QUESTION: You say that the body releases poisons which damage the physical system. On this path, is it possible to heal such damage?
ANSWER: Of course, it is possible. If and when the defensiveness is eliminated, then further poisons will cease to contaminate the system. This in itself will bring relief. However, it is possible that the damage is already so considerable that the results of the past cannot be entirely eliminated in the body. If and when this is or is not the case depends on too many considerations, impossible to enumerate now. But in principle it is possible.
QUESTION: You mean, we should just listen to someone if he criticizes?
ANSWER: Calmly listen and then evaluate it. Could there be some truth in the criticism? Observe your inner reactions of fright. You will soon discover that your fright is unjustified, even if the criticism is wrong. Nothing can happen to you, you are not in danger.
QUESTION: But what if we get annoyed at being unjustly criticized?
ANSWER: The feeling of annoyance is both the expression and the proof of your existing defensiveness. Without the defense, then you would not be annoyed. How could you be? You would evaluate it, and find that in this criticism there may be some truth, a little truth, or no truth at all. But often you are convinced that it is unjustified even before you have a chance to find out if it is. Or, rather, before you give yourself the chance to find the possible grain of truth. And if there is no trace of truth in it, then why would you have to get annoyed? What can this criticism do to you that causes this annoyance? Have you ever analyzed it from this point of view? Either justified or unjustified criticism cannot really harm you, unless you think that you cannot be loved and respected if something is found in you that can be criticized.
QUESTION: What if it is a lie? If it is untrue?
ANSWER: I said that before. It cannot harm you if you look at it calmly. It is your defense against it that is the real harm. The lie itself, or the erroneous judgment, could never harm you. The less defensive you are, the more able you will be to straighten out an outright lie or a misunderstanding. I do not mean to imply that you must never defend yourself against a flagrant lie, against a calumny, or against a harmful rumor. This falls under the category of realistic defense, which can be adequately handled only to the degree that unrealistic defensiveness is absent.
QUESTION: If the accusation covers a betrayal and you have a natural anger against it, then your anger may cover a self-defense, but it is also a natural reaction against someone who has made promises and you have fulfilled your part and then you find that you are betrayed and the thing that you were promised and you had hoped for does not come true. Is this not a natural anger?
ANSWER: Before we deal with the term of what is natural and what is unnatural, I would like to say that I did not imply that people should take any injustice or any betrayal without doing whatever is necessary, constructive, and productive. There are many instances when it would be wrong to sit back and do nothing. This would be sick, it would be playing the martyr, it would be a distortion of holiness. And it is interesting to note that the more defensive a person is, then the less equipped he is to deal with a constructive defense or with a necessary attack, and the more he will victimize himself and become a martyr. There exists a proper and healthy aggressiveness and a proper and healthy assertiveness. When it is healthy and when it is not healthy cannot be determined as a general rule. It is too subtle and it can only be found in a truthful self-examination. Actual dangers are not only physical in nature, they also apply to other levels. I can only emphasize again that the freer you are of your unrealistic defensiveness, then the better you will be able to cope with a healthy defense. Often the two intermingle and the unhealthy one weakens and undermines the healthy one, and therefore diminishes its effect.
QUESTION: Yes. First you must clear up your emotional entanglement within the relationship, and then you will deal with it realistically?
ANSWER: Yes, that is right. You see, your unhealthy emotional involvement makes it impossible for you to evaluate the situation in its right light, and therefore you cannot deal with it as you would otherwise.
QUESTION: I think that what our friend said about the lie is also a realistic danger.
ANSWER: Yes, it could be. It all depends upon whether we are dealing with facts, with actions, or with the more subtle matters of trends, of attitudes, and of qualities. But when it comes to this work, when it comes to voicing one's impressions and one's feelings about others, then this is not a matter that can necessarily be refuted at once. It requires probing to see whether or not there is some grain of truth in it, even if brought out in a distorted way, perhaps due to the other person's problems, or merely due to his limitations as a human being. In such cases, it cannot easily be stated that "this is a lie," because these things are so subtle.
QUESTION: You were talking about situations in which our emotions run up. How about human beings with emotions dulled and curbed, and where there is no reaction?
ANSWER: When a human being gets into this state, then it is a result of being overly defensive. Outwardly and consciously the emotions may be dulled to a considerable degree, but inwardly they still exist. They smolder underground and they do their damage. That is why it is so important in this work that the emotions be brought to the surface. Only then can they be dealt with properly and all these considerations can begin to be worked with. For example, as long as someone does not feel hate, then he cannot possibly rid himself of it. It has to come out of repression and it has reach surface awareness in order for its origin and its reason to be understood, so that the personality can then free itself from it. It is the same with the defensive wall. As long as you are unaware of its existence, then you can do nothing. Therefore, the first consideration is to bring into awareness by the method of this work what hitherto had been submerged.
