A LESSON FOR PARENTS


and Freinds

One of the hardest jobs parents must do is to teach a child to stand alone. Then, we parents have to learn to listen to our children, give them room to mess up, and above all....let go. As I just recently was taught by one of my sons; Letting go is not easy and it is not painless.

A very good friend sent me this during my time of crying and learning. I am placing it here to help other parents learn to let go. I hope it helps.

Please Listen

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice,

you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why

I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something

to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen.

Don't talk or do - just hear me.

Advice is cheap; 20 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham

in the same newspaper.

And I can do for myself; I am not helpless.

Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself,

you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.

But when you accept as a simple fact

that I feel what I feel,no matter how irrational,

then I can stop trying to convince you and get about this business

of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling.

And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them.

Perhaps that's why prayer works, sometimes,

for some people - because God is mute, and he doesn't give advice or try to fix things.

God just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.

So please listen, and just hear me.

And if you want to talk, wait a minute

for your turn - and I will listen to you.

by Author Unknown from Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul Copyright 1997 by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, and Kimberly Kirberger

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