Anne, ON, Canada - 07/06/00 10:07 AM
My Email: Anne
How did you find my page?: Internet searching for truth

Comments:
HI Kay, I am a reunited adoptee. I too am anti-adoption. I have worked with birth mothers and adoptees for 10 years. There is nothing but sorrow and heartache in this godforsaken process of adoption. I would like to see it banned. Children should not be placed for adoption to satisfy infertile couples. Every effort should be made to give them the human right to be parented, loved and raised by their own real parents. Bravo for your website!!!!! I for one support it!!


Tricia, Ca, USA - 05/31/00 01:17 PM
My Email: Tricia

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Hi Kay, I just read your movie review section. What strength it must have taken for you to be able to look at all those adoption movies! Thanks for doing it. Your reviews are the most comprehensive I've seen concerning adoption. As you know, I've found my mom and the rest of my natural family this past year. It has been wonderful and difficult to be reunited, but I found it so much more difficult to be separated from them. I think my father is in a lot of denial about things and believes the adoption rhetoric. My mom and I get along well, however. Perhaps my father has always felt uncomfortable being a father however, he is still my father. Like another adoptee in your guestbook, I agree that saying negative things about adoption does not mean that my childhood was terrible or that I "had a bad experience with adoption." These comments are made by people, often adopters, who are trying to deny the truth. Thank you so much for making the truth known, Kay! You are doing an ! excellent job of educating people.


emily - 01/26/00 10:26 PM
My URL: FNSA

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I'm sorry that you were so scarred by your experience with adoption and agree wholeheartedly with what you said about how mothers should be free to keep their children (there are some progressive pro-life organizations like http://www.feministsforlife.org which are pushing this view ). Abortion and adoption both seem to leave scars unfortunately. I suggest that any woman who is currently pregnant seek help in keeping the child. You owe it to yourself. It may not seem "easy" at first to raise your child but in the long run the "easy" choice may turn out to be the most painful.


Style21, Ca - 01/26/00 10:26 PM
My Email: Style21

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I think what your doing is great Kay. I'm fighting for my son which my exgirlfriend gave up for adoption. It's killed me inside, and I know she feels it too. She lives with the sister of the adotive family. They claim it to be a closed aboption, but I really doubt it. All I know is that she was never like this until she met this adoptive family, and converted to mormon. We were to marry and rise my child but, the hole setup was killed by the adoption family convincing her that we were unable to give our child what he needs. SO she turned on me, and now I've been fighting for my son for close to a year. With every thing that's happened, it's brought me to check out all of the info. on adoption. Most of the people I talked to on the adoption chat lines said I was sick for even trying to take my child back. They told me that I could have children, and since the adoptive family couldn't that I should let it be. And when I got older I could have a family of my own. I was replused that so many people thought this way, I'm 21 I have a good job. And for all my life I knew fathers that didn't even try being there for their children, and the women that looked bad at them. But me, I stand up and fight for my son the one I love more than the world and get looked at like some villian. It's seemed to me at first the only people that were their to support me was my family and friends. Until I found you (kay) and Jessica and all the members of Adoption Legalised lies. I was so happy to find people who were on my side. Who knew the pain and lies these adoption families, and agencies bring. Thankyou so much Kay for everything your doing. GODBLESS


Anne M. Schmitt, Bflo. NY USA - 01/25/00 01:09 PM
My Email:Anne
How did you find my page?: Sylvia`s Page

Comments:
I read your story and I am happy that you have found your child. I am a birthmother searching for my daughter, DOB 01/14/62. Hosp. OLV Lackawanna, NY. Baptize 01/17/62, Chapel @ OLV Infant Home, Lackawanna, NY Charlene Frances Kane. She went under two agencies (1) Catholic Charities Bflo. NY (2) Baker Victory Services, Lackawanna, NY from 01/14/62 to 03/30/62. Final adoption 12/04/63, Catholic Charities Agency. Dr. Paul N. Burstein my GYN brought my beautiful daufhter into the world @ 2:30pm., normal healthy birth, he dosen`t remember anything. Hope to find her soon & also hope God will give me the privilege of holding her for the first time before I pass away. Your friend, Anne


Angel, TX USA - 01/10/00 04:17 PM
My Email:IloveJesus
My URL:Angel's Adoption Page
How did you find my page?: web ring

Comments:
I'm a birth mother and I like to look at all aspects of adoption.Love Angel


Tracy, CA USA - 01/06/00 10:38 PM
My Email:Metalmom71
My URL:OUTRAG3411
How did you find my page?: Anti-adoption web ring