QUESTION: Yes, but the person whose emotions are above board has an easier time observing them.
ANSWER: Yes, certainly. This is why it is of primary importance to become aware of all the emotions that you were not aware of. Only then can you go into such matters as we are dealing with now. For instance, on the subject of defensiveness a year ago the majority of you would not even have been capable of knowing, of being aware, that this defense does indeed exist. Many of you are now capable of recognizing it. This is always a question of self-awareness.
QUESTION: In my private work, my co-worker and I found out that I have an inadequate concept of a human being. What is a human being?
ANSWER: If I were to answer that, then it would probably take me at least a month of continuous talking. And I think that this may be the best answer for you so as to adjust your concept to a more truthful one. Compare this statement with the limited concept you have of "he is this" or "he is that," or "she is thus and thus." Realize the infinite variety, the great complexity, the contradictoriness, the unlimited possibilities, and the infinite potentials of thought, of range of feelings in every human being. Every emotion, every trend, every characteristic that you can name lies within every human being both in a positive form and in a negative form. Why the same quality displays its positive face at one time and its negative at other times, all these are the intricacies of the human psyche. The more you understand the limitless possibilities and the potentials of every human being, the closer do you come to understanding a particular human being. On the other hand, the more you believe, either consciously or unconsciously, that a human being is either this or that -- in other words, the more limited your concept is -- then the less will you understand.
QUESTION: After a person has become greatly aware of his hidden currents -- let's say, hypothetically, that one has become aware of 75 percent of such currents, which have come to the surface and he can see how they work -- what can a person then do to train the subconscious mind? Or is it necessary?
ANSWER: I will repeat what I have said many times. Merely observe the wrong, childish, untrue, distorted reactions and concepts. The more you observe them, the better you will be able to learn why they are erroneous, why they are inadequate, why they are destructive, why they are disadvantageous, and why they are unrealistic. Compare these reactions with your knowledge -- which as yet is only theoretical -- of realistic, truthful, productive reactions, but without trying to force yourself to feel the latter. Merely compare them and then try to understand why one way of reacting is unrealistic, and is therefore unproductive, while the other way of reacting is realistic, and is therefore productive. Fully acknowledge the fact that as yet you are incapable of feeling and reacting in the desired way and -- without guilt and without any forcing current -- fully accept yourself as you are, but know your immaturity. If you do so -- without being angry at yourself and without being impatient with yourself -- then your emotions will eventually begin to receive from your brain the knowledge that heretofore could not penetrate your emotions. It will give you peace to simply see the childish emotions in action while knowing -- and getting to understand better and better -- why and in what respect they are unproductive.
QUESTION: You wanted to talk about the background of the seven deadly sins.
ANSWER: As I said, I would suggest that you prepare a list of them, perhaps for next time. This would be in lieu of a lecture because it would take too long. I said last time that it cannot be added on to a lecture. Put down each of them and ask about each separately, and then I will answer. It will form a lecture in itself.
QUESTION: In the traditional Scriptures of Judaism and Islam the texts are specific regarding the consumption of fish, flesh, and fowl. It is commanded that "of the flesh shall we not eat." Christianity has no ban against pork. In the l5th verse of Matthew, Christ said: "Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth the man but that which cometh out of the mouth." However, during Lent dietary restrictions are observed by Christians. My questions are: (1) Are the dietary laws based on that which is unclean or on that which is holy; and (2) what is the meaning of Lent and of the counting of the days?
ANSWER: To your first question. All these laws were given at a time when man's scientific and hygienic knowledge was so insufficient that such information as mankind now possesses was connected with religion. It was merely sanitary or health reasons that dictated these laws. In certain periods of history, under different circumstances, these laws were changed. Nowadays it is superfluous for religion to set up these rules. At no time did these laws have anything to do with man's spiritual life. It was merely a safeguard to protect his health. If humanity at this time still clings to these laws as a spiritual necessity, then it shows a gross misunderstanding of what true spirituality is. It shows the superficial approach of man and his disinclination to think. Your science today may find certain conditions that make it necessary to observe certain laws as long as these specific conditions prevail. When the conditions change, then the laws will be eliminated. To persist in keeping them without any purpose or any reason would be senseless.
April, 1962
Copyright 1962, the Center for the Living Force, Inc.