QUESTION: Could you give us some examples of abuse of the life force?
ANSWER: The abuse of the power current of your life force is all the actions, all the deeds, all the thoughts, all the attitudes, and all the emotions which deviate from divine truth. In other words, that are self-directed, that are motivated by a spirit of separateness.
QUESTION: What does that mean?
ANSWER: I have discussed separateness frequently in the past. The separateness of the soul means that a person withdraws inwardly. He puts an invisible wall around his soul in the mistaken idea that it is safe. For instance, people who are afraid of life, people who are afraid of love, people who are afraid of reality, and people who are afraid of self-responsibility. All that leads to separateness. All this means that the person considers himself different from the other person. Thus the bridge of brotherhood is eliminated. This may happen in all sorts of reactions that are not always obvious. Each human fault contributes to separateness. Separateness is a wrong conclusion, therefore it is a falsity, an illusion. Therefore, it is away from the truth. If you analyze each fault, then you will find that it exists because it is thought to be protective and advantageous. In truth it is not. For nothing can be to your advantage that is to the disadvantage of another person. This is separateness. And separateness is the illusion of the world of manifestation. Does that answer your question? (Yes, thank you.)
QUESTION: In connection with our work, the word "detachment" has come up. Would I be correct in stating that detachment is just another way of expressing separateness?
ANSWER: Not necessarily. With words it is often a subtle and confusing matter. As you know by your work, a word can mean one thing to one person and another thing to another. A word designates an idea. You all know that each idea of truth can be distorted into an untruth by taking it to the extreme. That is wrong. This distortion usually happens deliberately, although unconsciously. Where the conflict exists in the soul, there one seeks to find a justification for it in the extreme of a right idea. This has been the trouble with all great religious teachings throughout the ages. Detachment undergoes a similar fate. People who are afraid of life and afraid of love often escape into the distorted idea of detachment. But this should not make you forget the real meaning, the right sense of it. The true meaning of detachment is to be detached from one's ego-centeredness.Thereby the person obtains a certain objectivity. This objectivity is detachment. It means that you can consider your hurt vanities, your advantages, and your goals not any differently from those of other people. You know how difficult this is to attain, even to a small degree. It cannot be attained by escaping life and its hurts, as some people want to believe. In other words, by misinterpreting spiritual ideas in this sense. On the contrary, only by facing life's hurts in the right spirit will you come to the point of healthy detachment and of objectivity -- by not being so involved with your own self that you see nothing else. Being human, it is understandable that you feel that way. You cannot force it away. You can reach it only by degrees. So it all depends on the sense in which you think of this word.
QUESTION: I think this question was asked in connection with a discussion we had. Can you tell me whether I see it right? It seems that we involve ourselves in all kinds of emotions in a negative way. So I do not want to be involved any more before I learn detachment. Once I have learned that, then I would like to be involved because then I can do so in a constructive way.
ANSWER: Unfortunately, it does not always work out this way. It would be extremely comfortable and pleasant. Many people try to avoid the disappointments of life in that way, but they cannot succeed. As I have often said in the past: you cannot get around it, you have to go through it. As long as you fear the hurts, you do not become detached from them, because the fear is worse than that which you fear. That always holds true. Therefore, one has to try to find the middle way between these two wrong extremes. One extreme is the person who plunges head-on into every negative situation. Various psychological factors may be responsible for it: be it self-punishment, be it a form of aggressiveness towards others, punishing them by one's unhappiness, and many other factors. These are the people who always become involved in a negative and destructive way. The other extreme is separateness. It is the attitude that makes one believe that one can go through life avoiding all its negative aspects. If you are so afraid of hurts that you force measures on yourself to avoid them, then you can never rise above them. Therefore, you can never attain the right kind of detachment. In order to rise above anything, you have to go through it so that you lose your fear of it. This has to be done in the right spirit: neither in a masochistic, self-destroying attitude, nor in an attittude of fear and unhealthy self-love. The right way -- the middle way -- has to be found in this respect, as well as in all others. This is always the difficulty. This middle way is that life brings all sorts of experiences; that it can only bring you experiences that your soul calls forth; that you may avoid positive involvement because you are afraid of unhappiness; that you may avoid positive involvement because you are afraid of negative involvement. All your negative experiences should make you stronger. If they weaken you, then it means that it is not the negative experience that is the cause of your weakness, but rather your attitude to the experience.
QUESTION: What would be the connection, the similarities, and the differences between the anti-life force and the abuse of the life force?
ANSWER: The abuse of the life force is the anti-life force. It brings anti-life force in its wake. It is merely a distortion. They are not two separate forces. It is one current (Thank you.)
QUESTION: I would like to bring up the subject of lying. From a spiritual point of view, the problem of "white lies," lies in order to protect a higher cause, lies to prevent hurts, the problem of mental reservation from a spiritual point of view.
ANSWER: My answer cannot and must not be given on an outer level. Many teachers and teachings remain on the outer level, on the level of conduct. On this level the answer could never be conclusive. In fact, it could be dangerous. On the outer level, rules are made -- which then become rigid and therefore dead. And you cannot make one rule. There are many possibilities and each possibility is different. So my answer will seem unclear at first, and perhaps even a little ambiguous. It will not be as satisfactory as it would be if I could pronounce one rule of conduct for all alternatives. The true answer lies in the inner level. Here my answer is this: you will always know what to do and what the right course is -- whether it concerns this subject or any other -- if you have learned honesty with yourself to the maximum degree you are capable of. That is a long procedure. For only in yourself can you find the truth that will then govern your proper outer conduct. If you are honest with yourself, then you will have the evaluation. You will be able to judge whether your dilemma is based entirely on selfless motives -- such as another person's hurt, a higher cause, or whatever -- or whether these valid motives may also hide a selfish one. First the knowledge of and then the eventual discovery of the possible hidden selfish motive will show you what course to take. No generalization can be made about this. The discovery of the selfish motive will show you that the outer selfless ones are no longer valid. In other instances, you will consider the outer selfless motive in spite of the fact that you have discovered selfish motives. You will see that although there is an advantage for yourself in considering others, this is still to the good all around. Only then will you cease to deceive yourself. Even the good course would be harmful to you if you were unaware of your own truth. Again and again I have to say: the right conduct that we are all searching for does not lie in the action itself, it lies in the self-awareness and in the honesty. That is the key to all conflicts, be it lying or anything else. (Does that mean in essence and vernacular that it is the change from "thou must not" to "thou canst not?") That would be included in it. All right conduct is always done freely. But it is exactly what I said here. What I discussed is the importance of realizing the possible hidden motive which may be selfish, while the outer conscious motive may be unselfish.
QUESTION: The question was asked by someone who is absent about the connection of the interplay on the human plane of action and reaction in connection with God's will, the higher self will, free will, and selfwill.
ANSWER: The will of the higher self will is God's will. There is no difference. Free will may be God's will or it may be the selfwill. That depends. It can be either, since it is free. Even the selfwill may correspond to God's will, only the motive varies. In other words, the goal may be right, only God's will is relaxed, it is patient, it is not concerned with one's ego. God's will is flexible. The selfwill may want to attain the same results, but it is rigid, impatient, self-concerned.
June 5, 1959
Copyright 1959, 1978 by Center for the Living Force, Inc.