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Hi Kay. I would like to commend you on showing the courage to have a site like this. I am a 28 year old adoptee, and I am so tired of always feeling guilty when I talk negatively about my adoption. People always assume when you are an adoptee that if you aren't "Rah rah rah" about adoption that you must have had a bad experience with your adoptive family. This is simply not true. I love my adoptive parents, but I am still totally angry about the whole adoption issue. Every time I hear of someone wanting to give their child up for adoption, I literally get sick to my stomach. Everyone needs to know that there is pain when it comes to adoption, no matter what the intent is, and no matter how great the adoptive parents are. The only people who truly benefit from the adoption experience are the adoptive parents. I do beleive every child needs a good and loving home, however, society would rather advocate seperating a child from it's mother and giving it to another family to raise (a temporary solution), rather than getting the child's mother the help, education, she needs to raise her child. It's really twisted when you think about it. I also find it really weird when I tell people I am adopted, and they ask me if I feel lucky. Excuse me??? I usually say something like, "well, I was lucky to have great parents who love me, but there is a lot more to it than that." I love how people think it's so cut and dry. Anyways, just rambling now. I feel that this is the only website that I can get my true feelings out without being blasted by other adoptees who refuse to admit they have any pain, or adoptive parents who are too closed minded to accept that their child may feel anger someday about being adopted. Thank you for you honesty about this subject.

Vicky L. Seymour, MN USA - 12/21/99 6:33 PM
My Email:Whulphie2@aol.com
How did you find my page?: searching thru adoptions

Comments:
I find your story somewhat similar to mine, except I have never met my daughter. Wonder if I ever will......?

Jodie-Anne - 12/03/99 05:52:56
My Email:amberangelfire@hotmail.com
How did you find my page?: Re-visiting

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Hi Kay, I have read your page thoroughly now and also searched the net for other pages. I have come across so many people wanting to adopt,all spurting out the same lies I was told. It seems to me that adoption is all for them, yet they do not see this. The people who have my child are awful. They were the ones who put most of the pressure on me. Now that awful woman has made up some story about how she gave birth to MY daughter and what the labour was like. Adoptive mothers have some serious problems. How can they justify taking another woman's baby and calling him/her her own? They must have some serious psycological problems! Well, I will sign off for now. Feel free to e-mail me at any time if you want to talk further. See ya.

Just Me - 11/29/99 02:37:08
How did you find my page?: Surfing

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The anger is so sad to me. I don't know, but being adipted is better than being aborted. I know there is pain trust me my husband was adopted. But even in my "normal" two parent family there was abuse. I an not at all saying that there are not abuses in the system... oh yes there are. But there are many young girls who get pregnant and are nit ready for the duty of motherhood. Not all adoptive parents are abusive. We are infact planning to adopt, but there will be no pushing of any kind.

[It makes me sad that you will do this knowing the pain if will cause.]

It can be never be ideal this is true. I know moms who have gone this route I also know ladies who have aborted or kept there children when they had no help physically or finacially and grew to resent their child. This is sad children are often concieved in less than erfect surcumstances I just pray that the better of all evils can be chosen in all situations.

[If the best interest of the child is truly your goal, the better of all evils would be to choose guardianship or helping the mom, rather than taking her child from her and calling it your own.]

My God bless all you moms and adoptive parens who love your children should be forever grateful. In Christ,Just Me

Adopted child - 11/16/99 19:01:51
My Email:mrramsey2000@yahoo.com
How did you find my page?: surfing

Comments:
You have asked me not to be rude and I respect that. I'm not sure if you would consider my comments rude. Please e-mail me your address so I can personaly e-mail you back. For some reason I'm having problems e-mailing you at your site. Thank you for you t me. My e-mail is mrramsey2000@yahoo.com

Sharon Whiteman - 11/05/99 04:50:01
My Email:sheri@wycol.com
How did you find my page?: looking up registries on internet

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My name is Sharon Whiteman, a birthmom searching for my adopted son. His birthname was Larry Lewis. I was 23 at the time my name was Sharon Lewis. My son was born at Genesse Hospital, in Rochester, NY.Dr's name Dr. Jerome Glaser.Social Services at Westfal Rd, Rochester,NY was the adoption agency. He weighed 7lbs 12ounces. 21 1/2 inches long, blue eyes. Please anyone who can help me find him.

