A: First off let me say that I've actually been asked these same questions many times. And I don't mind answering them at all. In fact this is one question I knew someone would ask me or ask me again so that I would put here in my Q&A section. Due to Geocities little rules on adult content I can't really get explicit but I'll try be suggestive enough so that your imagination can get the idea and complete the picture.
Now on to the answers. When I get intimate with my girlfriend whether or not I leave my arm on depends on the situation. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, this of course assuming I have it on in the first place. Mainly I decide by my mood and whatever my girlfriend wants at the time. If I'm feeling a bit frisky I'll leave it on and if I'm feeling mellow then I take it off. These aren't hard and fast rules but most of the time they apply. When I take my arm off it becomes part of undressing/foreplay and isn't any different than say my bra. This leaves me with a bare stump which I'll talk about in a bit. If I keep my arm on then I use it much as I do with my right arm and hand, I use it to touch, stroke, caress and scratch. Granted I can't feel anything but my girlfriends have always liked this and I've never been one to argue. I have never found that wearing my arm takes away from the arousal or passion of foreplay and lovemaking. As for doing intimate things with my artificial arm yes there are intimate things I do with it. Even though it lacks the soft feeling or the sense of touch of my fingers my hook does work well in place of my fingers when it comes to rubbing around my girlfriends clitoral area. This does require more caution than simple using my fingers but I've never had a problem since I've been using my artificial arm and hook for self-pleasure since I was 13. I can also use my hook for inserting into my girlfriend much like any sex toy only it doesn't go very deep and I have to be extra careful moving it around. And yes this counts for vaginal and anal penetration.
As for the times when I take my arm off things are basically the same. I used my stump to touch, caress, anything I do with my hand except squeeze. One advantage with using my bare stump is I can feel what I'm touching and my girlfriend gets to feel skin and not metal touching her. Another advantage is that the end of my stump is very sensitive to light touch and when gently touched or rubbed arouses me sexually. This something not uncommon in amputees and something no one has ever been to explain, the sexual arousal caused by lightly touching the end of a stump. As for intimate uses mostly I just touch and rub whatever is near my stump. I do however also use my stump for vaginal penetration and yes I know it sounds painful but done carefully and slowly I've as yet to ever be with someone who didn't love it afterwards. The whole key is to make sure that I get my girlfriend aroused enough so that she loosens up then it's a simple matter of slowly and gently sliding the end of my stump in. I know this sounds rather long and drawn out and rather heady. But when I'm actually doing it I never have to think as I can tell simply by what I feel on the end of my stump what I should do next. Once inside it's simply a matter of slowly moving my stump around first slowly to avoid any unwanted pain and then as the situation permits moving it faster. Usually I do solely this as the main part of making love however sometimes I do only do for I while before moving on to other things. As for afterwards, well just like any other time having my stump kissed, nibble or gently sucked feels wonderful.
Well there you have the answers. I apologize if some parts sound stilted or goofy but it's a bit tricky to write about intimacy when you have to worry about the nature of your content. So if some of what I wrote sounds more like the book you read in grade school to learn about the birds and the bees than The Joy of Sex, I apologize. I did the best I could. Hope it's as good for you as it was for me. ;-)
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