Dear Me,

Why call yourself me? That's pathetic. And confusing for blondes. I'm not one, just aroud them a lot. Whenever I go online it's for tv and (unpopular most of time) famous people that i'm obsessed with. Don't
ask. Anyway, I don't feel like doing any details, so I'm just gonna ask what you have to say to someone who's suicidal. Don't say get help because we all have heard and know that, and please, get to the point and
don't write as much as you have to those other people.

---Beatle

Dear Beatle,

It's simply an anonymous name we made up, and I'm sure blondes have an easy enough time figuring it out. Feel free to dislike it, if you wish, although I'm sure there are many things out there more deserving of dislike than something silly like the name we choose for this.

Your letter sounds challenging, as if you're daring me to say something stupid to you. I am not claiming to have all the answers. Indeed, I feel no mere human does. If we had all the answers, I don't think we'd be here on this Earth, in the first place. You ask me not to talk forever, however do you think replying to a question about suicide can be done in five words?

I'll tell you what I think: I think that no one can tell you what to do, if you're suicidal. I was not going to tell you, "Get help," because I, quite personally, do not agree with a great majority of psychologists and shrinks out there. I think most of them are exploitive and sicker than the patients they are claiming to help. Perhaps I'm pessimistic, and cynical, but oh well; I don't like doctors of any kind.

I think that, if you're a friend or family member of someone who is suicidal, it is important to be somehow supportive, however I also do not think this is going to make the person any less suicidal. I just think it's better than abandoning them when they probably feel the most alone.

As far as being the one who is suicidal goes, I have suffered very serious depression, myself, to the point where I was simply waiting for the day when I would die. I was a bit more cowardly, I suppose, because I was too afraid of pain to actually do anything to kill myself, however I wanted death more than anything, and it was something I wished for, and it lasted a good couple of years. However, I can say that it passes, eventually. Sometimes it lasts years, sometimes just months, who knows, it varies, but it does eventually pass. It's not like you wake up one day and oh hey, you're not depressed anymore, but it goes in little stages. And I'm not really a believer that you can be perfectly happy here, at all, but things get more tolerable in the end. And this isn't just something I've encountered, but many friends have, too.

Therefore I don't think it's wise to end it all, no matter how hard things really are, or no matter how much you hate everything, and not because it's selfish but because I think it's cheating yourself, not allowing yourself to see another time when things could somehow improve at all. But I think those improvements come from within, and no doctor, and certainly not I, could ever bring them about, or truly help you. So please don't think I'm being condescending or patronising, okay? Because I will be the first one to admit that there is not way for me to really tell you the answer to this question. I think it varies from person to person; no one has the same answer, because everyone is suffering from different things. This isn't meant to isolate you more, though. And maybe you'll throw all of this out the window and see what you want to see in this, but that, again, is entirely your choice.

---Me

Dear Me,

I dont think I have any sexual preference at all..... I don't find guys or girls sexually attractive, I am a male. I have never masturbated or cummed, nor
have I touched myself for sexual pleasure, or anyone else. Is that possible? What is this supposed to mean?
Thank you. ---Jordan

Dear Jordan,

I think it is entirely possible. People don't HAVE to be lustful over every person they see, once they reach a certain age, and there is nothing unhealthy about not masturbating. A lot of people don't do that. There is no rule saying you should. As far as your feelings for other people go, you just haven't found anyone you feel desires for, I suppose. I happen to know a couple people who are like that, too. There is nothing wrong with it, don't consider yourself to be strange for it, and don't convince yourself there is something wrong with you for being this way. A time will come when you find someone attractive, it's just not yet. This is not something to be really concerned about, on your part, so relax about it.

---Me