Claire - 10/24/99 09:34:00
My Email:gertie@mpx.co,.au
How did you find my page?: adoption

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My husband was adopted in 1951. His records have been destroyed. Where do we start? His adopted parents are dead and their son claims to have destroyed all records as well. The department has no record on his adoption. It's as if he doesn't exist. We have a name his mother gave when he was born but so far all the searches we have done have been to no avail. The hospital records have been destroyed, the medical records my bmother would have filled out are gone. Who am I? who had the right to do this o me?

Jodie-Anne - 10/21/99 08:50:42
My Email:don't have one yet
How did you find my page?: anti-adoption site

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I still haven't seen all of this site but I want to so much! I only lost my daughter last year through lies and deception and it broke my heart. How do we manage? I fought all last year for her and only lost because of a pro-adoption judge. Now I have been plunged into a world where the pain is unbelievable and where I feel very isolated. I hate adoption and everything it stands for because of all the pain it has created. Good on you for speaking up about it!!!!

Timothy Jacobson - 10/14/99 16:54:03

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Hi, I was so intrigued by your Adopted Killers page. That makes me feel so validated. I always recognize myself in the descriptions of battered children's emotional problems. But, the people who adopted me never hit me. Adoption sure does make life har er.

Charley - 10/08/99 17:31:24
My Email:don't have one yet
How did you find my page?: Looking for information on adoption and wounds

Comments:
Hi, your pages are so wonderful! I am an adoptee and I have often fallen victim to so many cruel statements. For instance, I still remember the day when I was 9 that my adopters told me that I was adopted. I was ADOPTED! Like some kind of puppy or kitten from the Humane Shelter. I cried and cried and cried for days. Or how about the time they told me that they couldn't pay my tuition to Harvard Or what about the time they just GAVE me my Original Birth Certificate and Adoption Decree?? Oh, here's the government PROOF that your're not REALLY our child.I oh so hope that I can find my mother so tha

Dave from the Hills - 10/08/99 03:32:11
My Email:GooberNutPunk@mindspring.com
How did you find my page?: One of those ADOPTERS told me about it! The rude bastard...

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From your rude adopter remarks page: "Summer 1997 -- A mother once shared a letter with me from the adopters of her son that was signed "Jack's parents." [It's very rude to rub salt in her wounds like this. And yes, she was very hurt by this cruel selfish action.]" Yes, how CRUEL for Jack's adopters to refer to themselves that way! What the hell is wrong with them--didn't they know they're own names?? I guess when my "birthmother" asks me how my "PARENTS" are doing, she is being really rude and insensitive to hers lf. [yes, she is] -David, Angry Adopted Child

Linda Webber - 09/23/99 22:28:51
My Email:64873@aol.com
How did you find my page?: link from anti-adoption

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Hello: I will have to type faster as I just got booted off. As a reunited BMom of the 60s I am so..sad and angry to see that still there are lies being told to get young womens babies. It's the so called Open Adoption! Young women are coming forth with tale of the open adoption agreements being slammed shut once the adoption papers are signed! Take one young women scared ,pregnant and with no family support and THE PROMISE OF ALWAYS BEING IN THEIR CHILDRENS LIVES AND EVERYONE WILL BE ONE BIG HAPPY FAMILY!Wh n the young women go to the shared attorney they are told oh,well!There's nothing they can do,because its my understanding that open adoption agreements are not legally binding in all or most states. I'm posting on the boards that I think young Pregnant W men May go to so I can warn them, I dont know what else to do? Any suggestions?Yep, open adoption is the same game, different name that is being used as a ploy to get young women to surrender their babies!

Jen - 09/13/99 22:29:38
My Email:jenniferarrow@hotmail.com
How did you find my page?: doing research on the net for my psyc paper on the emotional effects of adoption

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I haven't seen all of your sight yet but I do feel for you very much. Though I may not agree with everything I agree with most please contact me.

Tricia - 08/26/99 18:46:06

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Hi Kay, Thank you for telling the truth about adoption. I was adopted through the closed records system. I have now met my birthmother (after years of trying) and we cannot make up for the lost time. People look at me and think things have turned out well. Th y assume that my adoptive parents did a good job of raising me. But I know the truth. As one therapist told me, "You succeeded despite your [adoptive] parents." And I succeeded despite having been taken away from my mother at six weeks of age. What a ruel and unnatural practice adoption is. And yet most people mistakenly think it's good. The only way I can deal with my feelings about being separated from my mother (and father) is to educate people about the truth concerning adoption. Otherwise, I would probably end up committing suicide. If I can save one mother and child from being sep rated, I will feel good about what I've done. But no amount of feeling good about anything can bring back the years that my mother and father and I lost. Tricia

