theories

1) Whenever someone is “joking” about something, there is always an ounce of truth in it, no matter how minuscule.
Par example:
“You’re such a mooch! hehe” in a joking way. That person really does think you are a mooch just a tiny bit. Of course they don’t dislike you or anything for it, and they might not even think you are a big mooch, but there has to be some truth there to base that statement on, or else, if someone just randomly said that to someone who wasn’t displaying any mooch-like behavior at all, everyone would be like “HUH?” You see? Context, needs to have context.
ned in the future.

2) Whenever a guy and a girl are especially good, close friends, there is always some minuscule sort of attraction (conscious or subconscious) either between them or coming from one end or the other. Not necessarily enough attraction to start something between them, but it’s there. And it doesn't matter if either or both of you have significant others, because one can be attracted to more than one person at a time (as history has shown us) and it seems that people are weak :P

a) When that attraction fades, inevitably, the friendship dies a little too (or a lot), from lack of effort from either both sides, or one or the other. Usually it starts with a one-sided withdrawl, and slowly yhat affects the other to withdraw a little. Which goes back to the first point from When Harry Met Sally that said “Girls and guys can never be just friends because the sex part always gets in the way.” Now here, the word sex isn’t literally just about sex per say, but also referring to attraction or crushes.

6) All males must go through some sort of "rebellious phase" in their lifetime. Sometimes it is going through a bad grade slump (if u usually had great grades), or starting to hang with the not so good crowd. Some go through this phase in middle school, or high school, or even in the middle-ages (perhaps this is the true cause of the well-known mid-life crisis that many males are rumored to go through). For some it lasts a few weeks and for others a few years (or even forever). No matter how, when or what it is, it is always a period that is a significant "phase" in their lives that one can without much difficulty, locate. (or if u can't put your finger on it yet, he has yet to go through it) Hmm, i wonder if this is true for girls too..... (will examine new data when found).

7) Sad or not sad, all friendships, well i can't say all, probably around 95% of friendships are based on convenience. When you are far from your friends, you will drift apart no matter what, and you will for sure grow closer to the people you live with. You are better friends with those you have classes with, and if not, you drift apart as well. This fact totally sucks and is sad, but I suppose in a way it does make sense in that you are closer to the people who are literally physically "closer" to you. It just sucks when you realize that the phrase "friendships are based on convenience" is totally true. :P

5) Aim (also known as AOL Instant Messenger) and other online chatting gives one or more of the people involved a false sense of closeness, intimacy, and friendship. So however good friends you think you are with or however well you think you know someone whom you interact with primarily through electronic means, to get the real level of the friendship, you must go down a few notches in reality. Yes, this is a sad byproduct of having this masking "Screen name" which results in the loss of personality inhibitions, having the ability to be more free and yourself.. Although this ability to act more normal and natural or even maybe a bit crazy on AIM to someone is a good thing in itself, that is what leads to the false sense of "knowing" someone or the "deepness" of your friendship/ relationship.

8) Sometimes the only thing that holds a group of friends together is a name or label. Does that mean that the friendships were not that true in the first place? or just because of universal law number 7 (see above)? Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Is it right or wrong to keep holding on to something that is just all based on the past? "What's in a name?" (I know i used that quote out of context, hehe).

9) In middle school and high school I used to really believe that the element that makes one person "fall for" a certain person is by falling for how kind, nice and good they are. Well after subconsciously seeing all these different situations and circumstances throughout my short life, I just realized (i have no idea why this suddenly came to me and hit me in the head) that love isn't based on how good this person is at this, or how nice they were to those people, or what qualities are the best about them. It's about that one other person who can see you for the brilliance of you and your qualities, someone who can see all those great things about you more clearly than anyone else can. So it's not how this or that person is more likeable because of this or that. It's all about how a certain someone sees you, their perspective, and how out of all the beautiful, wonderful, kind people available out there, you look the best to them, and how no one else in the whole looks as imperfectly beautiful as they do. Isn't it wonderful how art (and beauty) is in the eye of the beholder?

So, girls and guys, when that certain person that you kinda had an eye on, or person you had a true cruch on, or person that you were in an intimate relationship with, doesn't seem to return the same feelings of appreciation, it really and truly "isn't you, it's them." (hehe) And don't feel bad at all because there's someone out there that God has created for you, who will see you more clearly, really SEE you and the beauty you possess inside, and someone whose beauty you won't be able to resist (cat puurrrrr). ;) Isn't that some-thing/-one worth forgetting about that older person for? (well, for romance anyways)

hmm, maybe this thought spurt has to do something with the fact that I just finished "My Best Friend's Wedding" about 30 mins ago.... hmmm :)