body.... I don't mind being nude in front of some friends, but it's my parents that I have to worry about. They would probably kick me out of the house or something and get pissed off if I started struting around the house nude. Coming home to N.S soon....? The resort I'm going to wants to keep an equal male to female ratio, and I need a female to go with me (I'm male, and hopefully you don't know who I am as of yet, but I will tell you eventually.) Hope you can help. Later.
An Anonymous Friend

Dear Anonymous Friend:
Hi again. Best advice I can give you concering "strutting around the house nude" is don't strut around the house nude. After all your parents house is not a nudist colony, respect their wishes and ask them to respect yours. They may disagree with what you are doing and they do not have to accept it. but in the end it is your choice after all. Now as far as when am I comming back to Nova Scotia....I have no idea. :-) And well if I was to go to a nudist colony my boyfriend would want to come too. Nope no idea who you are yet. When you are ready to tell me that will be ok. Till then be happy and do what you feel is right for you.
Sincerely,
Hunney

Dear: Hunney,
My boyfriend does not understand me. What can I do?
George the man's man

Dear George:
The best you can do is to understand yourself for that is the first step in having others understand you.
Sincerely
Hunney

Dear Hunney:
I am a 38 y/o male who recently broke up with his girlfriend. I wanted her gone but now that she is I am miserable. I miss her very much. She was very hard on me for the last year or so, but I still miss her. I want to marry her now. Does that sound strange or what??!! I wrote her a poem and mailed it to her in hopes that might rekindle our relationship. What do you think??
Bill

Dear Bill:
You have to ask yourself if she is worth it. You say she was hard on you for the last year or so. You have to imagine what that would be like for the rest of your life. Think about it and the decision will be the right one. I wish you all the happiness you deserve andI think that whatever happens is what is meant to happen.
Sincerely
Hunney

Dear Hunney:
A year ago I fell in love with a caring, beautiful girl. We had everything, passion, love, and most importantly we were friends. The only problem was that her family drug her down into a pit. She didn't mean to, but she took me with her too. She ran away from me because I knew too much about her, and I had gotten too close. She was my sky, and when she left I was crushed. I tried to tell myself that I was over her and that I didn't love her anymore, but my dreams betrayed me. I still dream about her and the love we shared and wonder if we could ever go back to the way we were. I'm scared to tell her how I feel, because I can't get hurt like that again. I want so badly to hold her again, but I don't know if I can take the hurt that is sure to come. I've written poetry ceaselessly, but I'm just so scared.

Sweet Angel

I know you had to walk away
I know you had to fly
I knew the pressures crushing you
They had more weight than the sky


But you left me cold, alone
And I can't count the times I've tried
To tell you I still love you
But I keep it locked up inside


So if you ever come home
I'll be there arms opened wide
To hold you and to comfort you
Until the end of time.

I'll be going away to college soon, and I don't know if it would even be worth it to try, knowing that I'll be gone so soon. I need to be needed, but I just don't know what to do.
kInG oF tHe rAiN

Dear kInG oF tHe rAiN
A love like this may come again in your life, but if in your heart you feel that this is the girl of your dreams then folow your heart. Sometimes our greatest fear is fear it's self. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to take a chance. Do you think she will be willing to come back? Your story brought tears to my eyes and your poem is beautiful. Would you mind if I put your poem on my poety page? Let me know what you decide and how everything turns out. I'm sure that there is someone out there for you, it may be her or it could be a stranger in the crowd. Give it time and you will see.
Sincerely
Hunney

Dear: Hunney,
I am totally crazy about this woman. I live with her and everything is fantastic. Except sometimes she isn't so sure and worries. I try and convince her but alas nothing seems to change. What should I do?
NiEtHeRoW

Dear NiEtHeRoW:
This one is very close to my heart. I am that kind of person myself, I worry a lot about those I love. I am sure she knows you are crazy about her. I am in this very situation and being the woman in this case, I would say to just wait and see. Has she always been like this? I know for me I was a lot worse at first, now I am sure of his love for me and I really try to worry less, and it is hard, but I try. You say nothing seems to change, are you so sure? Maybe things have changed for her and because you live together you just don't see it. Again, I know for me a lot has changed. It is hard to get used to being loved by someone, having someone accept you and love you for who you are. Sometimes I seem to hold my breath and wait for the proverbial "axe" to fall. It is like, it is too good to be true. Also what kind of life did she have before you and her got together? For me things are a lot different now than they were before I moved in with my boyfriend. I was in a mentally abusive relationship and sometimes I tend to think people are trying to intentionally hurt me. It is a matter of learning to trust people again. Wait and you will see things will get better, reassure her that you love her and a hug once in awhile will do wonders. "A hug a day keeps the blues away." hehehe I just made that up. :-) As I told you this one is very close to my heart, for I am in the same situation, except I am the one who is scared and worries. Sometimes I wish I could just make sense of it all, then explain it to my boyfriend so that we both can understand. I do know it is not as bad as it used to be though. Maybe she feels like I do. Talk to her about your fears and tell her that you understand hers, but only if you really do understand. Trust and happiness comes to those who work at it and I know I am working at it. I just am learning to not share everything I come to understand, and maybe your girlfriend is doing the same with you. And now in answer to your question of what should you do. Nothing. Just continue to love her and accept her and watch her grow. I know in my heart she will grow, for we are all capable of growing, but only if we choose to. That is the choice I made, the choice to grow, now hopefully she has made the same choice. I wish you and your girlfriend the best and a long and happy future together. Peace.
Sincerely
Hunney

Dear: Hunney,
Hunney, Hi, I have a little bit of a problem... You see there's this girl that lives about an hour an a half away from me, and has the hots for me. She says she would do ANYTHING to get me to go out with her. She's even offered sex... The point being that she's a nice person when I visit her, and she's smart. But she's REALLY shy... and when I call her (long distance) she hardly says anything. I've been told by her parents that she gets violent when she's angry. Also, she used to be known as the county whore... Lately in the letter she's been writing to me she's been really negative about me thinking that she's not good enough for me... She's starting to make me beleive it... It's starting to piss me off. The main question is.... Do you think I should continue this (so called) relationship? No offence to chubby people, but she's a little on the chubby side. Comments???
Petemoss1976

Dear Petemoss1976
Do you relly like this girl? It sounds to me like you are not really interested. If you really like her tell her so. If you do not like her tell her that. But whatever you tell her, be honest with her and yourself. Do not get involved just for sex. It is not the smart thing to do. Too many people think that sex is what it is all about, but it isn't. A relationship consists of trust, loyality, and caring. Also I noticed you mentioned her being "chubby" and just by you mentioning it tells me that that is a problem. Let your heart and head lead you, not other certain parts of your body. And most of all, be careful and be happy. Let me know what happens.
Sincerly
Hunney