Christie - 06/21/99 16:50:59
My Email:jwithe1043@digitalexp.com
How did you find my page?: surfing around on adoptions

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I'm 26 and an adoptee. I have been looking for my birth parents for a little over a year now but when it's a closed adoption it's very hard. I was raised by an alcoholic so there was alot of emotional abuse. I pray that my birth parents are looking for me. I need more info on my medical back ground. I can petition the courts in Tampa but I don't have the money for that. Also there might be hope for all of us adoptees soon. There is a state that is going to pass a law to open all closed adoption reco ds and if it passes than that brings alot of hope to all of the other states to open there closed adoption records to. So all of us who are adoptees iso our bith parents but being a closed adoption and having no luck hang in there and pray for the best. If you know of anyone who was 19 in 1973 and gave birth to a baby girl on 3/24/73 in tampa Florida at St. Josephs hospital please feel free to email me. Thankyou and Godbless all of you, Christie

Shelly - 06/20/99 12:18:37
My Email:butzz77@aol.com
How did you find my page?: on delphi(yes we are there)

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I've just recently reunited with my bson. All is going well. He had tried to search for me. So far it is a happy reunion but at times I feel very uneasy. Is this normal?

loue - 06/17/99 00:07:02
How did you find my page?: search for ways to opt

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I think it is wrong for children to be snached out of there parents arms but in other situations i disagree with you I hope all is well with you and your daughter.

- 06/14/99 02:21:51
How did you find my page?: looking up adoption

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I just read your article concerning your experience with the adoption of your daughter. Let me just say that my heart goes out to you for what you have endured. I can never understand the pain that experience put you through. However, if you were unabl to care for your child, at least you were able to find someone who could. I hope that you can someday come to terms with that chapter of your life.

[GhostDancer: I WAS able to care for my daughter. I chose adoption because it was what society advocated and because I had only heard good things about adoption. I was totally ingnorant of the bad things about adoption. If I had been unable to care for my daughter, I think society should have helped us stay together -- as they should be helping families stay together now.]

Patti - 06/09/99 22:36:27
How did you find my page?: Looking at child related pages

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I have a friend who is adopted who found her birthmother a few years ago. The lady had been 14 years old, living in a literal shack with no electricity or running water. My friend loves her adoptive parents, but as for being better off as they say...she as molested by her "grandpa" for years and years. She would have been better off in the shack with no abuse! Her life is filled with healing or trying to heal as well.

Nicki - 06/09/99 14:28:40
My Email:nicketti@aol.com
How did you find my page?: I found it through AOL, and the A.L.L. Homepage

Comments:
Thank you for telling the truth about adoption! I am a "birthmother" (really, a MOTHER) who surrendered my daughter in an open adoption under fraud and coercion. I was 16, and not one person warned me of the negatives of adoption for mother and child. The adopters slammed the door shut on me soon afte they got my baby. They broke their promise to send me information about my daughter. It is all legal, but it is a moral crime that is unexcusable. I liked your Open Adoption Discussion. I wish I'd seen it before I was betrayed into an open adoption. Even my parents were lied to. No one told us the truth, just cheerful lies that it was "best for the child" and I'd get over it. Amanda is WRONG that adoption isn't like it was 20 years ago. The pain and lies are still there, and people are still trying to justify them. How can this happen in a democratic society? How can anyone justify separating a child from her mother and natural family just because she is young and naive, when she loves her baby and has done no wrong. I am not a drug abuser or a child abuser. My o ly "crime" was having my daughter and being young and trusting. I am treated like a criminal. I have no right to even know if my daughter is alive! But I searched and found her in spite of the walls people tried to put up between us. For that I am now called a "stalker" and suspected of ill intent. It is sick that some people see a mother as a criminal for wanting to know if her child is alive and to let her child know how very much she is loved by her mother. I will never stop loving my daughter, and I will never stop talking about the pain and injustice of adoption. It is too late for me to benefit from knowing the truth, but maybe some other young mother and her child will be spared from this agony of unnec essary separation. Thank you for telling a side of adoption most people don't hear about. You go, girl!! Nicki

andrea - 06/08/99 16:19:59
My Email:jataborn@comsource.net
How did you find my page?: surfing info about children

