Buying The Cow

I’m a woman and I have certain needs that I’ve had to rely on a man to satisfy. You ladies know what I’m talking about. Oh yes you do. When my husband and I first got married, we were very young and he was inexperienced. His father never shared that knowledge with his son, or was it that his son didn’t think he needed to know it? Maybe he thought he’d learn it along the way from his friends. Whatever the case, he did his best to learn what he could as we went along. The end result was very much the work of an amateur, but I was appreciative enough that I was getting at least some of what I needed. My husband ended up divorcing me because he felt used. I then bounced from one man to the next, always finding the ones who had that special ability. Yet, once they became aware of how needy I was, they would find reasons to be too busy for me. I’ve tried valiantly to satisfy myself, teach myself how to do these things without the help of a man. I read books, asked questions, and experimented. It just wasn’t the same. Then one day, I finally decided to ask for help from another woman. She knew what I needed and she knew what to do. I liked letting her take charge of me that way, it was new and different. Bold and exciting. She set aside a couple hours for me, and then we talked afterwards. I was so grateful and relieved, but not entirely comfortable.

That's when I did the one thing I had been avoiding. There just wasn't any other solution. I decided to pay for it. I know, I know, there are so many people who told me that it's a waste of money. No one should have to pay for it. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? But what could I do? I had tried everything else. So yes, I did it. I hired a handyman to take care of those projects on my Honey Do List.

I paid a man to come over and fix the sheathing under the cantilever of my house. I plan to ask him back to repair my yard light and my porch light. He said he could take a look at my broken snowblower before winter. Some day when I have the money, I'm going to hire someone to remodel my kitchen and bathroom. I also want a deck built outside my patio doors. I don't want to think too hard about all of my needs. It's depressing to know that I'll be paying for satisfaction, but at least there's no game playing and the work is guaranteed.....not like some other areas of my life.

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