QUESTION: If something terrible happens, let's say death to a near person, how can unhappiness not be there?
ANSWER: Here lies an important misunderstanding. Because you feel that you should not to be unhappy, then you struggle away from the Now. Therefore, you escape from yourself. As a result, you run away from contact with the life force. The problem is either that greedy, selfwilled child that demands the fulfillment of all its desires, that demands gratification for every wish, fearing the opposite; or it is the false idea that a spiritually evolved person should be so far developed as never to be unhappy, never to be puzzled, etc. Often, it is a combination of these two aspects, for the misunderstood spirituality is a product of the greedy, fearful, weak, dependent child. The less the person is willing to lose -- to give up if need be -- then the weaker he gets, the more dependent on circumstances outside his control, and the more insistent on such and such having to happen from outside so as to prevent his own undoing -- as he falsely believes. Therefore, the struggle against the Now produces greater misery than the event itself. If none of these unhealthy aspects existed, then the pain would be lived through and grown out of. The more you learn to do this at the moment, then the sooner the apparent opposites will meld. Therefore, the full living of the painful moment will simultaneously become bliss. Then one reaches beyond the illusion of the opposites. On the other hand, if you quietly acknowledge, "I am unhappy now. But I know that in this unhappiness I am not in truth," then you first enter into a state of peace. Yes, you are unhappy at the moment because of this loss or because of that disturbance. Nevertheless, a peace comes into you by fully acknowledging the feeling of the moment and then making the assertion that some of these feelings are the outcome of illusion, although you are as yet unable to change your illusion. Your desire to change from illusion into truth, while acknowledging all the negative feelings -- which are the outcome of your illusion -- will make you stop running and struggling, fighting against what is. Hence a deep peace will fill you. Then a new understanding will gradually dawn on you from deep recesses that become accessible by your desire to tap divine truth -- the life force in you. The more peace and vital new insight fill you, the more do unhappiness and happiness become one. Because you cease struggling against the Now, you are in the Now. In this approach you gradually experience the fact that it is your attitude to an event that causes either your happiness or your unhappiness. In other words, it is never the event itself. This discovery liberates you and it induces strength and security. It puts you in contact with the life force.
QUESTION (Question cannot be understood in the recording)
ANSWER: This indicates the same fundamental misunderstanding, so frequent in the human psyche, that unhappiness is a virtue. In this case, I advise the following meditation: "My happiness cannot possibly detract from the other person. On the contrary. However, my unhappiness does add to theirs." This will help you to develop a strong, full yes-current for your happiness. This is one of the wonderful truths about the life force, often so difficult for man to understand. He often believes himself confronted with alternatives, or choices, where one thing is good and another is bad; where one person is benefitted and another is damaged. When you are caught in such a predicament, then you may be sure that you are entangled in a wrong concept. When you are in truth, then there is no such thing that a decision is good on the one hand and bad on the other. It must be good all around, for everyone concerned. That is the rightness of divine truth, it is the wonder and the beauty of it. When you comprehend this and you find yourself confronted with decisions, but you cannot see how to arrive at this all-around rightness merely with your human mind, then you may request this truth. Put your small mind aside and let the larger intelligence enter. Open yourself to it. Assert this. "As long as I can see a disadvantage, harm, or destructiveness in my decisions -- either for me or for the other person -- then I know that I am in distortion. I wish to be in possession of the divine truth, where I know that the decision is right and harmonious for all. I wish to be able to feel this deeply. Since I cannot see this yet, then I know that I am in untruth." In this way you know your Now, you do not run from it, you fully face your Now, while, at the same time, calmly wishing to be enlightened. The combination of facing the Now without struggle against yourself and desiring the greater truth will make it possible for the life force to fill you with its vision, with its wisdom, and with its strength.
PARTICIPANT: It is often that man does not know what is good for him. What he wants with his little mind may not be what he would really want if he were more developed (Further comments are not audible).
THE GUIDE: Yes, that is true. Any other ideas?
ANOTHER PARTICIPANT: I think we often can't get the fulfillment right now. We are impatient and would want it immediately.
COMMENT: I think the Now has nothing to do with it.
(Further remarks from participants cannot be heard due to the cooling system)
THE GUIDE: The desires of the smaller self and the desires of the larger self may be different at times, but not necessarily. Often they both wish the same thing. Therefore, what the smaller self desires is not necessarily wrong. The question is the how. The little self is under the illusion that it must perish if its will is not fulfilled. This image creates fear and other negative emotions. It is these negative emotions and these destructive attitudes -- which are due to the false idea of having to perish when unfulfilled -- that make the expression of the little self wrong, not the nature of the wish itself. On the other hand, if the real self issues forth a wish, then it expresses itself without fear because non-fulfillment will not seem to annihilate it. Consequently, further negative emotions will not be created.
QUESTION: If you want something very badly, but there is fear, pride, selfwill, then it is a counter-current and you can't get it?
ANSWER: I would put it this way. When a no-current -- a resistance -- exists, then it means that there must be a false concept behind it, otherwise there could not be a no-current. At the same time, the false concept creates fear, pride, and selfwill. But what I discussed before goes even beyond that. Instead of pushing against a specific no-current, assert its presence instead. Then assert the fact that this specific resistance is based on false ideas. Then assert that you wish to be helped to understand all the facets that lead to this state. Do all this without pushing frantically against it. This is living in the Now. It is the only effective approach to an inner disturbance and to a disharmony. It is one that puts you immediately in touch with your real self. In other words, with the life force in you.
QUESTION: How should we think of God?
ANSWER: I cannot possibly go into this answer now, at least not extensively. All I should like to say is this. Do not think of God as a person in human form. Think of this tremendous power that continuously creates life in a purposeful way. Look around and open your eyes. In all the branches of science you find aspects of the Universal Intelligence and Power. In all the manifestations of nature you find God. In the complex physical, mental, and emotional organisms of the human creature lies the proof of this Intelligence and Power. God is not a disciplinarian. God is beyond good or bad. Man often cannot conceive of God -- seeing the existing strife -- because the only way he can think of God is in human terms. Before he can come to a wider understanding, man first has to give up the false image of God as a small disciplinarian that he wants and fears at the same time, that he wants to act as a substitute for a parent, and that he wants because he is too afraid of tackling life by himself. Before a true God experience can occur, man must learn to stand on his own feet. Therefore, he needs to shelve his search for God for a while. If you are not certain, then do not declare "there is a God," due to false guilt and to the misunderstandings of human relations. But do not declare "there is not a God" because your outlook is still blurred by your hopelessness and by your confusion with life and with yourself. At such a time it is healthy to say "I do not know yet." But without guilt and yet without defiance. And as you find yourself -- and this is always the way the path must start -- as you find your true self, then the rest is given unto you. It comes by itself. It is a natural understanding that comes when you learn what you need to know about yourself in order to live successfully. Finding God cannot be done by discussing theories on an intellectual level. Keep the problem shelved, my friends. Keep yourself open and find yourself first. This is all that matters. For then you will come into the true outlook that comes from inside -- from your personal experience -- rather than by blindly accepting postulates and dogmas that one takes on out of fear, out of obedience, out of wishful thinking, out of the desire for a reward, and out of dependency -- which is the result of man's rejection of self-responsibility. The wishful thinking has to go, the childish greed has to be given up, and all the attitudes which make man cling to the false God image have to be changed before a true God experience is possible. Every vestige of escapism must disappear before a genuine God experience is possible. Then this is built on a rock.
June 26, 1964
Copyright 1965, the Center for the Living Force, Inc.