Comments:
your story was very touching. My husband was adopted when he was 2, he had a very tough time growing up, I think because he was adopted and not knowing who he really was, so he turned to drugs and alcohol to help cope I believe. He tried for years to fi ure out who his parents were, and when he was 28 his adoptive mother finally gave him the adoption papers with his mothers name on them!!! I just wish she would have gave them to him years ago and maybe he would not have had the problems he has had, he s nce found his mother, she only lived 30 miles from us this whole time, it was a good meeting with her and we see her about 2 times per year, he found out alot he needed to know and has helped him grow a great deal. I have to agree with you I am against a option also, I guess because I think it is just too hard on a child to have to deal with. Thank you for your story, and your time to let me speak. andrea,

Kelly - 06/03/99 02:35:46
My Email:kellymarienicole@hotmail.com
How did you find my page?: web crawler

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i came here because i was doing research for my religion project.- the morality of adoption which has to include statistics, and the catholic view on it. i'm a 15 year old adoptee (closed adoption) i was placed in foster care for three months, and then a opted by my loving parents. i've been searching for my birth mother (i don't know what else to call her..kindof confused about that one!) FOREVER!! but nothing has turned up. but i think i'll get better results once i'm legal age. i read the page you had n the rudeness...MY GOD! that made me cry that some people can be so ignorant! but there is one comment that i do agree with (partially because not all are like this) it's the one about "my bmom gave me a better chance" i feel, that if she could have supp rted me, then she would have kept me. but i do realize that it could also be that maybe her parents made her turn to adoption??? i'm not birth mother, i wouldn't know. i'm totally unclear as to the many reasons why mothers relenquish their children to ado tion. ( i personnally, couldn't handle it. i had to consider that option a few weeks ago, but then got quick releif when i found out that i wasn't pregnant!!) i wasn't trying to be ignorant or anything, if that's what you think. thank you for posting the tatistics though, i printed them and will foot note them in my essay. Kelly.

Karen - 06/02/99 00:57:33
My Email:cubs4eva@msn.com
How did you find my page?: looking

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I am glad that you made a page like this. I have to disagree with the anti-adoption pricipal though, as I am adopted myself. I can also understand you pain since I too, had a child at the age of 15. My mother was just like yours. Sometimes I wish I ha kept my daughter, but I couldn't even drive yet. I truely understand your pain. I am glad you put yours out there for other people to see. I know that through adoption I had a great life! I wanted to give that to my daughter. A life that I couldn't ive her at that point in time. Karen

Jan - 06/01/99 18:41:51
How did you find my page?: Surfin' Around

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I don't agree with all your ideas but this is one thought provoking site. Very well executed! God bless you in your search for peace. I wish everyone had the courage to be as honest as you are!

Anne - 06/01/99 17:23:04
How did you find my page?: Adoption Search

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Kay, I don't know if you have a personal mission statement as corny as "if I help just one person", but you have definitly helped my husband and me decide not to adopt. It is unnatural and wrong. We have been planning for several years to adopt a baby g rl from China, and we have already had our home study done and the date for our flight would have been this fall. The rules are getting really tough and we were afraid we would not make it, but now we see that we should not pursue this. Not only to take a child away from its parents, but its country as well! Someone else will have to commit this sin in the name of good, we wash our hands of adoption and will spend our time, money, and energy on both ourselves and on helping children in another way. The l nks from your site helped us as well, thank you so much!

- 05/31/99 18:20:52

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I can understand your bitterness about adoption, but life in general is not a fairy tale, whether adopted or not. I am adopted, it has been both good and bad. There is lots to deal with. I would encourage you to talk to a counselor who can help you focu on the positive and put the negative in perspective. We cannot change the past but must learn to deal with it. If you can't do this, it will always control you and keep you from finding happiness within yourself and in your relationships.

[GhostDancer: Life in general is not presented as a fairy tale. Adoption is! I do see a counselor, Anonymous Adoptee. I've been in therapy since 1993. There is nothing positive about losing your child to adoption. Nothing! The perspective is that it s ould not have happened.]

Sheila Ganz - 05/31/99 17:30:12
My URL:http://www.ibar.com/unlocking
My Email:sganz@hotmail.com
How did you find my page?: from a friend on an adoption list

Comments:
Hi there! I want to introduce myself and say I am very moved by your story. I also am a birthmother as result of being raped. Not as terrifying as your experience. I was 20 and it was just one person. Not a date rape though. I found my daughter when she was 19 we met once, but she does not want a relationship with me at this time. She is 30. I am an artist and filmmaker and am in the process of completing a documentary "Unlocking the Heart of Adoption" about the lifelong impact of adoption (without the rosy colored glasses) on adoptee, birthparents and adoptive parents in same race and transr cial adoptions. Please check out my website if you're interested. I have also done a lot of healing around being raped and consider myself a survivor. In the essay section in my website is a short story I wrote "The day I threw my guilt away." I'd like to hear back from you when you have a chance. Take care and thank you for your website! Sheila

