Her roots grounded
in the eternal feminine, the Taurus woman is the old-fashioned "man's woman."
Not complete unless she feels "filled in" with love, the taurus woman exists
to find an enduring, committed relationship.
Unfortunately,
she does not understand men, and looks upon them in a literal sense, leaving
little space for subtlety, complexity or emotional problems. Taurean women
notoriously choose badly. And once they make their choice, they hold on
with a calm endurance that defies logic, intelligence, and often sanity.
Once they are solidly on the track, no amount of unkindness can get them
off. Through storms of abuse and years of neglect, they will still find
the energy to rationalize all wrongdoing, and what they cannot rationalize,
they will do their best to deny. "He may look like a brute to you but I
know in my heart he loves me" is the classic Taurean woman's posture. It
is one that is so tightly constricted that it denies any potential for
truth.
Taurean women
often feel that they are going to die unless they are grounded in an ongoing
relationship, regardless of the quality. Content with very little emotional
nourishment and able to make do with what they have, they can hold on for
a lifetime, never learning or looking very deeply into themselves.
It is impossible
to influence the mind of this woman once she has sunk her teeth into the
carpet and the pattern has taken hold. Impossibly stubborn, her thinking
defies all attempts at intelligent communication. Enslaved by her own sense
of stability, she remains fixed on her course, deaf and blind to any other
way of being.
This brings
to mind one Taurus woman who had a "relationship" with a man for seven
years that was based on his dropping by her apartment for a Taurean-prepared
meal and sex to be followed by his return to his office. This man, who
made a lot of money on Wall Street, bought her one meal in seven years.
And because of his busy, compromised work schedule, could not afford more
free time than an hour or two away from the office. However, totally convinced
that she was terribly important to him, she gave him a marriage ultimatum,
only to see him quickly disappear. Later, through friends, she found out
that "her man" had, in fact, been busy wining and dining various women.
Someone finally asked Ms. Taurus what, in seven years, did she think
he was doing? And she replied with total credulity, "Well he told
me he had a lot of meetings."
It must be said
that Taurean women are not stupid. But because they perceive through their
needs, they often make themselves powerless in romantic situations. The
Taurus woman is fundamentally powerless because she places value in her
attachment and not in herself.
Taurean women
become deeply attached remarkably easily. And they also have a lot of needs
for both security and sex that they seek to satisfy at all cost. And quite
often this cost is very high.
Until she comes
to a place in her own evolution where she begins to value herself and her
life as an individual, the Taurus woman will pay a very high price to remain
powerless. Only when she gets beyond her primal urge to nest and begins
to nurture herself, will she be capable of authentic feminine power: the
power of love expressed from a place of wholeness instead of a needy vessel
that demands to be filled.