I read this advice on a personal web site made by a guy trying to get a girlfriend. I thought it was really good so I copied it and put it here.

Hey David, whassup?
I just found your page from this Australian guy, and I read the whole thing. I wanted to tell you that I found your diary of getting a girlfriend quite amusing. Now, I don't mean that I find your plight funny, but I mean that I can totally relate to where you are coming from.
I'm married and 33 now, so I'm not exactly in the market anymore, but I have have done extensive research on the patterns of male/female courtship. I'm on my second marriage, and have had plenty of girlfriends, both temporary and permanent. So, i just thought I'd put my 2 cents in. It sounds like you understand the inherent dichotomy of the single female psyche. They say they want a nice guy, but they always go out with these total losers. Then, what's worse, they complain to you about what a jerk LoserBoy is, and wish that they could find a 'good man'. Whassupwidat? Well, Dave, Jonny here has figured out the secret. What those chicks want is really a good guy, but they don't want the ones that are already good (at least, not yet. When they are 30 or so, their tune will change. But I know you can't wait that long.) Nice guys are too easy. What chicks want is a bad guy, who they can turn into a good guy through the power of THEIR LOVE. You see, if she can get him to change, that must mean that he really loves her. If you don't believe me, check out some of those romance novels. They always feature some guy who is really a swine, but Miss Paula Perfect changes him into a devoted father and husband. Word up, es verdad, hermano! Most of those guys who are jerks, they shape up for a bit so that they can get some, but after a while, she gets boring/whiny, so he slacks off and goes back to his evil ways. This, of course, irritates the female to no end. Now,you would think that she would say, "Later, dude!" But no! She continues to hang in there, hoping that she can change him again. But of course by this time, it's too late, 'cause he's got her wrapped. So, what to do?
First, I agree with your perception that it's too hard to learn how to be a jerk.
I live in San Diego, which has the largest percentage of males to females in the continental United States. So, believe me, SD is a tough market. Yet all over the place, beach boy jerks abound! There's just no way you can play that game, so don't bother trying. Instead, increase your marketability. Think of it as going for a job interview. Don't come across as being too much of a nice guy, 'cause chicks will think you're a doormat, or worse, you will hear the dreaded "You know, I just think of you as a friend..." AAAAIGH! That's the kiss of death, my man! Instead, maintain that cool exterior, like James Dean. You ever hear any body say "James Dean is such a nice boy..." Hell no, chicks dig that aloof shit. And, he wasn't really a 'bad guy', he just had that _appearance_ , you dig what I'm saying? Now, I'm not saying to be an asshole poser-boy, what I'm saying is do your own thing, with confidence, and it will go down as Allah wills it. Don't show desperation. Females have a genetic sensing ability for desperation, and they will automatically despise you for it. Another thing, find a female friend and enlist her aid. And I mean, this person is to be a friend and NOTHING MORE. Like a fishing lure. It also helps if she's better than average looking. This will take time to develop, and you have to develop trust with this girl, but it will pay off, believe me. Most chicks love to do the match-maker thing, if you play your cards right, she can help a great deal with the preliminary set-up stuff and find out all the detail that you would never get in a million years. Then what you do is go to the mall with your female friend. Now this may be painful for some men (shopping, that is), but concentrate on the goal! The mall is where all the females are, right? One thing that Jonny has noticed in his years is that when you walk around the mall by yourself, babes won't give you a second glance. But if you walk around with some babe on your arm (remember, THEY don't know she's just a friend), you will get more second glances than you will know what to do with. Do you know why that is, David? Jonny will tell you. Because when you walk around with some other chick, babes look at the two of you and say to themselves "Hmm, what she got that I ain't got?" I have independent confirmation of this fact from many of my female friends. And that's all the lead-in you need, baby. You see, the fact that you are walking around with another female means: A) you must be safe and B) some chick finds you attractive to been seen with, so you must got something going on. You got your female friend with you, running interference, so by they time baby realizes that your friend is just a friend, you got your foot in the door. Which leads me to another thing: the 30-Second Rule. The 30-Second Rule is this: When you meet some hot babe for the first time and she meets you, the female will automatically decide within the first 30 seconds whether she could ever sleep with you or not. Don't ask me why, don't ask me how. Just trust me, they all do it. Now, if they decide that you could be acceptable, that's just the first hurdle, you've still got a long race to run. However, if they decide no...no amount of attention, clothes, jewelry, ski trips, etc, will EVER make them decide to fuck you. I believe that this behavior comes from some hard-wired genetic impulse that females have to help them find appropriate mates. Back in caveman days, there weren't a lot of malt shoppes to go to dates on, so females had to be able to quickly size up prospective males for their ability to provide for their children (which, by the way, is the overall, comsuming urge of all females). So, the sooner you realize you don't pass the test, the better off you'll be. Then you can move on to better prospects. Well, I've rambled on enough for a while. If you get a chance, email me back and tell me what you think. I am considering writing up some of this stuff and I could use a protege and more source material! stay cool,
Jon

p.s. Not to be critical, but one last comment. Regarding that chick that asked you about calling her during your last exams? And you blew her off? That was a mistake. Just because she might not have been a total babe is not an excuse. Besides, it's perfectly acceptable to have something temporary, you need the training! Just think of it like a summer job, it's not a real job, but it fills time. Believe me, when I was 23, I thought I knew everything about females I needed to know. 10 years later, I realize how bloody clueless I truly was. You can never have enough experience with the complexity of females, they are very crafty. Hell, I read Cosmopolitan every month just to try to stay ahead!

All you loser guys out there like me pay close attention, this dude really knows his shit. He's got me convinced.