Lia Mari - 05/27/99 14:05:41
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Heartland/pointe/5729
My Email:lia_li@hotmail.com
How did you find my page?: Looking for Utah Reunion Regsitries

Comments:
Hi... I was surfing, looking for registires specific to the state of Utah... Your page came up because you have a link called "Utah: Stealing children"... or something like that... Anyway... Just thought I would say that I liked your site... very informative! I hope it's alright... but I am adding a link to your site from mine. Please feel free to go have a peak. I am in the process of "re-vamping" the site... so don't be put off by the fact that it's a mess right now.. *S* Sincerely, Lia Mari

Lori Carangelo - 05/24/99 00:03:46
My Email:lcarangelo@earthlink.net
How did you find my page?: per Jess DelBalzo

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I've "been there," too! While I am glad for the 12 years my son and I have had since I found him, reunion can never make up for the lifelong injury done to us both by the stroke of a pen and a coerced "irrevocable consent." Lovely web=site and I hope it will bring comfort to be able to share here. Jess DelBalzo mentioned your compilation on "Adopted Killers." You have a couple I missed and I've documented a 24 adopted kids who killed their adoptive parents plus a long list of serial killers in my book, "BORN LOSERS (Billion Dollar Babies in America's Foster Care, Adoption, Prison System.)" Am working on my web-site for this and other Access Press "anti-adoption" and other books. Let me know if you'd like book flyers and info about Americans For Open R cords (AmFOR) mailed in the meantime....10,000 families reunited in 10 years @ no charge... I just got on-line and may need to change my e-mail address from lcarangelo@earthlink.net to simply carangelo@earthlink.net (no "l")..so if one fails, try the oth r. Best wishes, -Lori

- 05/21/99 17:34:52

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wow. you seem so bitter. i wish there was a way for you to feel better.

[GhostDancer: Bitter. That's an interesting choice of words. Betrayal and trauma do tend to foster anger -- which can be useful if focused properly. I wish there was some way for me to feel better too, but the damage has been done. One thing that is h lping is educating people about the harm that adoption does to families and adoptees. It helps to feel that I can use my pain to stop others from experiencing the same grief that I had to.]

Tawnya Littlelight - 04/23/99 19:31:08
My Email:BLittlelyt@aol.com

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As your daughter-in-law, I find this very fascinating to read and learn so much about you and your trials....Brandon and I love you very much.....Tawnya.

Dani - 04/18/99 16:06:51
My Email:danirik@worldnet.att.net

Comments:
:-)

Lady Marie - 04/15/99 06:06:59
My URL:http://www.angelfire.com/ne/blackwidowspi83/index.html
My Email:ladymarie80@hotmail.com

Comments:
Hello... loved my visit to your home....It is very beautiful..thank you for making the web a more interesting place... Would love for you to stop by my most humble home.... Warmest Regards.. Lady Marie

mike - 04/06/99 03:11:08
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/~mag_lite
My Email:mag_lite@geocities.com

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Sharon Shubert - 11/01/98 20:36:17
My Email:Sharon2849@aol.com
What do you like about my page?: It is informative&easy to read
What don't you like about my page?: My Birthmom wasn't on there.
What would you like to see more of here?: More birth families searching

Comments:
Need to find my Birth family. (named Weir). I was born in Reno, NV in 1952, at St.Mary's hospital. Dr. L.E.Lombarde attending. Catholic family was breaking up and they gave me up for adoption. I have brothers and sisters. Mom or Dad et al. please contact e, before my transplant surgery. Thank you for giving me life. My arms are Open.

kathie - 10/20/98 15:12:23
My URL:http://ivillage.com/misc/kathrinemary
My Email:kathrine@ptd.net
What do you like about my page?: enjoyable experience on the whole
What would you like to see more of here?: Your personal experiences coping

Comments:
I feel almost speechless after reading 'your' story. Rape. Its not a word that many people use. I don't, I was. I was 13. I have trouble remembering to. Gaps in space. Someone says something and you have a flash of memory. Its a God awful experien e. God Bless you for surviving.

10/13/98 07:57:47

Name: Bad Bunny	My URL: Visit Me
My Email: Email Me

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Just surfing. Thanks.

Cindy - 08/31/98 11:55:10 My URL:http://www.zecrets.com My Email:elalla@hotmail.com comment: Nice page... see the magazine at the url above!!

