Elder's Rules for First Meetings These rules may vary, according to what you can work with, are able to reveal, or may decide to use...but whatever you do...don't ignore the basic safety you will require, meeting a new partner for the first time. There are people out there who are simply predators, and your new person may be wonderful, online and the phone, but admit you don't really know them, and protect yourself until you do. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1) Before you even plan a meeting, be sure you discuss your personal safety with your person. Tell them how you feel, and listen to what they say. If they are really a person who cares for you, they'll add things to protect you, and agree to anything you wish to do. If they do not, then treat it as a first clue to use caution. 2) Once you plan your meeting, find two people who know you personally: Your name, your address, your phone # and most of all, your background. Make sure they know who you are meeting: THEIR name, THEIR address, and THEIR background, as well as any other info about them you might know. Leave them as detailed a plan of your visit as you can foresee, and arrange with your contacts for irregular telephone check-ins...and what to do if one of them is not made. Obviously you don't want the police breaking down your hotel door, while your new partner has you squirming with delight on the bed, but it might just be that you'll be glad to see them. 3) Meet with your person in a public place. Find somewhere that there are lots of people...and don't LEAVE that public place until you feel comfortable with the person you are meeting. If you don't get comfortable right away, be sure you have some sort of alternative plan available, in lieu of going with him. Try to have YOUR car available, or better yet, a large, muscular friend to see you off, and meet your person with you. :) 4) For the first meeting, do not travel to a remote place to get acquainted. Find a comfortable, well-staffed hotel or inn, where there, again, are PEOPLE. Other people are your best defense against injury....and if necessary, run to them...even naked, if that's what it takes. The old cabin in the hills, where you can really "be alone", might sound wonderful, but it is not safe, and should not be considered. 5) Never, never travel away from your planned itinerary with a new acquaintance. You planned that schedule so people could find you...if you leave it, they can't...and your new person ought to understand that. Stay where you said you would be, when you set up your security, and resist, to the point of running away, any attempt by *anyone* to take you away. 6) Playing. It's normal for you to want very much to please this person who means so much to you...to give them everything they ask for...and delight in the pleasure they enjoy. But like everything else you do, for the first time, you have to protect yourself...and as exciting as some things might sound, remember that once started, stopping is going to be a problem. Use safe words...there's nothing to be ashamed of, in doing so, and if you need them, you WILL need them. Resist any sort of public display, the first visit. Resist any sort of oxygen deprivation play, or bondage. These are dangerous kinds of play, until you're totally comfortable with your partner, they require enormous care. You don't know your person, yet, so protect yourself. Sex itself...well, AIDS is around, but it's silly to try and convince two people in your situation to refrain, so use a condom. Insist on it, in fact, and don't give in. 7) This is from me, to all of you. You are my friends, and there nothing I've
found in my world which is more wonderful. You are all special, and I can't afford to lose
you, cause there aren't enough to go around, now, so please, take care of yourself. When
you do come back, show us whatever you collected from your visit, and we'll love you all
the more for doing it. *Eldersign* Somewhere in the Mid-West, living alone, quietly.
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