The Aries woman is on a quest to catch a rising star.  Whether this is felt in the power of a moment, a person, a project or an affair of the heart, she wants to feel the rise and experience it as an extension of her own individuality.  This aggressive, wildly energetic ball of fire believes her own dreams, ideals and fairy tales.  She is a colorful person who is vital and alive.
    However, when it comes to love, sadly, she must compromise.  Despite her romantic desires, the world is not her castle.  Before her very eyes, heroes turn into trolls and princes start to shrivel and give conspicuous frog croaks.  In anger and abject disappointment, she looks away into hersel.  Many Aries women stay there and never marry.  Others compromise or work hard to invent a suitable drama that will not disappoint them.  A desire for connection is always there.  Yet with age, her vision of romance changes and she is able to separate the person from the dream.
    In the early years, Aries women find themselves pulled into certain relationships that have an all-or-nothing quality.  In the moment of contact there is a sense of magic and inevitability that intensifies all experience.  However, with the truth of time, these erstwhile mythic experiences come to require a great deal of sacrifice and sometimes a certain degree of sanity.  They are, in fact, initiations of the self from which one can learn, change and grow into true personal power.
    The Aries woman knows the value of her own individuality and expresses it freely.  However, such freedom is often at odds with the demands of a relationship which requires certain sacrifices of time and attention.  This ensures conflict.  It is not uncommon, therefore, to see Aries women connected to weaker or highly liberated men who do not attempt to control them or demand that they leave themselves behind.
    In everything she does, the Aries woman must play a dynamic role, and in the area of relationships, she has no problem being a breadwinner if she is mated with a man whom she respects.  Such a man fires her passion and enthusiasm and cements her loyalty.  On the other hand, attentions from any man whom she considers unworthy are met with chilling indifference, if not annoyance at the infringement on her time.
    When completely and passionately committed, the Aries woman will not only give everything but will create anything for love.  Aries women love the idea of being in love, because ideally they want all life's experiences to be electric.  Grand love gives her a special something to look forward to.  Even after the initial wine of the relationship has turned to water, the Aries woman will find a way to keep the motor running like a finely tuned Maserati.  When totally taken, the Aries woman will want to spend every waking moment with her man.
    However, Aries women are often undone by the all-or-nothing syndrome.  They don't want a balanced lifestyle because the idea of it is boring.  Yet, balance will bring her back to herself in a regenerative way and at the same time allow her to extend herself lovingly as a full person who always has a rich personhood to come back to.
    For the Aries woman to be powerful in love she must not get lost in romantic dreams that are based on psychological projections and lead, in time, to disillusionment.  It is critically important for her to be aware of who she is and who the other person is, may be, and realistically can be.  Romantic dreams are great fun, but they can also be very damaging.  Realism, on the other hand, can help to make a situation creative, vital, deep and enduring.  The Aries woman can have it all.  She can have herself and the other person if she consciously decides that's what she wants.  But she must first hold that as a value and take responsibility for her decision.  Taking responsibility means that maybe things won't happen as quickly as she would like them.  However, if she keeps her goal in mind she will eventually spark her own vision.  And it is only a matter of time before her positivity puts her on a new, powerful course of love.