SEX

Is there a place for a sexual female with integrity, strength, and respect in American culture?

Throughout history a woman's sexuality has tended to become a "thing", a thing after all is more manageable than a person. However, for a thing to be formed, it must be deformed and robbed of its original shape. Female sexuality has always been forced to conform to social molds-either locked behind closed doors or exploited for the pleasure of the male consumer.

A woman's sexuality is either a sin or a trophy.

I am a sexual female, but I had to and continue to have to, re-examine the imprisoning standards and attitudes towards female sexuality. Everything around us tells us that sexuality is dangerous or should be hidden. Starting from our parents telling us to keep our "pee-pees" covered to the climate of today's culture where over half the population is not safe to walk alone at night. Between the performance issues and the primping, confusion between the sexes is great.

Sexism does not work for men-not the men I know-together, we all suffer deeply from it.

Misconceptions about sexuality begin to form within us from the moment we are assigned a gender. While growing up, when I would fantasize about a guy, I was perplexed by the dichotomy of feelings I had about their genitalia; intense pleasure but always an underlying of potential threat. I never felt this way when fantasizing about a woman. I wonder how many guys feel threatened by potential violence from female genitalia?

My spirtual safari through the foliage of my woman's sex the sweet smell of my survival

There are very few places to explore our sexuality (if we dare explore it at all). Most of the places contemporary mainstream culture brainwashes us to believe are "sexual" aren't sexual at all. Sure, there may be nudity or explicit writing, but does it teach us or help us expand our knowlege of ourselves and our relationships. Most often this is not the case. Much of the time we're caught in a catch-22. We want to be sexual and yet the places we traditionally are told are sexual (adult bookstores, Playboy) leave us with an usatisfied or even anti-sexual feeling.

For a less destructive and distorted view on sex, visit these sites on the web. If sex freaks you out, do not visit them. It's your finger that pushes the link. I say go for it, but nobody is forcing you!