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NightRaven - 08/30/98 22:35:50
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Vienna/Strasse/6196
My Email:kylea@hotmail.com
What do you like about my page?: it struck a chord with me, as i, too, am a survivor of child abuse, adoption, and rape...
What don't you like about my page?: my taste runs a little darker for decor, but otherwise, nothing.
What would you like to see more of here?: pictures?

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you signed my guestbook, telling me that my name came up in a search you did about adoption. i'm curious as to the details of the information you found. please e-mail me...?

Susan - 08/06/98 15:48:31
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Athens/Ithaca/4073/
My Email:goldnpot@aol.com
What do you like about my page?: It can help others

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It's nice to see other people share their rape stories, it can help other victims heal.

Laurie - 07/24/98 20:31:27
My URL:http://www.tir.com/~lildove
My Email:lildove@tir.com
What do you like about my page?: Everything
What don't you like about my page?: Absolutely nothing!
What would you like to see more of here?: Whatever your heart and soul will allow

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Beautiful...absolutely beautiful. Your site has touched my soul!

Lynn Casey - 07/09/98 20:18:04
My Email:bscasey@aol.com
What do you like about my page?: I like the pictures. I like your honesty and vulnerability.
What don't you like about my page?: I don't like jumping from page to page, I'm lazy and like it all on one. AOL loads slow too.
What would you like to see more of here?: The rest of your story.

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Miss you.

MaryLynne - 06/25/98 23:31:54
My Email:mlsmith@ivillage.com
What do you like about my page?: Content!!
What would you like to see more of here?: a link to a support group for birthmothers - something I am looking for

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I'm a birthmother, too. Almost 5 years ago, we decided to search for my birthdaughter who was then 32. Reunion is an incredible, joyful, and to me miraculous experience. When we found her, she was married with 3 children so I went from being grandma to on to grandma to 4. My daughter and son that I raised have become close to their sister and we are now a true extended family. The side I never talk about is the pain that still comes up. We relate so well and sometimes it just hits me again how very much we lost. She has a good relationship with her mom and dad. Reunion isn't about replacing them. I just want to be part of her l fe from now on. My own mother is now 91 years old. I am very aware that motherhood does not last for 18 years but for a lifetime. I have read and reread the relinquishment papers I signed. Nowhere does it say in the documents that I would never search, or that I agreed to forever stay away. Why do some people think I broke some sort of agreement when we decided to search? I identified so much with your writing! I too was passive. I too did not realize I had ANY power and the people at the home for unwed mo hers certainly did not give me any information to the contrary. I signed the most important papers of my life without legal representation and completely unaware of my legal rights. This was NOT an informed consent! I could go on and on...thank you so mu h for your page!!!!

Debbie - 06/24/98 20:33:06
My Email:bigheart@ncia.net
What do you like about my page?: EVERYTHING

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Thank you for putting up all the info you have. I am sure it is a big help to many who may feel that there is no help for them out there.And also that there is someone who has been through alot of things like they have. Hugs and Love Debbie aka Dirtybear

sharon - 06/01/98 03:22:30
My Email:slgariel@worldnet.att.net
What do you like about my page?: the bird; i hadn't noticed the bird's movement the first two times I looked at your page. The bird is magical.

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I also realized that you mentioned you write short stories, too. So do I. I'm finishing a book fo them this summer in order to complete an MFA in fiction. Thanks for the bird. I really needed to see it.

sharon, again - 05/29/98 02:01:39
My Email:slgariel@worldnet.att.net

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Kay, the poem, "Drinking in the Desert" is quite good. I'd like to see more. Can I send some of mine?

The Pie - 05/28/98 22:40:12
My URL:http://home.earthlink.net/~rachelein
My Email:renate@hotmail.com
What do you like about my page?: honesty
What don't you like about my page?: honesty

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Hi, just dropped by.

sharon - 05/28/98 22:21:23
My Email:slgariel@worldnet.att.net
What do you like about my page?: as I said before, your open manner
What don't you like about my page?: I like it in full
What would you like to see more of here?: poetry/prose

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Keep writing and sharing. How brave of you. How open.

sharon - 05/28/98 22:12:11
My Email:slgariel@worldnet.att.net
What do you like about my page?: your openness

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Rhonda Skipper - 05/28/98 20:55:36
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Wellesley/Garden/2395/
My Email:rooster@cupid.com
What do you like about my page?: I got your address from the survivors emailer, Have strenght and courage, I hope one day I can face my fears as you have, and grow from it. br> What don't you like about my page?: it's a great page!

