Treating you children all equally is important for the child to grow up feeling loved and having self-confidence. But, what do you do when you tell one child to do something and they listen without a fuss and another complains and fights about it. And even worse, what do you do when the child that fusses also has a mental condition that she might harm herself if she is upset? This is the case with my sister and my parents seem to think that the answer is to do everything that this child wants just to be careful not to upset her. Here is an example, the other night we are at dinner. I asked my sister what she ate the previous night when she went out to dinner with her friends. She answered fries. I asked her why that’s all that she had, I had no motives behind it and it was not asked in a sarcastic way, I was simply making conversation. My sister jumps down my throat, starts screaming at me tell me it is none of my business and to just leave her alone. I did not understand her reaction, but I just told her to shut up. Again, she starts screaming at me for saying that to her, saying things like "No, why should I". My father and mother both start yelling at me for upsetting her. Then a big fight breaks out because of this. My father says to me that I am all of the problems in the house and my sister is not a part of it at all. (This is because me being gay seems to be worse than her cutting school, doing drugs, drinking, smoking, and cutting herself). Then afterwards my mother says to me "I don’t know how you can live with yourself, upsetting her like that". In the same breath she asked me to help her with the dishes, something my sister has never, ever done. My sister is 16 years old and she can come and go as she pleases. I am 19 years old and I still have to be home by 1:00AM and tell my parents where I am constantly. This is all fine, I don’t mind them caring about me but I don’t think that the way they are handling my sister. They are spoiling her more and for what I can see, it isn’t helping.