There aren't many pages about loneliness on the Internet, and most of those few ones are religious. I decided to make this page, because I think I know something about this topic and I'd like to share my thoughts. I'm the only child and I live in one of the most unpopulated countries in the world, so I guess  I've experienced quite a lot loneliness. It's been both a negative and a positive force in my life. I've learned to be independent, to survive on my own in most situations and to be my own judge (when choosing new clothes etc..). But when I've been too much alone I start thinking too negative.
All of us spend periods of time alone during our lifes. You can't take someone to go to the bathroom with you, right?? Being alone doesn't always mean being lonely, however.  After a rough day at school or at work many people feel like being alone for a while - just getting one´s thoughts together, listening to some music, relaxing.. That's positive loneliness.
There are tens of thousands of people, who suffer from loneliness, in the world. If you have this problem, it's good to know you cartainly aren't the only one dealing with it! It's not always so easy to find people to talk to, especially if you are somehow different or  just shy or not used to talking to people. I spent most of my early childhood among adults and when I first was taken to a day nursery, I was horrified to notice that I've no idea how to manage with people my age.
Loneliness can lead to serious concenquences, like depression, isolation,low self esteem,  feeling of worthlessness and even suicide. It's no wonder, because man's a social animal after all. We need human touch and someone to share our thoughts and feelings with.
Loneliness doesn't need to be a problem to ruin your life, though. You can do a lot to help yourself. You can cope with it by inventing something interesting to do by yourself like sports, reading,painting, listening to music etc. While taking long walks on my own I've gotten the most creative thoughts on my mind.
The other thing to do is to go places where you meet people. Marilyn Monroe said that the most terrible thing to experience is to be alone in a crowd. Maybe so for a celebrity.. but in my experience it's better to reach out, go to a shopping mall, to see a movie, anywhere, than just sit alone staring the four walls around you. Besides in any social occasion it's possible to find good friends.
How to break the ice?? That may be the most difficult part of all. I don't know what to say when I meet people
, who don't seem to have anything in common with me before remembering this simple rule "to be interesting is to be interested". It advices you to be interested in the other people arround you. You can break the ice by asking something you want to know about the other person.
These days you don't even have to go out your home to reach out people. You can do it on the Internet. I know this is a cliché...Just couldn't help putting it here.. But really you can find many people to talk to on the Internet. Chats and classifieds are good places to start with. Just remember that "talking" on online in real time can't replace real human touch, which inludes face expressions like smiles & touching. Animals can't replace human touch, either,
but through your intrest in animals you may find some friends through your hobby.
If the first person you try to make friend with, turns out not to be a good friend, that doesn't mean the next person is a disappointment, too. There are nearly 6 000 000 000 people in the world today. All of us are different. It's no wonder if the first or second one you meet, isn't your soul mate. There are plenty of others to try make friends with..
Just don't give up
and don't miss a chance to react out
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