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Thanks for having such a great page. Your links on child abuse and rape crisis were some of the best I've seen. Thanks for being there.

Lori Batsford - 05/28/98 20:38:50
My Email:laureen_b@yahoo.com
What do you like about my page?: everything!!!!
What don't you like about my page?: I couldn't stop reading!
What would you like to see more of here?: More writing. You write so well.

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Ann Hendricks - 05/26/98 01:44:41
My URL:http://www.lacasaphotos.com
My Email:lacasa@netwizards.net
What do you like about my page?: love the pic w/carl
What don't you like about my page?: nothing
What would you like to see more of here?: your writing!!!

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really enjoyed seeing your page, Kay. Good job and I like the way you are reaching out to help others with problems. Takes guts. Your poem is especially nice - hope you do lots more with your writing.

Melvin and Julie Arp - 05/26/98 00:35:09
My Email:arpster@netkonnect.net
What would you like to see more of here?: Dealing with Relatives, confronting your abuser, deciding whether you want to maintain a relationship with your abuser fter confrontation

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Don't really think there are any critisisms it is all useful to someone. Everyone benifits from something that is on the page in one way or another.

Sandi - 05/19/98 04:49:47
What do you like about my page?: I love the animated bird!
What don't you like about my page?: I'm not sure I agree with all of your views on adoption--I think sometimes it can be a positive thing.
What would you like to see more of here?: More about your life and experiences--sharing your strength is a good thing!

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annie - 05/15/98 11:54:46
My Email:annie@mhv.net
What do you like about my page?: i love the flying bird

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Belynda Freestone - 05/15/98 01:23:05
My Email:neilsen@hartingdale.com.au
What do you like about my page?: the pic of you and Carl:)
What don't you like about my page?: nothing
What would you like to see more of here?: pictures

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Very kewl sight you have here Kay...I came here because you told me to..and I'm glad I did!! Belynda..the weird one...

Erin (winnie) - 05/13/98 21:21:03
My URL:http://pages.prodigy.com/LifeHelpLine
My Email:erichard@plains.nodak.edu

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Thank you for adding the Dove :) Sunshine, Erin

Helen of LS - 05/11/98 03:33:16
My URL:http://www.angelfire.com/hi/herdreaming/
My Email:l_sheep@hotmail.com

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Hi, I just wanted to thank you for being part of the fight against child abuse. I wish that there were more people like you!

Sally - 05/10/98 19:18:12
My URL:http://www.ieway.com
My Email:srussell@ieway.com
What do you like about my page?: Very neat, not cluttered
What don't you like about my page?: nothing

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Jess - 05/06/98 23:58:17
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/CapitolHill/Senate/5991/
My Email:JDelBalzo@aol.com
What do you like about my page?: Everything, Kay!
What don't you like about my page?: It's wonderful -- what's not to like?
What would you like to see more of here?: Maybe some of your poetry -- that's beautiful!

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Kay, You know I think you're wonderful. You give me credit for being brave, but it's nothing compared to your courage. I stand up against something I haven't been part of, but you're able to fight a system that you've been in for years. Thank you for he link and the quote, but most of all thank you for being such a wonderful friend. Love, Jess

Wally - 05/05/98 23:02:21
My URL:http://www.ieway.com/~russellg
My Email:russellg@ieway.com

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Hi Kay! Very nice work on your page...really coming along well. Keep up the great work!! -Wally ;)

Carl - 05/04/98 10:39:53
My URL:http://www.ieway.com/~russlc
My Email:russlc@ieway.com
What do you like about my page?: its well done good writing!!!
What don't you like about my page?: background color
What would you like to see more of here?: more links to like pages

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Your a very good writer kay i could feel your pain I wish i could of been there to help you. I love you, Carl

Ana - 05/04/98 02:55:18
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Wellesley/8827/index.html
My Email:miyu24@hotmail.com
What do you like about my page?: It's a beautifull touching story!

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I found you're page very interesting! I am glad to see adoption from the mothers point of view. It gives me hope that my mother misses me as well! I also totally agree with you! When I was adopted, I knew full well who my real parents were, and why I wa n't living with them. I think it is definatly better that way!

Cindy AKA Lucinda - 05/02/98 14:45:21
My Email:lucinda1@sedona.net
What do you like about my page?: Great links Kay
What don't you like about my page?: All looks great

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Kay - I have a face to put with the name now!!! Cool :-) Your page looks great. Lots of really useful information and your story is done very well. Good going.

Kay - 04/26/98 03:44:54

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This is me. Just checking to see if it works.