She was six years old when I first met her on the beach near where I live.
I drive to this beach, a distance of three or four miles, whenever
the world begins to close in on me. She was building a sandcastle or something
and looked up, her eyes as blue as the sea. "Hello," she said. I answered
with a nod, not really in the mood to bother with a small child."I'm building,"
she said. "I see that. What is it?" I asked, not caring. "Oh, I don't know,
I just like the feel of sand." That sounds good, I thought, and slipped
off my shoes. A sandpiper glide by. "That's a joy," the child said. "It's
a what?" "It's a joy. My mama says sandpipers come to bring us joy." The
bird went gliding down the beach. Good-bye joy, I muttered to myself, hello
pain, and turned to walk on.
I was depressed; my life seemed completely out of balance."What's your
name?" She wouldn't give up. "Robert," I answered. "I'mRobert Peterson."
"Mine's Wendy... I'm six." "Hi, Wendy."
She giggled. "You're funny," she said. In spite of my
gloom, I laughed too and walked on. Her musical giggle followed me.
"Come again, Mr. P," she called. "We'll have another happy day."
The days and weeks that followed belonged to others: a group of unruly
BoyScouts, PTA meetings, and an ailing mother. The sun was shining one
morning as I took my hands out of the dishwater. I need a sandpiper, I
said to myself, gathering up my coat. The ever-changing balm of the
seashore await me. The breeze was chilly, but I strode
along, trying to recapture the serenity I needed. "Hello, Mr. P," she said.
"Do you want to play?" "What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge
of
annoyance "I don't know, you say." "How about charades?"
I asked sarcastically. The tinkling laughter burst forth again. "I don't
know what that is." "Then let's just walk."
Looking at her, I noticed the delicate fairness of her face."Where do you
live?" I asked. "Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages.
Strange, I thought, in winter. "Where do you go to school?" "I don't go
to school. Mommy says we're on vacation." She chattered little girl talk
as we strolled up the beach, but my mind was on other
things.
When I left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day Feeling surprisingly
better, I smiled at her and agreed. Three weeks later, I rushed to my beach
in a state of near panic. I was in no mood to even greet Wendy. I thought
I saw her mother on the porch and felt like demanding she keep her child
at home. "Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy caught up
with me, "I'd rather be alone today." She seems unusually pale and out
of breath."Why?" she asked. I turned to her and shouted, "Because my mother
died!" and thought, my God, why was I saying this to a little child? "Oh,
she said quietly, "then this is a bad day." "Yes," I said, "and yesterday
and the day before and-oh, go away!" "Did it hurt?" she inquired. "Did
what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself. "When she died?" "Of
course it hurt!" I snapped, misunderstanding, wrapped up in myself I strode
off.
A month or so after that, when I next went to the beach, she wasn't there.
Feeling guilty, ashamed and admitting to myself I missed her, I went up
to the cottage after my walk and knocked at the door. A drawn looking young
woman with honey-colored hair opened the door. "Hello," I said, "I'm Robert
Peterson. I missed your little girl today and wondered where she was."
"Oh yes, Mr. Peterson, please come in. Wendy spoke of you so much. I'm
afraid I allowed her to bother you. If she was a nuisance, please, accept
my apologies." "Not at all-she's a delightful child." I said, suddenly
realizing that I meant what I had just said. "Wendy died last week, Mr.
Peterson. She had leukemia. Maybe she didn't
tell you." Struck dumb, I groped for a chair. I had to
catch my breath. "She loved this beach so when she asked to come, we couldn't
say no. She seemed so much better here and had a lot of what she called
happy days. But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly..." Her
voice faltered, "She left something for you ... if only I can find it.
Could you wait a moment while I look?" I nodded stupidly, my mind
racing for something, to say to this lovely young woman. She handed me
a smeared envelope, with MR. P printed in bold childish letters. Inside
was a drawing in bright crayon hues-a yellow beach, a blue sea, and a brown
bird. Underneath was carefully printed:
A SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY.
Tears welled up in my eyes and a heart that had almost forgotten to love
opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms. "I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry,
I'm so sorry," I muttered over and over, and we wept together. The precious
little picture is framed now and hangs in my study. Six words-one for each
year of her life - that speak to me of harmony, courage, and undemanding
love. A gift from a child with sea-blue eyes and hair the color of sand
- who taught me the gift of love.
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NOTE:
This is a true story sent out by Robert Peterson. It serves as a reminder
to all of us that we need to take time to enjoy living and life and each
other. The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.
Life is so complicated, the hustle and bustle of everyday traumas can make
us lose focus about what is truly important or what is only a monetary
setback or crisis. May God Bless everyone that receives this! There are
NO coincidences! Everything that happens to us happens for a reason. Never
brush aside anyone as insignificant Who knows what they can teach us?
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