It is a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery when it comes.
It is a mystery why some love grows and
it is a mystery why some love fails.
You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes,
but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the
experience.
Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones
and muscles and
electrical impulses in the body,
love is more than the sum of the
interests and attractions
and commonalities that two people share.
And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time,
so the coming and going of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift
that cannot be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will
come to you in full flower,
and you will take hold of it and celebrate
it in all inexpressible beauty.
This is a dream we all share. More
often, it will come and take hold of you,
celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.
When this happens to young people, they too
often try to grasp the love and hold it to them,
refusing to see that
it is a gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely moves
away.
When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit
of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost
rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.
They want answers where there are no answers.
They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no
longer love them,
or they try to get their lover to change, thinking
that if some small things were different, love would bloom again.
They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and
start a new life together, their love will grow.
They try anything to give meaning to what has happened.
But there is no meaning beyond the love itself,
and until they accept its own mysterious ways,
they live in a sea of misery.
You need to know this about love, and to accept it.
You need to treat what it brings you with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you,
be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him,
feel
honored that love came and called at your door,
but gently refuse the
gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another,
and he falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame.
Let it go!.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you !!
All you can really do is accept it
for all its mystery when it comes
into your life.
Feel the way if fills you to overflowing,
then reach
out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.
This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love,
and
they begin to look at love as something that flows to them
rather than
from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love
and instead become someone
who seeks love.
They forget that the secret of love is that it is a
gift,
and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart.
Love has its own time, its own seasons,
and its own reason for coming
and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it,
or reason it into
staying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives
and give it away when
it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart
or from the
heart of your lover,
there is nothing you can do and there is nothing
you should do.
Love always had been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
IF you keep your heart open it will come again.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
